The God Who Sees with Karen Gonzalez / Transcript

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Karen 0:00 

Yeah, so we have this term that I did not coin, it was coined by other Latinex theologians, and it's called Abuelita theology or grandmother theology. And basically what it says is that our faith is passed down, informally, by our mothers and our grandmothers. They become the ones who teach us about the faith, who teach us about faith traditions, and who really instill in us the sense of faith. And it's worked out in the everyday. Sometimes it's called kitchen theology, because, you know, you could be chopping onions or mopping the floor and having a conversation. And, really, it's a theology of survival because what you see here in the US, you know, I write about my grandmother, she did not have the luxury of sitting in a seminary class talking about theology or you know, what does it mean when you know, good people suffer or anything like that. She only had her everyday life. She worked as a domestic worker in Los Angeles for this wealthy family as a live in housekeeper. And she worked out her faith in the everyday in the ordinary tasks, as she's seeking survival. Because she's not thriving she's just surviving, you know, kind of breaking even. I talked about that in the book too, how many immigrants; this is where we're at. But that's what she passed down to us, you know, this, this faith of survival. You know, she didn't have even a high school diploma. But she had this PhD in Abuelita theology, you know, of being able to really pass down the resilience, you know, that she had because of her faith, the strength that she received from God because of the faith. So yeah, that's what that's about.  

Seth Price 2:00 

The United States is something larger than we choose to admit that we are—we’re a nation, and we're entirely powerful. And with that power, comes a lot of strings. People look to us for leadership. And we like to think that we're good leaders, but we're not. Look down at the border, turn on the news and see the people that we turn away, especially my Christian Brothers and sisters, we have a faith that we don't do well. We're called to love people and yet immigration is an issue that politically, and not politically, I mean, even in the church, we discuss it in a way that we have a vehement hate for what I'll call “the other” and it's awful. I'm Seth, welcome to the Can I Say This At Church podcast. today's conversation is about that. Karen Gonzalez has written a beautiful book about a Christian view of immigration and theology that challenges my own theology that speaks to a truth that I find beautiful and challenging. So I hope that you enjoy this conversation.  

Seth Price 3:46 

Karen, thank you so much for joining the Can I Say This At Church podcast. I've become a big fan of yours, mostly on Twitter, a little bit on Facebook, but I like the things that you say. And you have a book coming out. I believe in, is it April?  

Karen 4:02 

May 21!

Seth Price 4:04 

Dang it. Well, in May, that's fine. I was close. I was going from memory. And that book is also fantastic. And so I'm excited to have you on the show to discuss some of the, well, I'm trying to rightly phrase my thoughts on the book. So there’s so much in here that is deeply personal. And so there's a lot of theology in here. But there's a lot of you in here, which I think makes the greatest books, but they also are the hardest books to read and sometimes talk about. So thank you for making the time to come on the show.  

Karen 4:34 

Thank you, Seth. It's great to be here. I've been a fan of the show and appreciated a lot of conversations I've heard here.

Seth Price 4:41 

I appreciate that a lot.  

There will be people I'm certain that are unfamiliar with you, and possibly unfamiliar with the organization I believe you've worked with in the past or you might still work with World Relief, but before we get there, what is it that makes Karen tick if in for those that haven't read the book yet, and No, you haven't, because it isn't out yet. A lot of that is in there. But just in brief, what is made you, the woman that you are today?  

Karen 5:07 

Well, that's a great question. And I think a lot of things have, but a lot of what I've come to realize has made me is my journey of immigration, encountering God through that experience. And then also, since I've been working with World Relief, advocating and serving with the immigrant community. And I want to be careful to differentiate that from serving the immigrant community from serving alongside. And so I've been able to see what it's like to have my own community advocate for themselves and with allie, but also they're feeling empowered to advocate for their inclusion and welcome into this country; and also for the message of the neutrality of immigration, that there's blessing in it, both for the citizen that's welcoming and the immigrant is being received.  

Seth Price 6:15 

In the book, you walk through your upbringing and I really like how you keep revisiting what I'm going to loosely call the sacraments, you know, baptism and the Eucharist. I'm curious kind of your faith journey because you started out, well, it seems like your parents weren't extremely the most religious, but you started out kind of in the Catholic faith and then what sect or denomination do you have now? Like, what is what is home for you?  

Karen 6:42 

So I attend an African American Lutheran Church. And I know that sounds like what‽ But it's a city church here in Baltimore. And I did start out in the Catholic Church and then moved toward The Conservative Evangelical Church and the young adult. And after seminary, I went to Fuller Seminary, I found my way back to more liturgical churches. And I would say the church that I attend now is a beautiful combination of, you know, black church tradition, as well as Lutheran liturgy and theology. And really what drew me there was that it's fully inclusive. It includes women and leadership and includes the LGBTQ community at all levels. But it's also a church made up primarily of people of color. And that's also sacred.

Seth Price 7:40 

Yeah, I often, as I look out from my church, often there's just so much, not that there's anything wrong with so much homogenization, is that the right word like there's just so much at the same at my church. And one of the things I think that we're good at sometimes is not assigning token roles to those that aren't necessarily white. Like just letting them be, and fit in. Because I have, I have a friend that used to play drums with us. And she would be like, I hate that; and she's African American, and every time that we have a song or something that has to have a different flair, I'm the token black person or the token, whatever that has to do the African drum beat or the, whatever, whatever, for Black History Month. And she’s like it just annoys me that I'm the token person that has to do that. So I would love if every church was a mix of everything, but I honestly don't know if that's ever gonna happen. If I'm talking out loud, that's very sad. That's not why I brought you on. I don't want to be sad. 

So your book, The God Who Sees I like that a lot, especially because I didn't really ever and so that plays on Ishmael and Hagar those at least from as reading it. I didn't know that that's what those words meant. And like you I don't really know what my name means. I don't know if I care or not, but I'm probably gonna go But I still don't know what it means. But I know I don't know what it feels like to be an immigrant. And I don't know what it feels like to not actually already fit in with the way that the world is programmed to work. And as I get older, I've realized how true that is and how wrong that is but that doesn't mean it's also not currently true. It's a problem that needs to be fixed. And so at the beginning of your book, you kind of walk through, you know, Ruth and Naomi and how, if they showed up today at the border, like they wouldn't qualify for this Visa, they definitely wouldn't qualify to enter the country for “this”. 

I wanted you for those listening to kind of break down you know, as we talk about these church figures and these religious figures and these pillars of examples that we learn from, hopefully weekly at church but at least sometimes during the year that we would not, if they showed up today coming up, you know in the caravans that are coming up semi frequently. We would have the same issues today that if we treated them like that then maybe these stories wouldn't even exist in the Bible. But I'd love if you could break that apart because I didn't know half of that, especially the way immigration works and Visas work and the U-Visas like, I didn't know any of that. So I read those portions a couple times like this is I like new information. This is fantastic.  

Karen 10:24 

Yeah. 

You know, I love the story of Ruth and I always have I talked in the book about encountering it for the first time. And it had never been taught to me as a book that was about the story of immigrants. First, Naomi and her husband immigrate to Moab. Then when tragedy and famine strike, she immigrates back to her homeland, and she brings an immigrant woman with her a more white daughter in law, who is Ruth and the way that Ruth is treated when she comes to my Moab, to me is remarkable. You know, reading the Bible you read so many times when the Israelites refused to obey God, refused to obey God's commands and laws, and they ended up sometimes, you know, in exile as a result of it. And that's a story that's really common. And over and over again, you see God's grace and God's call to bring his people back, sending prophet after prophet to bring them back. 

But in the story of Ruth, you have people of Judah, do exactly what God says. They welcomed Ruth. She's allowed to go onto fields to glean. She's allowed to have Sabbath just like God says she should. She shares a table with them. She's protected. She's not, you know, a victim of violence or harassment in the field because she's a foreigner. And she's welcomed to such a degree that she marries, you know, someone from that community. And we know for so she ends up in the lineage of Jesus, she becomes a great grandmother of King David. And it’s a remarkable story. 

But I did want to draw readers to what would happen if rather than coming to Judah, when Ruth arrived at our border, and these are all the ways that people can enter our country, and she wouldn't qualify for any of them should be turned away, and she returned to Moab. Or she would die in the desert, or she would die in the famine. We don't know what would happen to her Naomi would enter because Naomi’s a citizen, and she's an older woman who's a widow, as we know, these are people who suffer great marginalization and poverty in the ancient world. Who knows what will happen to Naomi as well? And I really wanted to draw the reader's attention to that. Of course, they lived in the ancient world where these things, these laws that we have are not an effect. But I wanted people to know that of all the ways that are available to an immigrant to migrate, Ruth would not qualify.  

Seth Price 13:21 

So there's a line that you write just I like the word, there’s a line that you write in your book that says that there is bad Mojo between Moab and Israel. I don't know enough Old Testament. I just don't. Why is there that bad Mojo and then is there anything like that today? Like if we think about immigrants, at least coming into America, because that's where I live and so that's what most I have impact on. Like, what would be a correlate…correlate….I don't know that that word is a correlating Mojo to other countries and how would that into play?  

Karen 13:55 

So for the Israelites, I mean, the moment descended from Lots incestuous union with his daughters. And because of that they were banned from the assembly, Israelites were forbidden to marry more white women. I mean, they had a lot of disdain for them. And the only thing I can correlate with the New Testament is the way that people in the New Testament felt about Samaritans, right, very similar dynamic. But in our context, it might be more like the way many Americans feel about Muslims. This kind of suspicion, almost discussed and this, you know, kind of worries about national security. And along, you know, the border people might feel that way about Central Americans and Mexicans that are coming in. And just the sense of, you know, "this is our country”. You remember that journalist who recently said, you know, he's talking About the “browning of America”, and he was really concerned about having brown grandbabies. So this kind of language is very similar to what we see with the Moabites and the people of Judah.  

Seth Price 15:16 

Yeah. Well, I remember that journalist saying that, and I can remember other things said against, and it always strikes me as odd that it's always Muslims that are picked on, as if there aren't other religions and other cultures that that also could, I guess, be a threat, quote, unquote, to Christianity. But you don't hear people yelling about Sikhs, you don't hear people really yelling about Buddhists or Hindus, or for some reason, it's always quote unquote, “illegal immigrants” or “Muslims” and everyone else is fine. These are the only threat that matter. That may just be because the circles that I run in, just repeat what's on Fox News, and maybe that's all they care about. And so maybe that's all that I think that people care about. Maybe that's just a bad input coming into my feeds. But I feel like America as a whole really only has an issue with those handful of people. Which is funny because there is no way to stop using his words the browning of America because overall, there are I mean, people…people have so many different colors. It doesn't really matter what it's white is not. I don't know, it's a stupid analogy. It's, it's a dumb thing to say. 

But also, I mean, Muslims are coming to America, regardless of whether or not we want them to. And if we don't prepare for it, it's gonna be an awful thing. Like you have to figure out a way to integrate with people that don't necessarily agree with you on everything without blowing each other up, or yelling each other, or picking fights with each other or building fences in between our property lines, like we want to build walls along our government lines. I feel like when I watch people bicker about all that it's like me watching my children bicker. Like I'm not entirely certain why y'all are arguing about this, this doesn't really matter who's holding the remote or it doesn't really matter what God you're praying to. Let's talk about this. Let's figure out what we can learn from each other. And possibly love each other.

Karen 17:18 

Right! And the fact that it’s a simple thing that happens all the time. You know, we have these movements back and forth from welcoming immigrants and reveling in this, you know, legacy of our nation as one of immigrants, which I have trouble with that because it erases black Americans brought here in chains and it erases Indigenous people who have always been here. But we seem to have this sort of immigrant amnesia groups. As every new group has come to America, they've experienced the same thing. It's almost, you know, there was the same attitude toward Italians, toward Polish people, toward Eastern European Jewish people. No, no, yeah, that's the kind of movement from xenophobia to philoxenia back and forth of like you know, reveling in our past but being suspicious of current immigrants.

Seth Price 18:03 

So it's like you knew where I wanted to go because in bold here, you can't see it but in bold because I can't make my notes show up on my laptop, so I have a new wrote down Boaz practices true hospitality, which I think is the hope and the goal for Christians today, where you say "philoxenia, as it's called in the New Testament, is a love of strangers and foreigners versus xenophobia”, which is the exact opposite, but I don't honestly think that many people especially and I feel like you're similar in age to me, you know, under 40. Those aren't words that we really talk about, or even know what they mean. And I think other people operate from one of those two extremes and they don't even know that they are. And so what does that mean to act as with a with a posture of philoxenia, as opposed to xenophobia?   

Karen 19:00 

Philoxenia is really a love and welcome of immigrants. And it really stems from just the way that many of us give to the church, out of obedience to God and out of trust, that there will be enough. That God will provide for us despite our generosity. It's the same with philoxenia except we're giving of our country, we're giving a lot of resources, and we're giving up our very selves. And so it's trusting in God, that there will be enough resources for us that our countries will and then it won't take from us in any way, right to welcome immigrants. And so we welcome them into our communities. We treat them justly. We allow them to work without exploitation. 

You know, in Ruth, you see that Ruth does the work that everyone else does. But I know in my city in Baltimore, immigrants do the work nobody else wants to do? And that is different from what you see in the ancient world, you know, God said, Yes, agricultural work it's very hard work. But it's exactly the kind of work everybody else is doing. So it's not especially difficult for her because she's an immigrant. And there's no exploitation. There's no “Oh, we're gonna take this from you”. 

I have a good friend who was just telling me about her uncle who worked for a Christian man for 20 years. Her uncle was an immigrant from Mexico. And after 20 years, he changed jobs. And when he changed jobs, he went up to his boss, and he said, I think you made a mistake with my paycheck. You didn't take out the 10% for the church. And the man was like, “what!” He's like, “yes, my previous boss always took 10% of my salary to give to the church”. And his current boss was like, “that's illegal. No, that's not right. And it's your money if you want to give 10% of it to the church. Sure, go ahead”. 

But we hear stories like this all the time of immigrants, and that's the biggest crime committed against immigrants is wage theft and mistreatment at work. It's very, very common. But what you see in the book of Ruth, is she gets the same protections as every other citizen. She does the same kind of work. She's treated with dignity. She's treated with respect, she's protected like every other worker. It's really the way it should be for all of us, because I think even in that case, you know, the oppressor loses his or her own humanity in oppressing the immigrant and taking, you know, from them. And of course, the immigrant is exploited and is robbed of wages they rightfully earned, and mistreated. Yeah, I think the way that our system exists currently this outdated immigration system that we have, it creates these conditions that are ripe for exploitation?  

Seth Price 22:02 

This isn't a theological question but I wanted to ask you because you have more knowledge on the subject than I do. If you could change one thing about our immigration system like today, tomorrow, it's law, and it's done, and anything that doesn't fit into that law is immediately absolved. If you could change one thing, Karen, what would it be like? This is what I've done. And it's done. For me in banking, it would be redlining, if I got rid of redlining and make it effective in history. So many of the populations in the way that we apportion schools, and tax revenue, and dollars, and gerrymandering, so much of that would be different that the entire climate and landscape of America would look different, just from getting rid of redlining. If you don't know what redlining is, and you're listening, I'm sorry, I usually don't talk about banking, but that's actually what I get paid to do for a living. So if you could do that, Karen, with immigration, what would it be? What's the one thing that you're like this is the thing that when I pull this lever lives are changed immediately and irrevocably? 

Karen 23:05 

So if I could change one thing about immigration, it would be the racial component that made up most federal laws until the Immigration and Nationality Act, which occurred during the 60s. But prior to that law, every other federal immigration law had a racial component to it. The Chinese Exclusion Act, you know, excluded, of course, Chinese people, other acts excluded Southern Europeans, excluded Asian Americans, excluded Latinos, you might have heard of Operation Wetback and the way that it tried to keep Mexicans from crossing the border

Seth Price 23:47

Is that the actual name?  

Karen 23:48 

That's the actual name.  

Seth Price 23:51 

Oh my Lord! No, I have not heard of that. That is, oh my gosh! I'm from Texas and so I know how bad of a word that is. Like that's just an awful word.  

Karen 24:00

It's a terrible word. And it's now considered this terrible slur. But that's what it was actually called by our government. And so if I could go back and and throughout all history affect that change, lives will be transformed families reunited, you know, it would change the whole game.  

Seth Price 24:25 

I want to say this, right? So when you get into some of your upbringing, you talk about your baptism. And you go and you revisit baptism a couple times along with some of the other sacraments. as I alluded to earlier, there's a part where you say, and so I wrote this down, “wishing we could return to a faith of childhood faith when it was easy faith when we didn't know what the words meant”. And then after that, you say something that I would like you to break apart. And so you say “though, I had little understanding of this sacred initiation into the church”, and by that I believe you mean baptism in the Catholic Church. So "though I had little understanding of this sacred initiation into The Church, the body of Christ, it was a beginning. Baptism set me on a path toward knowing God”. I've never really heard baptism done that way. Because the way I was baptized, it was my choice. And so can you break that apart? Like, how did something from possibly when I don't even remember how old you were, but you had to be young? 

Karen 25:18 

I was like six months old or something?  

Seth Price 25:20 

So how can something that happens in that way, especially when you've said that your parents don't really, you know, aren't really practicing, I guess, is probably the best word. And if I'm wrong on that, correct me, how would it…how could that be the beginning on setting you toward a path?  

Karen 25:36 

Sure. Well, I firmly believe that most Protestants, particularly those outside of mainline denominations, really misunderstand baptism in you know, in the church historically. And of course, I'm talking about the Catholic Church, the Eastern Orthodox Church, even the early Protestant church, it was seen as a sacred rite of initiation into the church. And the reason that infants were baptized is because it was seen as the parents having this desire, right to dedicate this child, to the church and to committing to raising this child within the church and its values. And so, my parents were not really Christian. They were nominal Catholics, cultural Catholics I would say, and so they baptized me as more of a tradition than anything. But the interesting thing is that I have always felt drawn to God because in fact, even though it did not mean anything to them, other than celebration of family, it didn't mean anything spiritually—God knew me. And there was a sense of calling and longing for God that I always had an interest in knowing God. And being part of the church, you know, I went to Catholic schools. I went to Catholic parish and I did my first communion there. I mean, you're around this environment where you are, you know, I read the same thing about the prosperity gospel, believe it or not, that a lot of people will go to these prosperity gospel churches, you know churches where they preach like God came to give us health and wealth… 

Seth Price 27:23 

mmhhmm.

I’m not a fan.  

Karen 27:24 

And initially, you know, of course, they're excited by this idea. But then a lot of these are Protestant churches, where you start to read the Bible and you encounter Jesus. Even though the church itself may be unhealthy and maybe promoting theology is extremely harmful you can still encounter Jesus in an environment like that. And it was very similar for me. 

You know, my parents were not interested. But that baptism, I always know about it, and I've seen pictures of it, and it set me on this path for knowing God. When people ask me, I was like, “Yes, I was baptized in the Catholic church” because the second baptism that I talked about in the book, I see more as a confirmation because by then I did have understanding.

Seth Price 28:46

I can distinctly remember, you know, as a child being baptized and it being a big deal. I mean, my son was just baptized in the fall of last year and it's such a good thing. Because I mean, we do have those discussions and so yeah, when I read that, like it just didn't click in my head because again, of my upbringing and the way I was raised and the fact that there's so few, at least where I was from, there's just so few Catholics, at least that I was aware of. Although I feel like there's a bigger presence in that, because where I'm from in Texas, there's a huge, you know, Mexican American and just Mexican population period. One of my best friends in high school, you know, quote, unquote, “converted” out of Catholicism and Protestantism, I don't know if converted is the right word. But that's the word he would use. So I'll steal that from him. When I read that I was just not confused but more like I don’t…these two pieces don't fit together well, in my head. 

One of the things that's heartbreaking and heartbreaking because I've also seen it happen locally, and I've discussed it with people happening locally is so many people that are here now that are immigrants they don't report crimes, because if they report crimes, they're instantly going to be you know, ICE is going to come and pick them up and break apart families. And you tell a couple stories in that and one of the ones that I like the most that you tell why I don't like let me get this straight. I like the way you tell the story. The story itself is awful, is a guy named Francisco that was arrested and ultimately deported because he was asleep. Instead of driving drunk, he decided to just get sleep-just go to sleep, but just be in the car keys not in the ignition so he can't be accused of driving. And then he just didn't know what the law was. And honestly, I as I was thinking back to like my college days, like I did that often. 

Like, I probably shouldn't drive right now. I'll fall asleep until I wake up and I'll be fine. And it just breaks apart of family. And then you go on to relate that to Abraham is the criminal immigrant which is not a way I've ever in my entire life heard Abraham presented to anyone, in any way shape or form. And then as you walk through, I don't know if these are your words or mine. I feel like they're mine. But I put “the punk is willing to sacrifice his wife for survival”. And that might be your words. I don't remember. But he basically sex trafficked his wife not once but twice. And I don't think anyone usually talks about that. And if they do, I'm unfamiliar with it. What do you mean when you're saying that Abraham is a criminal immigrant? 

Karen 31:17 

Yes. And I say that knowing how deeply uncomfortable that makes people. And I say that understanding Abraham's full story and the fears that he had coming into a foreign land. But Abraham and his wife because of famine, it's always need that prompts people to migrate. And in Abraham's case, it's famine and it's the call of God. (He) arrives in Egypt, there was probably some sort of, you know, ancient sort of gates at the, at the, you know, edges of the land, or some sort of, you know, common road that many people took since Egypt was a very common place to go to in times of famine because of the Nile and fact that they didn't suffer the same when there was a lack of rain in the land. 

And so, when he enters he, he presents a half truth. He says Sarah is his sister, which is a very convenient truth, but she's also his wife. And so he commits this fraud to enter this land. And then he basically tell Sarah, you know, they're gonna kill me because of you because you're beautiful and because they'll want to have you and so, basically go along with this for my sake. So she does and she's taken into Pharaoh's palace and Abraham grows extremely wealthy as a result. You know, we read in the text that he gained flocks, he gained land, he gained all of these things, while Sarah suffered sexual abuse and exploitation right and at the, at the hands of Pharaoh. And so our modern standards he commits fraud, entering crossing into a new land. And he commits human trafficking by sacrificing his wife for his own well being. 

And most of us would say, you know, not only are those crimes today, but morally we would say, you know, to save himself he allowed Sarah to suffer. So it’s an extremely troubling part of the story and not a story, as you know, as you pointed out, that's usually focused on. And while it's uncomfortable, we also understand why he made these choices. You know, there was great fear, probably right, he probably would have been killed or enslaved or who knows what might have happened to him if he had said, This is my beautiful wife and I'm entering into your land. And so we take all these factors and we consider the whole story of Abraham. This is why he made these choices and in spite of this, in spite of these transgressions, God kept the promise to Abraham.  

Seth Price 34:04 

The tension that I had with that was (that) so many people read the Bible in a way that gives them permission to act in a way that they were already going to. Yeah, I think that's the best way to say that. So, you know, if you talk about slavery or women can't be in ministry, because there's this one passage that says that they can't and so overall they're not allowed to forget all the other women in the Bible that actually were leaders in ministry; forget about them because of this one thin. And my fear is what if it was okay for Abraham? Because we know the whole story, how would it possibly not be okay for today, with if we know the whole story three or four generations from now, if some guy in Chile, or some guy in India, or some woman in Russia, basically gets into any country because of that, how would it not possibly be okay in the same lens?  

Karen 35:06 

Mm hmm. 

Really what at the point that I was drawing there, it's not that Abraham is an example for us to follow or even that laws are not important—because I believe that they are and they're written to guide us and protect us. Even God's laws are given for that same purpose. So it's not given as a model, but more as a these are the mitigating circumstances that drove Abraham to these desperate, wrong actions. And reading them I understand why he took those actions, I still think it's wrong. And I still think he should have trusted it his God, that his God could have finally found a way out of that situation. But do I think that this is a model for other people to follow in terms of well, you know, Abraham, it's so it's okay for me? I think there is a sense in the text, the fact that this story is shared, that this was wrong. That, you know, we get this well rounded perspective on Abraham. It's kind of like finding out what a misogynist and anti-semite Martin Luther was. It's like, okay, this is really horrible. But also he was a human being he was not, you know, Jesus, right. 

And it's the same thing with Abraham. We get a well rounded view of a complicated human being who did some terrible things for survival. And so I liken it to, you know, we extend this sort of grace to Abraham because we know his whole story, and we know about his journey with God. And he's a model of faith. But when we have someone like Francisco who didn't know you could get a DUI with a car turned off and the keys in your pocket, napping…

Seth Price 36:54 

And actually not driving. 

Karen 36:56 

And actually not driving! (Not) someone who crosses the border because their family's starving. So these are not actions that are even harming other human beings. You know, you're just he's just sleep napping in his car, letting the alcohol wear off, just seeking survival crossing across the border, which by the way, still considered a criminal misdemeanor. And yet, people take that as criminal, you know, this is a criminal person, they broke the law, and they want to enact these really harsh consequences. You know, what Francisco suffered is a real tragedy to me, because in every other way, other than having crossed the border and taking a nap in his car, he was a model citizen with within the US in the way that he lived his life in terms of citizenship, you know, his care of his neighbors, and yet, he still suffered this deportation.  

Seth Price 37:56 

Yeah, there's two more things that I really want to touch on. But before I do, you as a person have a lot of knowledge on the way that specifically when we're talking about the immigrant population coming to America today, that the policies that we have done as Americans have greatly impacted the reasonings that they come here. And then I find as I try to educate people on that, I'm an entirely uneffective. And so one of the favorite episodes that I've done is a multi part series with Paul Thomas on Oscar Romero. And I learned so much in that. 

Karen 38:30

I loved that! 

Seth Price 38:32

Yeah, there's multiple parts. I think only one part is live everywhere. But so much of that I'll tell people that and then they just don't believe me. And so as a human, not necessarily read into the book that changed the way that I view immigration. Because I still used to say one thing, but then I still had attention on the way that I acted. But the more history that I get, the more I'm like, Oh my gosh, this is my fault. Not my fault, but my as Americans fault and there's a responsibility, not to right that wrong, but a responsibility to not perpetuate more wrongness and a responsibility to reap what we sowed, I guess for lack of a better word. 

So how do you speak to people that just don't have that history? Like what's the best avenue for people to dive into or to converse about that without it becoming a name calling session? Or a, you just don't like Republicans, or you just don't like Democrats or you just don't like people from Venezuela or you just, because that's what it ends up being for me, when I try to do that is you just don't like Ronald Reagan says nothing to do with Reagan. There were a lot of other people that also make those decisions. He just happened to be the president. But there's also Congress and governors and other people and other parties in in those countries as well. Like there's a lot of people responsible here. I just don't talk well to it. So for those listening because one thing as I deal more and more with immigration, I find that I’m severely lacking in history of how we got here.  

Karen 40:05 

Yeah, so part of what I do is I do share when people ask me, especially about my own immigration story, I let them know. And I start the book out that way for that very reason. I wanted people to know how good our life in Guatemala was, and how my parents had no plan, no desire, to ever leave our country. And I want people to have that sense, you know, and that really, for us, the push factor became the civil war that was funded by the United States. 

Now, I know it was because of the Cold War. And I know it was because there was this great fear of communism spreading to the United States. But even knowing that, it's still a fact and you know, a lot of the effects that we see today are because of those choices made in the 1970s and early 80s, I always tell people, that both Democrats and Republicans have been equally bad at immigration. And Republicans have been slightly better. Because in fact, you know, George W. Bush, who had a lot of faults was better for immigration to Barack Obama. And that's fact. 

Seth Price 41:20

Really? 

Karen 41:22

Yeah. Barack Obama, in the immigration advocacy work, we call him the deporter in chief. Because he in fact deported more immigrants than most President in the modern era. Yeah, it's a fact. Bill Clinton-extremely bad for immigrants. He instituted the 10 year bar, which has been so harmful and kept so many people… 

Francisco could be a resident and a citizen today, if it wasn't for this statute that Bill Clinton instituted, where he said, Oh, if you accumulate more than six months or a year of unlawful presence, you have to go back to your country for three years, if it's only six months, and if it's more than that 10 years before you can come back and apply for a green card, even if you're married to a US citizen, even if you have US citizen children, even if you're gainfully employed and you're the only breadwinner. So, in contrast, Ronald Reagan had this amnesty, by the way lots of my relatives were able to become residents and then citizens through Ronald Reagan's amnesty. George Bush, and I believe it's because he comes from a border state, also have more generous policies toward immigrants and immigration. He grew up with immigrants, you know, and his ranch in Texas. 

And so I always tell people, look, this is not a Democrats are really good at this and Republicans are really bad. Historically, both have done harm, but the republicans are slightly winning; believe it or not, in terms of more welcoming policies. But really, we have to take some responsibility for the choices our nation made. And maybe that's the information we had back in the 70s. Communism is a threat! Who knew that in 15 years, the Soviet Union was going to collapse completely, you know, we didn't know that in 1977. And so they started funding these terrible or the cause effects of people like Romero, and lots of people in my country. And I talked about the fact that I encountered dead bodies in my neighborhood that were dumped by, you know, the military.  

Seth Price 43:34 

That story of that body in the river…I had to put the book down. Like I just, because I can walk out into the back well, not the backyard but walk not far from here and just there's rivers, there's a river not far from here that you can just kayak all the way to the James River if you wanted to. I can't imagine you know, going down there with my kids or going down there myself and just, well, there's a…there’s a human being in the water. Like I just can't do it. Regardless of the age I can imagine, it breaks my heart. Yeah, that tweet you said the other day where you're like I there's parts of this book that I can't read out loud. Like, I'm assuming that means that you're recording the audio book for your book. I'm assuming that that's what that means. But yeah, being that I read the book, I'm like, I think I know some of those parts, but I don't. I don't know. There's a lot to be said that you even wrote them down to begin with, in a way that it's there's so much bare in this book for you I think so.  

Karen 44:31 

Yeah. And for me, I wanted to tell the story, because often, if we just say things like, Oh, well, you know Seth, the United States funded this war in El Salvador and Guatemala. It's sort of nameless, faceless rhetoric. And I wanted to share this is how that decision impacted my family specifically. And not just my nuclear family, but also my extended family. You know, most everyone in my family fled during that time. And I'm hoping that the fact that people see something more personal in it will speak to them in a way that sharing rhetoric or statistics or talking about wars doesn't seem to impact people as you said.

Seth Price 45:20 

Yeah, yeah. Well, and if anything, that's the way Jesus told truth says, You asked me a question. Let me tell you a story. I'm not gonna answer your question. You asked me this question. Let me tell you a story about this guy. Or let me tell you a story about these farmers. So let me tell you a story about this rich guy. So I think there's a lot to be learned from not answering questions directly, although I'm very bad at it. I'm very, very bad at that. I like to just, this is input A, here's the answer B and we're done with that. 

One of the things that I most liked about your book, and I wrote it down. So you talked about the theology of survival, and like that, and Abuelita Theology I've never heard that. And so what is, is that the theology of your grandmother or like an all encompassing like theology of survival is from where we come from this is how, you know matrons that are in the leadership role talk about God? Like, break, like, I'm not familiar with that. And as I read about it, I'm like, I like this. I like this a lot.  

Karen 46:22 

Yeah, so we have this term that I did not coin. It was coined by other Latinex theologians, and it's called Abuelita Theology or grandmother theology. And basically what it says is that our faith is passed down informally by our mothers and our grandmothers. They become the ones who teach us about the faith, who teach us about faith traditions, and who really instill in us the sense of faith. And it's worked out in the everyday. Sometimes it's called kitchen theology, because you know, you could be chopping onions or mopping the floor and having a conversation. Really, it's a theology of survival because what you see, like here in the US you know, I write about my grandmother, she did not have the luxury of sitting in a seminary class talking about theology or, you know, what does it mean when, you know, good people suffer or anything like that. She only had her everyday life. She worked as a domestic worker in Los Angeles for this wealthy family as a live in housekeeper. And she worked out her fate in the every day in the ordinary tasks as she's seeking survival. Because she's not thriving. She's just surviving, you know, kind of breaking even I talked about that in the book too, how many immigrants This is where we're at. But that's what she passed down to us, you know, this faith of survival. You know, she didn't have even a high school diploma, but she had this PhD in Abuelita Theology of being able to really pass down that she had because of her faith, the strength that she received from God because of the faith. And so yeah, that's what that's about.  

Seth Price 48:08 

I liked it a lot. I'd like to end on Jesus. And so if anything from the last hour that people listen to, and as they read your book, what do you want them to take home as something that is generative in their lives that they can change; to just maybe do this slightly better? Because it's going to take there's no way that it's going to be a huge lever, and tomorrow we have it fixed. And so what would you like people to take away at the very end if they haven't listened to anything if they've checked out stop! Stop, pull over your car, pay attention you in the back row. Listen, listen in! What would be the one thing like hey, just if you don't hear anything else, do this and do it? What would that be?  

Karen 48:48 

I would say the one thing you should do is ask yourself where did I learn about immigration? Did I learn it from Jesus from the Gospels from the Old Testament? Did I learned it from my family? Did I learn it from Fox News? Did I learn it from social media? Where did I learn about immigration where do all the beliefs I have about it come from? 

Because if you're a Christian, your views on that human issue, which is a human issue, so it's a Biblical issue, should be informed primarily by your faith. You know, what does Jesus say about this? What does the Hebrew Scriptures, what do they say about immigration? And I would say that's the one thing you can ask yourself, because I asked myself that question, and realized, I heard a lot of rhetoric from my family. I'd heard a lot of things in church circles. I've heard a lot of things in social circles. But my views were not always imposed primarily by what the Bible says and what Jesus says. I would think that is the one thing I would want people to really reflect on and think about honestly, and just really be transparent with in the presence of the Holy Spirit, you know, asking yourself this question.  

Seth Price 50:13 

Does your book have a subtitle?  

Karen 50:16 

Yes, it's Immigrants, the Bible and the Journey to Belong  

Seth Price 50:19 

Because I was gonna say, if it doesn't, what you just said, it's a human issue so it's a Biblical issue. I wrote that down, I'm stealing that. I just want to make sure I didn't plagiarize or copyright because I like that a lot. Like that is…that’s gonna turn into something today. It's going, it's going somewhere. I like that a lot. Because that's encompassing more than immigration. I mean, that encompasses a lot of things. Yeah. that encompasses everything because we're all humans. And so every issue we have is a human issue. Where can people connect with you, Karen? I know you're active on social media. Where can they as they're listening to this as the book is released, where can they get the book? How do they engage and wrestle with this with you if they want to?

Karen 51:00 

So I have a website, Karen-Gonzalez.com. And I'm also on Twitter and Instagram @_KarenJGonzalez so they can connect with me there. I'm also on Facebook and my Facebook page is pretty public so you can connect with me there as well. And the book is available for pre order on Amazon. It releases May 21. So on that day, it'll be like you forgotten about it, and now you have a surprise.  

Seth Price 51:28 

So pre order now. Well, thank you for coming on. Thank you for your patience and the messes up in scheduling and Zoom being whatever it is and either way, thank you. I'm glad we finally made it happen.   

Karen 51:40

Yeah. Thank you Seth! I really appreciate it.  

Seth Price 52:21 

Think back at that tail end there, right there at the end. If it is a human issue, it's a gospel issue. If it's a human issue, it's a Biblical issue. What if we live that way? What if we acted and treated and loved and cared for and protected and honored other people that way? Shoot would have we honored just the people in our neighborhoods that way? I don't even know what would happen. I know that the world would be different and I know it would be different instantly. I hope that you enjoyed today's conversation. If you did not or have not yet considered going to CanISayThisAtChurch.com clicking that support button in the top right become a patron of the show. You're what make the show work. If you can't do that, if you're not financially in a place to pitch in less than a very, very, very bad cup of coffee a month share the show. Rated on iTunes. Tell your friends…it helps.  

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Finding the Space for Growth with Jim Bono / Transcript

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Jim Bono 0:00

I think one of the things that I would say, or behave, differently than trying to answer your question behave differently than the typical sort of evangelical Church is, don't assume you're right. Don't assume that you know what “right” actually is. And maybe we would do better to listen more and to accept more mystery. Because, and this is so different, because we want to be right. We want to have, you know, we want to have it down. We want to be assured that we're on the right team. We want to be assured that our ticket is stamped. We want to have the right color team jersey. Well, you know, we have 30,000 brands of Christianity. That just seems nuts to me. Really! I mean, are all of them right, are none of them, right? I mean, we spend so much energy over matters of theology, we're just like that political diametric arguments in politics. It's the same problem. You know, it's like, if I taught you pick the topic, the religious topic, that was controversial and people would polarize really, really quickly. And so what we've done is we've just really become fractionated. And we've become so focused on belief system, that we don't have good practice and we don't have behavior that matches any of the belief systems we purport to observe.

Seth Price 2:25

Hello there, my friends. I'm Seth and I'm glad you're here. Another fantastic conversation today. So many of you hear me plug every single week. And this is kind of that now a support the show on Patreon kind of thing. So everything has costs, and there's almost 40 people, I guess that keeps the lights on that make this show actually possible. There's a level there were a few of us have a conversation. And so the first one of those was with Daniel Kingston and I'm extremely excited for today's today's will be part two with the patron conversations with Jim Bono. know a bit about Jim before he gives you his own faith story a bit. I've been engaged with Jim on social media and by email…gosh, I don't know how many months now, but it's been a blessing to get to know him. And I'm humbled by his support of the show, as with everyone else who supports the show in any way. But Jim is so wise. The more that I get to know him the smarter he gets, and so it is my privilege to present this conversation to you. Part Two of the Patreon conversations with Jim Bono.

Seth Price 4:12

Jim Bono, welcome to the show, and welcome to a different version of the show. I appreciate you as a patron and I am excited to talk to you this evening. I've been looking forward to this for some time, regardless of my lack of calendaring skills. (chuckle) So, to be fair, usually whoever the person is that I'm trying to book, there's some third party that's doing all the work for both of us which I have come to really rely on those people. But I don't have that for me and my wife doesn't run this calendar, I have to, and I'm really not good at it. But welcome, welcome!

Jim Bono 4:49

Thank you Seth.

Seth Price 4:51

So you have been one of the most active people on on social media sites and a lot of what you bring when you comment…like I really have come to value your input. If anything, I've learned that there are a lot of people and so many people know so much more things than I do about different things that I didn't know that I want to know about. And I count you amongst that list. And so, before we get going, I wanted to tell you how I always really value that, but I want to know more about you. And so you’ve sent me, you know, a Word document months ago, it might have been four months ago, five months ago, have a little bit of your story, but for those that will eventually be listening they don't have that. So, what would you want people to know about you?

Jim Bono 5:38

Oh wow, um, well, I was born and raised in California on a dairy farm I was the fifth of six kids. And sort of the original nuclear family were four kids and then there was quite a gap and I was the Christmas party accident. And so in September, I was born and was raised on the farm. And, you know with dairy it's 365 days a year, twice a day. And grew up in a very rural, very traditional conservative environment. There were five classrooms in our school for eight grades and there were 12 kids in my eighth grade graduating class. So that gives you an idea, we are talking really tiny. And you can only split a farm so many ways. So I knew that that wasn't going to be in my future, went off to high school and then the local community college and jumped from there to the UC system and graduated when I was 20.

And was gonna do a Master's in Public Health at UC Berkeley and ended up with a summer job on a native Indian Native American Indian Reservation. And that summer lasted six years. So (I) was, as far as I know, the only white guy the tribes ever hired, and ended up actually running the health clinic for them for a while. And then met my wife. She was visiting from Seattle, she had family there. And we got married.

And then shortly after our first child was born, we moved to Seattle because she had some specific medical needs, and I was going to restart my education. So I did my master's work at the University of Washington, we got the medical stuff for our daughter taken care of and then did 20 something years in healthcare. And then got a job with the University of Illinois and worked in academia for the last 23 years and then a couple of years ago retired to be the primary caregiver for my wife who has, she's older than I am, so she’s developed some health issues so it was just time to be home. So I've been home for a while.

Seth Price 8:00

So there's a lot there's that I want to unpack there. 20 years old and you're done with undergrad, right? That seems quick either that or I'm slow.

Jim Bono 8:11

No, no, I was just driven. Because, like, I knew that there wasn't gonna be a place for me in that little tiny town. And so that was my ticket out.

Seth Price 8:24

And then from there, some of my, some of the favorite people that I engage with one of them is Mark Charles, and another one that I engage with much less but I really value her voice is, Kaitlin Curtis, and they just bring an insight that I'm not familiar with. So I'm curious when Why do you think you need to play off what you said you pretty much the only white guy like, why you? Like was it something that you had to offer? Was it maybe just an interview question that you nailed or where you were the only qualified candidate or…?

Jim Bono 8:56

(chuckles) The clinic had just had a huge huge fire, and they had literally burned to the ground. And they were doing clinic in the back half of a Methodist church that was so old we literally put buckets on the desk when it rained. Because the rain would come right through the shingles on the roof. And they just needed an extra pair of hands. And it was gonna just be can you come and help us we need to try to find some money. So if you can figure out how to write grants we'll pay you for a summer. Well, it just stretched and what happened was I just…the woman who was the executive director was the Native American nurse practitioner, delightful woman and a Annabelle Whipple, and I worked for Annie for years and I just did whatever she needed me to do.

And eventually she decided to retire and for about 18 months I was executive director of the clinic. But then it just was time for me to go. I mean, our daughter was born. She had really specific needs that we just were not going to be able to get on the Rez.

Seth Price 10:12

How did working on the Rez change, so I'm assuming at this time were you are you Christian at this time, or a follower of Jesus, or no?

Jim Bono 10:24

Yeah, what happened? I was not raised anything. But I had a very spiritual Catholic Grandma, from Italy. And so there was always a sense of spirituality, but there was no practice. I mean, you know, you're not going to make it into church if you're smelling like the barn. So that just was not ever really in the cards for us. And my dad was nominally Catholic. My mom was nominally Methodist, and we were all kind of nominally nothing.

So, when I moved to the town where the Rez was, there was a little tiny Presbyterian church who had a pastor and his wife who had just graduated from Fuller. And he ended up on the Rez and so I was ripening and they were there. And so that was where I really came to faith and got baptized in the river in the in the National Forest.

Seth Price 11:35

So that's an entirely different you know, coming for lack of a better metaphor, you know, coming to find Jesus metaphor being on a Rez, tribal. So how did being you know in a different culture maybe impact the way that you do church or did it?

Jim Bono 11:56

Well, it didn't because the clinic on the Rez was the only health services in the town. So everybody got served. And then one of the grants we were able to get was a grant from the state of California and it required us to serve everybody. So not only was there a tradition of serving everybody, but then when when we received the grant and built a new clinic, it became a requirement to do so. So we just sort of formalized what we were doing already, but in other ways, the Rez was quite segregated. And one of the ways that it was segregated was there were white churches, and there were Indian churches. And there would be a few people because families would intermarry. And and there would be, you know, there would be shades of stuff. But the little Presbyterian Church was predominantly a white church. Now there would be kids from the Rez who would come in for the youth program. Because we actually had a youth minister, and so they would participate there. But on Sunday, they would go to the Methodist Church, which was predominantly a Native American church. So it was not integrated in that way.

Seth Price 13:17

Is it now or do you spend much time still in that circle at all?

Jim Bono 13:21

I just went back for the first time in 40 years, this last September, they had the 60th anniversary of the founding of the clinic, and they flew me back, which was just amazing. And Annabelle is still alive. There are only four of us who are still alive who were working at the clinic at that time. And, and we almost lost Annie, she had been really sick. And I don't really think the valley is more integrated. I mean, people are polite. You know, and families that intermarry. But economically, it's not very economically integrated. There tend to be Indian businesses and Indian enterprises that are linked to the Rez and the tribes. And then there are a few because it's really hard times in Covelo right now it's the name of the town is called Covelo, and economically, it's just really struggling. There was some thought that actually growing marijuana would be a way to revive the local economy. But that actually did not work out. Because large agribusiness ended up dominating that market and all of the small growers, which is part of the sort of underground economy of Mendocino and Humboldt counties actually got squeezed out of work. So the unemployment rate, on the north coast area are very, very high. Really about the only economic engine going on right now are programs that the tribes have and that does lead to some sort of tense moments.

Seth Price 15:10

So I don't have direct contact with much Native American, anything, where I'm at in Virginia, which is really sad, because there's a lot of signage and everything's named for different tries, but they're just elsewhere. I wish honestly, if I'd have been open if my eyes have been open at the time, I had much more access to that type of influences, or at least voices when I was in Texas, but I was a different element than I wasn't even trying to look.

Jim Bono 15:37

Right. Well, and then from there and went to Seattle, and the native peoples in Seattle and, and British Columbia, have retained their tradition to a much greater extent than in California. And then from Seattle, I moved to New Mexico to work in health systems in New Mexico and in New Mexico, the tribe on their reservations are actually sovereign national entities. So most American Anglos don't know that and so like Acoma is actually way, way, way older than Boston. It's considered to be the the oldest continually inhabited location in North America. So my exposure to native populations is more I think, than the average white guy. And my sensitivities to their culture, because of my experience in California on the Rez, I am so grateful for it. I just love the folks that I worked with.

Seth Price 16:45

You mentioned academia and so your training, I don't believe you're a physician, correct? So you're training people how to run medical practices, or?

Jim Bono 16:54

Yeah, kinda. What happened was I wanted to help manage and develop the health systems. So after I helped grow the clinic in Northern California, I got my master's in healthcare admin from the University of Washington, worked in a local hospital there, the single hospital, in the very trendy town of Bellevue, then moved to Albuquerque and worked for a Catholic system there that had three different hospitals. So it was bigger, it was more complicated. I was there for about six years, moved to San Diego, where I worked for a system that had six hospital, five different medical groups. Gosh, 20 to 25 years ago had like, over $2 billion in billings annually. I don't even have any idea what they are doing now.

So really complicated systems and my job was to look at those neighborhoods to look at the community and figure out “Okay, what's missing”? You know, are we missing a kind of service? Could we expand cardiology? Could we, you know, do these other sorts of services? How do we understand this market? How do we reach out to the market? So my job was a combination of planning and marketing, healthcare services. Now on the side, it was both very interested in underserved population. So to the extent possible I would go, Oh, and by the way, we could put a clinic here and it would actually be very, very busy. And even with a lower income group, we could break even on that.

So there was always this sort of edge of a sort of social awareness because of the time I spent on Rez, and because I frankly just grew up so poor. So was doing that and then got an interview opportunity for a job in Chicago with the University of Illinois in their health science system. And they brought me into work. They have six different health science colleges. And they tried to get the doctors to talk to the nurses, to talk to the physical therapists, you know, to talk to the dentist. To me, it was kind of a fool's errand. But it was a great idea at the time, and did that for a while. And then the Dean of the College of Pharmacy is this wonderful friend of mine, and she lives here in Naperville. We were riding home on the train one night and she said, you know, “you should come work for me”. And I thought she was joking because she had this really funny sense of humor. And I looked at her and I said, “Well, you know, I can be bought”. I mean, that's literally what I said. And she was serious.

Seth Price 19:49

She said how much?

Jim Bono 19:51

Like in retrospect, you just go you know, like, biggest forehead slap ever because you know, a week later, she shows up in my office with a department head and one of their more entrepreneurial faculty members. And we have an interview for an hour and then I go to work for her. And then she retired and I work for the Department Head who then became Dean for a number of years. So I did that for about maybe 16-17 years. And then the last couple of years at the University, I was the budget officer for the campus.

Seth Price 20:29

That’s a lot of hats. Yeah. So my wife, I feel like anyone that listens semi regularly would know. So my wife is a nurse and she works at a big health system. She works for the University of Virginia Hospital.

Jim Bono 20:42

In oncology, right?

Seth Price 20:45

Yeah, well, pediatric oncology, infusion, hematology, and some other words that I don’t know how to say, not just cancer kids, like I think there'll be some kids you know, with cystic fibrosis and anything that requires a little bit more. I don't want to say skill because all nurses have a massive amount of skill.

Jim Bono 21:02

Just a different specialization.

Seth Price 21:04

Yeah. You know things where the margin of error when you're administering drugs that are that potent on bodies that are that small is you just have to know what you're doing.

Jim Bono 21:18

You can’t screw up.

Seth Price 21:19

So I want to circle back to what always gets my my blood pumping. And so what, what form of Christianity would you call home today? And I often find that that's a hard question for myself to answer, but I'm curious as to because I know a lot of our conversations have dived into, you know, mysticism and contemplation and different stretched ways of Christianity. And so I'm really excited to hear the answer.

Jim Bono 21:47

Well, how about if I give you a bit of a process to create context.

Seth Price 21:53

Sure.

Jim Bono 21:55

Because not being raised anything and then graduating from college. You know, I'm like 20-21 and I in this little church with a brand new spanking pastor from Fuller. So that's what I get exposed to. And this guy is still my good friend and his name's Toby Nelson; Toby’s sort of very factual and very direct. And so a lot of that early period was just open the top of my skull and poured it in. So learning everything, reading everything, you know, long discussions into the night, you know, yada yada, yada.

And I think that that pretty much encapsulates the probably the first sort of couple of decades. You know, so starting at 20, into like the 40s. It was lots of Bible study leading Bibles. Studies, always engaged in something always engaged because of my management background engaged not only in the learning of the church but also the management of the church. And so, I would say that that would have been typical of your sort of mainline Protestant denomination. And Virginia and I kind of bumped around a lot. She is a church musician by training.

So sometimes we attended where she had a job, okay. So she had a job at this little Presbyterian Church, she became the music director, moved to Seattle. We actually went to, kind of strange, it was just in the neighborhood. We went to a sort of unaffiliated charismatic church for a while. That was an interesting move to Queen Anne Hill, where she had a job in a sort of regular Presbyterian Church. So we were in that. So for a long time, it was more Presbyterian than anything. And then Albuquerque we were in a different flavor of Presbyterian. We did a small stint where she was worship leader at an Episcopal Church. And then it was San Diego and there was Assembly of God for a minute and a Calvary Church, there were two different Calvary churches. So I'm kind of a mutt.

Seth Price 24:43

I haven’t heard any Baptists yet, did I miss Baptist? I haven't heard Baptist…

Jim Bono 24:45

You missed Baptist. But I have a sister who's Missionary Baptist. (laugh from both) So, there's that flavor in there too. So really kind of a big spectrum of your typical evangelical, mostly mainline, Protestant denominations. And then if you track Richard Rohr, it's, you know, order, disorder, reorder. So about in the 40s because remember this was about the time where, oh gosh, what was the name of that whole program where they would get bunches of guys together and they do Promise Keepers. Okay. Promise Keepers with like happening kind of around this time. And I was I was co leading a men's group. So you had the sort of marketing and content, the promise keepers, and I'm comparing that to what I've seen in guides actual lives. And the gap just becomes huge!

Because we actually had a group of guys who You know, there were a few guys who were sort of, I would say, sharing on a surface level. And then there was the guys who would stay later, who would talk about their marriage falling apart and yes it did. And the fact that they were on websites that led them into all kinds of problems, including getting fired at work. So that there was a whole different set of conversations around very different deep issues. And so why weren't those lives just better if all you needed to do was pray harder? And what is pray harder even mean?

And how was it that listening to the same stories wasn't actually transforming their lives? Great question! So what happened was there was a period of disorder, where I began to really dig into like, so what is it? You know, because some people are just really quite happy to show up to church, and this is going to be sound really kind of mean, to be entertained, or to have a sense of just so “Hey, hi. Hi How you doing”? You know, that sort of plastic smile thing? And we're in a community that is affluent and really, by far, majority white as it turns out.
So it's really easy to do that “hi BMW shiny teeth thing”. But that wasn't working at a deeper level of these guys lives.

And so that became more of an issue for me. And for me those answers to transformation, really centered more in contemplation and going just deeper. Not just repeating the same story and having it wash off, but looking for truth in a deeper different way. So, I'm, it's kind of funny, in many ways I just don't sit because I mean I could sit you know, I clean up decently. You know you see the profile pic clean up decently I can be polite, I can be civil and maybe even witty. But once you get past sad and have more serious conversation, it begins to be really interesting because some people just get really afraid. Because they don't want to do that. They don't want to go that deep. They don't want to be that exposed. Okay, that's fine, but for me, I'm really after much deeper stuff And in Virginia is like the original existentialist. So it would just figure that we would rub off on each other in that way.

So when we talk about religious stuff, which we do a great deal, we just tend to operate at that level that more automatically falls into that second category of what Richard calls “reorder”. And what would be a more mystical or contemplative approach.

Seth Price 29:33

So what practices have impacted you? So, I mean, there's a lot to contemplation, and I am by no means any form of an expert. I'm getting pretty good at the examen with intention. And by pretty good, like I'm able to do it at a longer amount of time. But I'm still by no means, I guess…I don't…I'm not saying it well, but I'm by no means at a place that I'm like, yeah, let me teach someone else possibly how to how to do the exam. I'm by no means there. So what are some of those things for you that you're like, you know, when I say contemplation, here's what I'm doing and with intention, here's what I'm trying to achieve?

Jim Bono 30:18

I think the examen is really, really helpful. I think that I'm going to put these items in sort of two buckets, because there are disciplines, and in my mind the examen and is a discipline. And then there are helpful tools or helpful things. And in my head, that's a different bucket. So in the toolbox, you've got the examen and you've got Lectio Divinia, you've got contemplative prayer. You know, some people get nervous if you use the word meditation. So in most cases, in circles, the idea of contemplative prayer is easier to understand. We do have a regular contemplative prayer group at the church that I have been attending. And that's something that, you know, I at 64 am the youngest participant. So there are groups of people who are interested in those disciplines, but then there are helpful tools that also assist. And some of them come out of other traditions. You know that the list of suggestions that I had gave you recently in a couple of posts some of it comes out of the Sufi tradition. A lot of poetry comes out of the contemplative tradition. Merton, you know, there are certainly Christian authors. John Duns Scotus, Merton would be in that tradition. And those sort of readings, those sort of podcasts, I find to be helpful sort of tools, but I don't consider them discipline.

So, in my more relaxed, quote, “quasi retired life”, you know, I'll garden out and I'll be working on stuff around the house or helping Virginia, and I can have a podcast going. And that is a form of a sort of walking meditation for me.

Seth Price 32:28

I agree. Yeah. So the times that I listen to podcasts. Well, I don't really listen to religious podcasts with intention. I don't want to have someone else's questions become mine. Because a lot of people are way smarter than me and I'll hear something and be like, yeah, I'm gonna start saying that, and then it quickly becomes disingenuous. So I don't do that. But I listen to a lot of finance podcasts. And I really like have you seen them the there's a show called it's got Rami Malik, Mr. Robot. I don't know if you've seen that before or not.

Jim Bono 33:01

I almost never get a chance to watch TV but I've seen trailers from Mr. Robot

Seth Price 33:06

So it's a decent show for a few seasons and it fell off the rails. I think they had a new showrunner but he has like a true crime podcast that someone's hired him and it's very well scripted. But he is the voice that you're hearing. Yeah, so that's one that he asked to recently so but yeah podcast I find hit a niche for me that I hear something. Although now Jim, I'm finding that when I'm listening to something that is unreligious related, I'll hear a truth in it and be like, Oh, that's like Jesus! Like I'm beginning to leach other things that I have like I like this. This can be applied. I'm pretty sure Paul says something like that are pretty sure that you know, that's also in numbers or whatever.

Jim Bono 33:46

Yes. Actually, if I can jump in. Krista Tippett's on being podcasts that I also recommend it. Oh my gosh, oh my gosh. Oh, my gosh. Really, really good. And it's not directly religious usually, but oh my gosh, it does contain really fascinating nuggets of truth.

Seth Price 34:09

There was one that she did. I won't listen to a few of hers. There was one. What's his name? His last name, his height, hate his Haidt. He's like a psychologist. He taught at UVA. And now he's up I think up in New York, trying to think of his name, but they did one on I find that I'll send it to you. He did a TED talk as well basically talking about here's why our politics and here's why we argue everything basically in a binary way. Yeah, like here's how your brain actually distills truth. And then here's why that matters. Daniel is his name Daniel Haidt. I don't know how to say his name. Yeah, too many consonants. Too many consonants. That's good. But yeah, Krista’s is good. I like Krista. I would I would like to maybe maybe be like Krista but she's way more polished than I am.

Seth Price 35:25

What are some things religiously that you would hold that you think for you have a huge truth and a huge impact and affect the way that you do life and marriage and community. And you know, your willingness to do things like this that maybe middle America Bible Belt would listen to and hear that. Yeah, I don't understand how you could hold that Jim. And then break it further than that. Like, why? So there's a lot of ways that you could go with that, but I'm really more interested in the why and then I'd like to take that and go with okay, what happens if more people latch on to that what does it look like a few years from now? Like, if this changes humans what would that look like?

Jim Bono 36:11

Oh, boy, that is like the definition of an open question!

Seth Price 36:18

Right!

Jim Bono 36:19

(chuckle)

Remember, there was just a little bit ago on the site one of the participants said, asked a question, and they were asking for a definition and they gave four different choices. And the choices were kind of mutually exclusive without naming names do you remember that?

Seth Price 36:37

I do I feel like it was asking about like, is the Bible this or is Jesus this? Is that the one you're talking about?

Jim Bono 36:46

Is Jesus this, yes. Yeah, it was asking for sort of definitive religious positions about Jesus. And I explicitly did not respond. And in the first half of my life, I would have been all over that like a dog on a bone. But I think one of the things that I would say, or behave differently than, I’m trying to answer your question behave differently than the typical sort of Evangelical Church is, don't assume you're right. Don't assume that you know what, right actually is. And maybe we would do better to listen more and to accept more mystery. Because, and this is so different, because we want to be right. We we want to have it down. We want to be assured that we're on the right team. We want to be assured that our ticket is stamped. We want to have the right color team jersey. Well, you know, we have 30,000 brands of Christianity? That just seems nuts to me! I mean, are all of them right? Are none of them are right?

I mean, we spend so much energy over matters of theology, we're just like that political, you know, the diametric arguments in politics. It's the same problem. You know, it's like, pick the topic, the religious topic, it's controversial and people will polarize really, really quickly. And so what we've done is we've just really become fractionated. And we've become so focused on belief systems, that we don't have good practice. And we don't have behavior that matches any of the belief systems we purport to observe.

So the dilemma, and this is why I think flipping it, flipping the equation is really helpful. So being silent instead of talking when somebody else is sharing their truth with you. Being open to that truth trying to understand it from their view. Why service, in my mind, is more important than belief. Because, again, look at my history, you know, Assembly of God and Presbyterians really? Like is one of them right and the other wrong and what happens to the ones that are wrong is there no mercy there.

So if you go down those roads, you become more and more and more locked in the US that and just doubling down and doubling down and doubling down. And it doesn't allow for any outreach and any understanding of other people at a very basic human level. So I think people like Eboo Patel, who is Muslim here in Chicago, pretty sure was a MacArthur Genius Grant Award. He does interfaith services. He doesn't have interfaith dialogue. He has interfaith service. So Muslim kids and Christian kids will go to a really downtrodden neighborhood in Chicago, like Inglewood. They'll serve meals. After that, when they have hung out together for a while and realize that, you know, they're just, they're more likes and not that they aren't creeping each other out, that they have similarities etc.

So after the service together, then they talk. And they talk about that service is important in our tradition…oh mine too! So they find common ground by serving together. And I think that that service is really important because I think service makes a space for people to be together and recognize each other's humanity. And I think that we don't do that very well. And I think especially we don't do that very well in our churches. You know, Easter's coming up, the church that I'm affiliated with, will do like eight services, there will be music over the top, the higher solo list probably won't even break even. Why are we doing that for people who show up once a year? That’s just financially not. And we'll do that but we won't take that same amount of money that we've just paid on soloists air quotes here “entertainment”, and go to North Aurora and help build habitat houses, that's just backwards to me.

Seth Price 42:11

Do you think it's intentional? That church leadership is being trained and this is one of the questions that you referenced in one of our emails, you know, the seminary seemed to be churning out, I want to say it right. So at one point or another, we did like a what's called like, a Sunday Night Live at our church. And I will say, I know that my pastor is a minority amongst many. We basically talked about the hero's journey, and how basically, we all do that, like a lot of Joseph Campbell, you usually don't get that at any church, much less a Baptist Church. But it was, you know, small group of people 15-20 people intentionally wrestling with some really hard topics for like, you know, four or five, six weeks at a time.

Jim Bono 42:47

So good, so good.

Seth Price 42:48

And someone it asked him the question, you know, “well, if we can figure out how to you know, get over whatever this hump is, before we get to the next you know, dip that we were that were call to action for, like what is the purpose of the church” and he's like, “I don't know”, he's like, “there's a part of me that needs to keep the lights on. But there's another part of me that's like, I need you to stop coming to me to get filled. Like my job is to help you intentionally get to a place that you can communicate with God and grow without constantly having to be handheld. But I also know that that will require the membership of the church to change all the time and t is not financially feasible, and most people aren't comfortable with it.”

And I think there's a lot of truth in that, but I don't know how you fix it. Like I don't know how the institution would sign up for that?

Jim Bono 43:31

Actually, I have a super close friend who is a retired attorney. And we are actually trying to look at exactly that problem. Because over the course of like the last four years, at this particular church, I was asked to step in and fix the mission effort because it was just a hot mess. There was no financial oversight. There was no charter. People didn't know how to communicate. We didn't know why we were even involved in some missions and not there was no review process'; took 18 months got that fixed. My friend and I then did a survey the church assessment tool was the instrument we used to survey the whole congregation as part of developing a new sort of strategic vision. We developed that vision statement, we developed a new mission statement, we did an intensive demographic study of our community. Because of course, every church says, Well, we need to go out and attract new families really, there are four of them in a eight mile radius. So putting a focus on recruiting new families is pretty stupid for our particular congregation. So that doesn't make sense. So we did that.

And then we try to work that strategic plan with a couple of consultants and develop it. And then I got put on the finance committee and with another friend of mine and I we've developed a six year financial model for the church with a debt reduction plan, etc. So the mechanics, oh man, I understand the mechanics! But the dilemma is that are the lives transformed. And the guy who wrote the church assessment tool talks about a measure of engagement. Because if people are engaged, by however they measure that and there's a way to just respond to that on a qualitative scale, if that congregation is engaged everything else follows. Because if they're engaged, they'll study. If they're engaged they'll give. If they're engaged they'll serve.

So we need to figure out how to engage people, it is not acount of butts in seats and butts in the place. It's a measure of heart. And most churches aren't even looking at that! Most churches are really happy to just keep the lights on and to hope that the downward trends that are expressed by the Pew Memorial Trust, you know that that erosion isn't going to happen at their little church. But the Bishop of our ELCA Senate who just retired, said by 2025, he expects 20% of the churches and the Chicago Senate to close. So like, we better figure this out because what we're selling traditionally, people aren't buying. And I think people are really, really, really interested; they're just not interested in the same old package. They're not interested in stories of what they're…how do I, how do I say this? They're interested in something deeply meaningful. And sometimes that can be stories. But they're interested in not doctrine and not argument, but reality and service and the kinds of things that people lump under the word spirituality. They're more interested in spirituality than they are in religion. But we haven't taught that. And we often your guy (my pastor), as a remarkable exception, oh my gosh, The Hero's Journey, you know, that's brilliant. Because I think largely, that's what more people want at a deeper level.

Now, you know, I know lots of folks who come and show up on Sunday at our facility, and they're perfectly happy to walk in and shake, you know, 14 hands, throw 20 bucks in the plate or whatever, some people do tons more and go home. And it's really just sort of a social thing. And in my, like, nasty moments, I sometimes will say, “you know, what, our church is just the Kiwanis with the cross on top.

Seth Price 48:32

That needs to be on a shirt.

Jim Bono 48:35

That’s pretty offensive. So, so the other night, literally, I'm having this conversation with my friend, Bill, the attorney, and I literally draw an old fashioned, you know, a t-table, you know, an accounting t-table, you know, debits and credits, and I put the coladas on one side, and I put the church on the other. And I said, Okay, so what do you get from Kiwanis and the church, I get community, okay, fine. I can work with that. You get service, I can work with that. You can get some friendship, I can work with that. Okay, but then, you know, after about six or seven things that are similar in both environments. And of course, no, you don't have, you know, spiritual formation and Sunday school and stuff that then over on the church side, well, then you've got to believe our doctrine. And you've got to give us cash. And you've got to give us you know… So that other sort of things that you layer into, that our belief based around churches, actually, we put more requirements to belong to a church than we do to belong to the Kiwanis.

And that was an exercise that gave Bill and me a little pause. Because I thought, well, gosh, no wonder my son is really completely uninterested. Because, you know, he's a great guy is he's a very moral guy, but he doesn't see the church acting in a way that is really consistent with what it says its mission is. And I got to tell you, our church, it's a lovely place full of nice people. But here's a real time conversation being replayed between me and the senior pastor. Why are we sending our senior high kids to Haiti? Really! Like North Aurora isn't just eight miles away or other places aren't closer. You're buying airplane tickets, sending them to the Caribbean.

Okay, I understand there was an earthquake once upon a time, and we did send people and we did send money. And yes, there's still a massive need, but the amount of money that it takes to send our 25 kids to Haiti…okay so what is this really about? If we actually want to support Haiti, we would take that several thousand dollars. And we just send it to Haiti, we'd actually hire two carpenters for a year. And it would feed their family and do lots and lots of work.

And I pressed our person on this. And finally, in a moment of honesty, he said to me, “You got to understand for our parents they would rather write a check for a couple thousand dollars per kid and have it be the spring break experience, then actually spend time in because that will take emotional and time investment”. And I just had nothing to say.

Seth Price 51:52

That's heartbreaking.

Jim Bono 51:54

It's the truth. And it is heartbreaking! And our church is considered pretty good church, looks pretty shiny from the outside. But why are we doing what we're doing? And on the Finance Committee, I'm watching how and where we spend our money. Half of our money spent on staff. And when you include staff in the buildings that we have, we have to two sites, 80% of our budget is just on the building and on staff that's in the building. There are 97 churches in Naperville we are not under-resourced. How are we different than anybody else? How are we transforming lives? So that would be what we would say is, you know, supposed to be our vision. I'm kind of having trouble seeing it.

Seth Price 52:55

Yeah, why don't think it's just you. I think a lot of people are having trouble seeing it. I mean, churches closed shoot, there was a church that closed up in, you know, in my hometown here just a few weeks ago. They just closed and then another church move right in. Like a new church start up and I was like, well, that's good. Maybe we need another church in that building that all that goes in that building a church for a week, or a year.

Jim Bono 53:19

I mean, as you can't really repurpose them for anything except maybe a preschool.

Seth Price 53:24

Yeah. Well, this is something I think that used to be like a convenience, not convenience store, like I like a Kroger or, you know, grocery box. So I mean, it could literally be, I mean, the Salvation Army is right next to it, like it could be annexed and actually used to give away free things to people that need it. And instead, we put a church in it. Which, again, I'm sure that church is doing some great things, but I know, there's homeless people and I know there's people that need to eat. And, you know, I mean there's other things we could do with that. You're not the only person that's told me that about, you know, sending youth away or doing anything like that really like…

Jim Bono 53:56

Yeah, and see Seth, I think that this is really a question that we really, really, really desperately need to think about. Because like, you know, I'm in one space in my life and you're in another space in your life, your kids are young. And having them in a church, having those experiences during those formative years, I think are super important. But I think having them in an envelope that is really doing something and going in a direction. I think that the vision that a church has, is more important than we often think about. Because if the only differences are like on your statement of faith but it doesn't really show up on a Sunday, then there's not a lot of differences between what goes on in the different buildings (of churches in your town). And so and I think there are fewer and fewer people from the outside that are interested in that. And so we're missing the opportunity to be transformative in the world, which was the original purpose of the church, the way that I read stuff.

And how will we be transformative? Because I think we see two models. We see models where the typical church and the typical congregation continues to have attendance slide. And it's in some places circling the drain. And we have a lot of other folks who are doing, you know, like, (I) love Rob bell. I think he's brilliant, really, like, by far the majority of this work. Some of the RobCasts I think, are really, really great and fun and some are...”okay, well, that was a, you know, my topic today,” but Okay, that was good.

But the dilemma that I see with a world full of podcasts is how do you exchange how do you how do you prosecute social justice? I mean, you can talk about it. And Rob does a pretty good job. He really supports a group that drills wells in Africa. And that's a big deal and they do this big annual thing. And that's wonderful. But how do you link 40 podcasts together to say, we need to fix our immigration policy, or we need to fix how we look at divisions of race, or class or or income inequality? I don't see an easy way to do that.

So I think the question of what is that next model for the church in the West is a desperately important question. Because the seminaries are way behind, because the seminaries are managed by the denominations, the denominations own the color and cut of the team jersey. That's not where the change will happen. If anything, that change will be retarded, especially at a denominational level. And sometimes the individual faculty can scoot around that. But a whole seminary really can't. So I don't quite know what that next model is going to be. But it's something I'm deeply interested in.

Seth Price 57:27

I am as well. But mostly because, well, I want to be careful how I say, so I get a lot out of my church. I love my church, but I often feel like I'm participating in church in some of the discussions that I have like this, or some of the discussions…like I'll have, you know, private messages or private phone conversations with other listeners. And sometimes that's a group conversation and that is just as much an impactful community and I grow and I learn and I, you know, we pray together. Just as with any church services, so I don't know what the future of the church looks like but I know it's not that brick building. I know there's a place to meet. And there's got to be something like that to come together and celebrate and love on each other intentionally with people that you don't normally see. But I don't think it's a bunch of people come into one place for one hour to be as you said, entertained. For me, the church has to be and I'm going to borrow this from one of the first episodes that I recorded, like Sean Palmer, I think as you said, he's like, in church needs to be these this five mile radius here, you know, in Chicago, or you know, Waynesboro, Virginia, these are people and so if they're hungry, if they have school debt, if their gutters fall off, I got you. I don't even care if you go to the church. I don't even care if you speak English. I got you. Because that's what we should do. I don't know how you pay for that. I don't know how you pay for that, how you organize it. And even once you figure that out, I don't how you I don't know how you don't become the next institution. But it's worth it’s worth wrestling with.

Jim Bono 59:02

I agree completely. It's worth wrestling with. And I think that you do that on a bit by bit basis. I don't think that the stretch is that far. I don't think we have to like blow up things to actually get there. There's a big church in Oakbrook called Christ Church Oakbrook. My friend, Bill and I were sitting at a local Starbucks and this big burly guy walks up to us and says, “Hi, I'm the administrative pastor of Christ Church Oakbrook, and sorry that I've been eavesdropping on your conversation, and it's fascinating.” And so we got into a three way conversation. They are very mindful about extending their church I was almost gonna say extending their brand…Oh, was that a little Freudian into Downers Grove. The town of Downers Grove. They're doing it in an industrial park they're renting space. They're renting a beautiful Auditorium in a wonderful corporate office that has like a three story atrium that looks out on the lake. Brilliant, beautiful. They rented on Sunday and everything else in small groups.

Seth Price 1:00:24

Yeah, just community.

Jim Bono 1:00:25

Yeah. In that what they've done is there's no capital, there's no overhead. There's no debt service. You know, they setup on Sunday, they break down on Sunday. And what they do, assuming that that's a viable model, is all the energy, all that money, all that engagement can be into the community, into the members, and into the community beyond the members. So I think without blowing things up, we can make those incremental moves.

Seth Price 1:01:02

I hope we do.

I want to end with this question, Jim. So give me two or three things that you're reading that as people listen, they're like, you know what? Yeah, I should go out and grab that book. Like, what are some things that are influencing what you're intaking now?

Jim Bono 1:01:18

Okay, well, there's a Universal Christ. I just flipped around at my desk and happened to pick it up, because of course, I just finished it. And I will probably read it again.

Seth Price 1:01:27

Is it good? I haven't read it. I bought it. I haven't read it.

Jim Bono 1:01:30

Ah……yes!

Seth Price 1:01:34

Just yes…?

Jim Bono 1:01:34

Do you get the emphatic nature of that response, dude, yes! Read this book. It's really, really different. It will take time. People can read this book one or two ways they can read it with their head or they can read it with the rest of their being. Now, I would suggest you read it with your head as a filter, because of course you need to, like, these are words I need to process them. But don't read the book, let the book read to you.

It's just really good. And then of course, I've got Heart and Mind right here next to it. And I just finished it. And what I like about this the most is the very last part because it's all about practice. Because, again, the church, the contemporary church, spends a lot of time on beliefs. And we need that, we need to have some basic beliefs, this is good, but we don't hardly spend any time on practice. And so we spend all our time arguing about our orthodoxy and orthopraxy. Well, I really, really like the fact that Alexander ends his book with practices, and some of them are contemplative. So those are two things I'm reading.

Seth Price 1:03:10

I haven't read the Universal Christ intentionally, because I plan to talk with Matthew Fox, about the universal Christ and a few other people. And again, I want to make sure I keep them siloed I have yet to be able to get Richard though..

Jim Bono 1:03:22

Matthew is on the other side of my bed. Matthew Fox and Lama Tsomo. His book, The Lotus & The Rose: A Conversation Between Tibetan Buddhism & Mystical Christianity. Matthew, I think you'll have a very enjoyable conversation.

Seth Price 1:03:45

I hope so. Good. Well, Jim, thank you so much for coming on.

Jim Bono 1:03:50

Yeah. You're welcome.

Seth Price 1:04:21

One of the biggest things that I've taken away as I've listened back to this is we have to make room for there to be nuance with each other, both interfaith and intrafaith. We have to be willing to let others hold truth in a different way than we have. And if there's anything that I really have taken heart to, or taken home, is I don't need to be the first person that talks-I need to let there be silence and let others speak into that silence and I'll probably learn something. And I can't wait to see what it is that I will learn. But I know that both I and the other person, wherever they happen to be at whatever time that we're having a conversation, we'll both grow as we can both learn to control our impulses to just have to be right.

I'm so blown away by the stories of everyone that I talked to. And it's a privilege to be able to do this. So today's music is from Dave Pettigrew. You can find more information about Dave at DavePettigrew.net. But I wanted to take a bit of time. So Dave sponsors something called Holt International. At the end of this, just go down to the bottom, click on the show notes, see if it's something that interests you; if it is fantastic, if not, maybe send it to somebody else.

I really look forward to talking with you all next week. Have a good one.

Call It Grace with Rev. Dr. Serene Jones / Transcript

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Serene 0:00

That's a great question. And that's a profoundly theological question and it is probably the most important question that anyone can ever ask about faith. I believe and find this in Calvin find it in the faith I grew up in, that the love of God is simply the truth about all of our lives. And that love for each person into the earth is just a given. It is the truth. And there's nothing that we can do to throw that love of God away. Because it's something God gives to us and it's not something we even have to receive in order for it to be true. Now sin comes secondly, in that sin describes all the different ways in which we rebel against God and rebel against, for me, the love the orientation towards human flourishing that we were destined towards. That's sin, but the fact that we sin doesn't cause God to stop loving us. That is the original grace! Which doesn't downplay the magnitude and horror of sin but says that back behind sin is a stable, unceasing rock hard truth and that is God is love and loves us.

Seth Price 1:26

Hello friends! Welcome to the show I'm really excited about this one. Normally I wait a month before I come back to record this little monologue, but man I just got off of the phone with with Reverend Dr. Serene Jones, and I can't stress enough how much I really liked the conversation and her book, Call it Grace. I don't know what I expected, but I know I've been blown away and I've come back to different For some of it off and on, but the the stories are hauntingly true. And I use those words with intention. It's so rare to have someone leave such personal stories on a page in such a public way. And then to do the work of God and theology through those stories, to talk so deeply about how personal experience impacts the way that we live out faith. We touch on racism. We touch on bigotry. And so without any further delay, I'd like to just get into the conversation with a Reverend, Dr. Serene Jones.

Seth Price 2:50

Reverend Dr. Serene Jones, I'm excited to welcome you to the show. I was also very excited. Surprised actually when I received a copy of your book Called it Grace, I had no idea what to expect. But that evening, I read, I think, just the foreword. And then I emailed back now the young lady that said, Hey, reach out to me. And I was like, “Yes. As soon as I'm done, can we please have a talk about this”? And so I'm excited to welcome you to the show.

Serene 3:16

Well, I'm so glad to be in conversation with you. And thanks for reading the book.

Seth Price 3:20

Yeah, well, thanks for writing it. So I have to think much like myself, there will be just people that are unfamiliar with with you. And so I wanted to set some context for the conversation that we're about to have. What would you say is serene Jones in a nutshell? Like what are some of the things in your life from your upbringing, possibly that helped inform the type of person the type of Christian the type of administrator at your school that you are today? What are some of those high points just to give a little background for you?

Serene 3:52

Okay, well, I'm presently president of Union Theological Seminary in the city of New York, which has the reputation of being the pre eminent liberal seminary. It's now an interfaith, increasingly interfaith, and people of wide diversity come here, also because we believe that faith and social justice are connected in profound ways. And that has been the story of my life. I grew up in Oklahoma, on the Christian Church Disciples of Christ, which in New York City no one's ever heard of, but for me, it was pivotal in my formation.

My father, Joe Jones, was himself a theologian by training and an administrator of seminaries and a social activist from the time I can remember. So in the book, I relate how my own understanding of the civil rights movement, my own, growing awareness of racism and white supremacy in the US, was always for me, tied to My faith and the call to struggle against injustice. It takes me through the my family's very intimate connection to the bombing of the Murrah Building in Oklahoma City and in the execution of Timothy McVeigh and it also covers just my midlife crisis of divorce and children and life and death in America today.

Seth Price 5:29

Right a minute ago before I did the you know, the intro there we were talking about how much I enjoyed this reading even the little intro to your book and where you had me, Serene, was you talk about a Woody Guthrie song, this land is your land this land is my land. And honestly, I'm finding that a lot of the songs that I grew up learning in grade school, they get progressively awful.

(laughter from Serene)

And so yeah, that's just the best way I can say that sentence just progressively awful even the stories behind them and you tell a lot of those stories here. But I asked just a smattering of people, just random people here in Central Virginia, what they knew of that song, none of them knew any of it. And most of them just thought it was kind of a glorified jingle. But you talked a bit about, you know, justice and racism and whatnot. I wonder if just for some context for some of the inherented we don't know about kind of topics, just kind of the story behind that song because I didn't know any of that. And that's when I set it down. I was like, “Oh, this, this is gonna be a different kind of book than I thought it was gonna be.”

Serene 6:34

Yeah, well, so I chose to talk about that song because I grew up singing it in church camp in Oklahoma, the verses we're all familiar with, and also, Woody Guthrie and his family grew up next door to my grandfather's family in the small town of Okehma, Oklahoma. So we had shared roots. And I also grew up singing, you know, this land is your land. In singing it with great cheer and happiness. But then one night sitting around the campfire with a bunch of church kids from this progressive church, the singer went on to sing the other two verses that we never hear.

And those verses talk about seeing a sign walking across America called “no trespassing.” And on the other side of that sign was nothing. And then when he got there says “that other side was made for you and me”. And then he says,

and I saw my people standing in the shadow of the steeple, in the hunger lines waiting for food, and I had to ask myself, is this land made for you and me?

And what was so striking to me even at age 11 why hadn't I heard those verses? Why hadn't I heard that bad parts and all of my life has been a process as a person of faith committed to social justice, to not lop off the hard parts of our own histories in our families, but also the hard parts of our American history. The pain and the suffering, the outright cruelty, the history of genocide and chattel slavery, and that's just scratching the surface of the stories about who we are that we don't want to deal with.

Seth Price 8:37

I remember, this came up recently, it was a song I think, last year, maybe the year before last with the whole Colin Kaepernick thing. Everybody was talking about, you know, maybe Francis Scott Key and just different verses to different songs and all these different nursery rhymes. It seemed like everything came up at the same time, and I was amazed at how much had either been changed because it was overtly racist and it was somehow okay. And had been sanitized for today's ears, even if even so many things is and I hadn't thought about it until a few weeks ago. My youngest is three and she came home and said, you know, we sit crisscross applesauce. And I was like, What are you talking about? And I grew up calling it Indian style, which now is wholly inappropriate. And so it makes sense. But I don't even know when that change happened. But I think there's so much there that we don't talk about anywhere, especially not in our families. But I don't know why, because I don't know who would have taught me. Does that make sense?

Serene 9:33

Yes.

Seth Price 9:35

Is that the onus of the Church, of school, of parents? Where do you see that?

Serene 9:38

Well, I mean, I was fortunate in my own family that I had parents that when they made these discoveries themselves, wanted to talk about it. And that doesn't mean that there weren’t things that they themselves were unaware of that they didn't teach me. But I think having family systems that are open to admissions of the gross failures of families and the harshness of family life are much more capable and resilient when it comes to dealing with the changes as a whole culture, our capacity to see the injustices in our culture become more clear. And obviously churches should be a place where you where you learn this. And I was also fortunate that I'm not one of the zillions of people who has a horrible church story to tell. I have good church stories to tell. And the church formed to me in profound ways. And that's where I learned about so many of the lies was in church. I didn't learn the lies in church, I learned about the fact they were lies in church. And in a lot of places churches are the places that teach the lies.

Seth Price 10:53

I want to build off of that. So I shared this quote from your book a few weeks and maybe we could go on social media and It really resonated with a lot of people. And so you said something we so often. And you say I later came to realize, and that's after the backdrop of some of what you just said,

you find the version of theology that our life needs.

And if theology is just you and I talking about God that really made me question, the God that I talked about and see, and the God that we worship just last week on Easter. But also it makes me question the, I guess, rightness is a wrong word, but of people that disagree with what God is and what God stands for. And I find it hard to balance truth with that quote, I guess, as a subtext, does that make sense? So I'm curious how you would handle that because both sides can use it if I want to use you know, you tell a story of asking students to write down after the Bush/Gore election, who what Jesus they brought, you know, those voters who worship and what Jesus they brought to class and whatnot. How do we approach God that way does that make sense?

Serene 12:01

Yeah, no, that's a great question. In writing that I, that we find the God our lives need. I think that all the time, everyone is in trying to figure out who God is and trying to relate to God and feel deeply connected, is going to automatically bring their own challenges, aches, and pains, worries, sufferings, and joys to that questioning. So, in a way, it's impossible for us to escape our own needs, and our own fears, and our own yearnings, when we come to the question of who God is in relation to our life.

That said, I also think that the faith that I grew up with has built into the faith itself this constant call to ask questions about how your own biases are getting in the way of the truth; and how your own life circumstances may be stopping your ability to actually figure out what it means to love in the world. So it's both existentially necessary that we bring ourselves to God and it's also, I think necessary for a healthy faith, to always be questioning those things that we bring to God and how they can distort the story detail.

Seth Price 13:33

So I get this question a lot, as people listening often are going through, I don't like the I find “deconstruction” a little bit violent of a metaphor for faith. But as they're going through, I guess, a crisis of faith. They'll often ask me by email or you know, other other ways, you know, “how do I know when I've asked enough questions? How do I know when I'm at a place that I can healthily look at things and be more whole?”

What would you say to that?

Serene 13:59

Well, if the questions that one is struggling with are in service of becoming whole yourself and also in service of a realization that your own wholeness depends upon the wholeness of the world and seeking to better love and connect with those around you and those suffering. I don't think there's ever too many questions to ask. Questions that are tied to how am I going to make more money, or how am I going to get back at my sister in law, or, you know, are we going to win the football game Friday night? No, those are not those are not worthy questions. But questions about, you know, am I loved and valued despite the history of the harms I may have perpetrated on others? And that's a valid question. And it's worth asking, and it's worth searching for an answer to. And we all ask those questions.

Seth Price 14:56

That's how you know that you're from the plains because inherently when you say football, most people think NFL or college. But then you quickly pivoted right back to Friday night, which is near and dear to my hearts high school football is, is probably the be all end all from the part of the country that we're from. (laughter from both)

I mean, it's it's popular here, you know, in the East Coast, but by no means is it the religion is probably a good metaphor for where I'm from. I mean, we're on the phone, but I wish you could have seen the smile when you said Friday because it instantly just brought back all of these memories.

I want to be honest I was a some many points of Calvinists, all the way through just from the upbringing of my parents. And then I went to Liberty and I stayed that way. And I no longer attest to that view of God. But I also had never read the the Institute book that you referenced that you got from your grandmother. And the way that you talk about John Calvin is not the way that I quote unquote, when I said that I was a “Calvinist”, treated people in any way, shape or form.

And so I'd like to kind of define that there. The way that you talk about Calvin was wholly foreign to me, but also entirely beautiful, because I always view it from the lens of the way you know, Jonathan Edwards style preacher would preach, you know that you're just so depraved, Serene. You just don't even understand how wretched you are! Which is not the God that I worship. But that's not the way that it seems like, at least not what you infer that, Calvin really espoused. Am I wrong in that because I'll be honest, I'm entirely ignorant, mostly because of my disgust as I graduated college with the inevitable outcomes to that way of thinking?

Serene 16:43

Yes, no. I mean, there are many ways of interpreting Calvin that have come down to the ages to us. My own reading of Calvin was really influenced by…I had just returned from two years of living in India and then in the Philippines. Philippines was in the middle of a civil war in India confronted enormous poverty. And I picked up The Institutes to read it back in seminary in New Haven. And I began to read this as a book that a pastor was writing to people who are oppressed and were hanging on for dear life, and needed a good word and needed strength to persevere through the oppression they were facing. And John Calvin actually says that in the introduction to The Institutes, that this is a book that he's writing for his people who are being persecuted.

What happens 100 years later with Calvin is that this book that was written to give strength to the broken is flipped over and turned into a set of doctrines that are used to justify persecution and oppression. And that's basically the history of Calvinism. And so what I wanted to do was get back underneath that and look at its original context and see why the pastoral Calvin is the Calvin that we should listen to. The one who's proclaiming the love of God that is, you know, unwavering in love, particularly for those who suffer.

Seth Price 18:27

You reference I think it's chapter three, chapter four, original sin, which is something I've been wrestling with a lot lately, particularly because I've been reading a lot of Eastern Orthodox theologians, because I wanted to try to broaden my horizon. So I've been reading a lot on original sin and original blessing. But you said something that caught me and you talk about the influence of original sin. And I think it's in the portion of your book where you talk about rowing the boat, for your grandfather, and I think his politician friend, who's African American, if I'm remembering correctly? And then just the inherent, you know, the filter that your grandfather has. But then somehow, you know, after the fact is as inappropriate jokes are told at the dinner table, and I've heard my share with those as well, that you know this wretchedness has been inherited somehow down through an original sin. But then you say,

Grace is more original than sin.

And so I'd like to focus on that part. Because I feel like everybody is really good about talking about missing the mark and sin. But we're not all that good about talking about grace. And so what do you mean when you say “grace is more original than sin”?

Serene 19:34

Oh, that's a great question. And that's a profoundly theological question and is probably the most important question anyone can ever ask about faith. That I believe and find this in Calvin find it in the faith I grew up in, that the love of God is simply the truth about all of our lives. And that love for each person and through the Earth is just a given. It is the truth. And there's nothing that we can do to throw that love of God away. Because it's something God gives to us and it's not something we even have to receive in order for it to be true.

Seth Price 20:17

Yeah.

Serene 20:18

Now sin comes secondly in that sin describes all the different ways in which we rebel against God and rebel against, for me, the love-the orientation towards human flourishing that we were destined towards. That's sin. But the fact that we sin doesn't cause God to stop loving us—that is the original grace. Which doesn't downplay the magnitude and horror of sin, but says that back behind sin is an unstable, unceasing walk hard truth and that is God's love.

Seth Price 21:36

As I was reading, I was highlighting Serene, just different stories that you tell about your life and your upbringing and so many of them are so deeply personal and heartbroken, or heartbreaking. And it made me wonder if I would be able to write something so deeply personal and like pull back layers of myself that I would protect maybe only for a close family. And so I have no idea how you did that. But I found myself punting like alright, I don't know how I can talk about this, and it not be too emotional and then punting again and then punting again. But I want to zero in on a few specific stories that really were deeply impactful to me.

You talk in a chapter on Barth and in the Bell Tower, I think is what it is. And you talk about the story that if you're going to a birthday party, at a pool and the pool is closed, and then you have to go to a different pool. And that is basically the pool of African American Jews. And what surprises me so much of your story, Serene is the lack of self filtering. You know, that you just allow things to be honest. And honestly, I was surprised.

But I wonder if you could kind of go through that story a bit and kind of how that changed your mentality or at least helped you come through some self realization.

Serene 22:45

Yeah. So I was so excited about that birthday party. And the car was filled with all of the quite neighborhood girls in from the white suburb that we lived in at the time in Richardson, Texas. And when we got to the pool, where we were going to have the party was closed. And so my father says, Well, okay, we're going to go to the pool and the other part of town when every girl in the car knew that that was the pool for African Americans swim. And my father hears this voice come out of the backseat, saying, I don't want to swim with black people. And he gets out of the car and asks “who said that awful thing”? And I have to raise my hand, because it came from my mouth.

And I write about both how angry I was at my father for ruining my party because I knew every little girl in that backseat was thinking the same thing I was, but I also felt so ashamed that something had come out of my mouth that against everything my parents did for. And my parents had both been so active, and were at the moment, so active in the civil rights movement in Dallas. And what I used that as an occasion for is reflecting on the fact that the racism, and the white supremacy, that runs through our culture is so deep that you can have the most progressive parents and the most progressive teachers in the world but all of that racism is still going to seep into you and it seeped into my little girl body. And I had all sorts of unconscious biases that I picked up from the culture that were then coming out of my mouth.

My father in order to really impress upon me the seriousness of the wickedness of what I had said gave me the choice of going back home to the house with all our friends and participating in my own birthday party. And then never having another birthday party again, or not participating in the party and having future birthday parties. I chose to go back and have a party with my friends. It was a really heavy duty punishment to lay upon a child who, at some levels, is just espousing what everyone else thought. But at the same time, it really got through the message, the moral message, about the seriousness of white supremacy and racism.

Of course, my wonderful father the next morning, I woke up and he began to plan next year's birthday party with me. So the punishment didn't hold but it sure came across and I honestly think and I say this throughout the book, that until white people in America are able to admit and talk about the white supremacy and racism that runs through all of our families. And that cannot help but embed itself in our unconscious mind until we're able to talk about that. We're not going to be able to get beyond it. And in this book, that's why I tried to talk about growing up in Oklahoma and the white supremacy that was everywhere. I also tell a terrible story about my realization that a lynching of a young woman in 1911 took place in the small town of Okehma, where most of the town was comprised of my family, and that it's highly unlikely that they were not a part of that. And that's something as a white person I have to come to grips with. That racial violence isn't something It's such in the far distant past. It's something that's in my family.

Seth Price 27:04

When I give people critiques like that, because I try to, honestly, I'll ask you this both as a parent and then just as a human. So when I catch my kids saying things I really struggle with how to address it, because it is shameful. But I also wonder what I've done as a parent, to make it somehow be okay to think that? So that's one question, how is a parent to even do that without belittling, you know, my kids, but also stressing the importance? Because I don't want to make them, I do want to make them fearful, but I want to make them fearful of the status quo, not fearful of voicing their opinions and filtering themselves. But then I'll also get from adults. “Yeah, but Serene, those were your ancestors. Like you didn't do that. And so you can't held any blame”. “You know, I have “black friends” or I have quote unquote, this or I didn't own any slaves, or I didn't do this or do that”. Which is the most common response that I get from people when I engage in conversations on race or white supremacy. So how do I how would I do either one of those with good practices?

Serene 28:15

Mm hmm.

Well, I think that with regard to the first in terms of parenting, I've tried to parent my own daughter in such a way that I don't shame her but I'm constantly trying to educate her. And never hesitating to point out when she is expressing the dominant cultures, views around race and it's particularly really hard to have your own daughter come home and say things that are totally sexist about women. You know, how and how do you sort of point another way forward? And, you know, shame is a very complicated dynamic and Sometimes it can be terribly destructive. But sometimes I think that when it comes to these horrendous sins of our past we need to feel a little more shame. Because it is shameful.

Now with respect to like the present day and saying to people who would respond to my story, “well, Serene, you're not, you know, you, you haven't done all those things that your grandfather's family probably did”. But the fact of the matter is that I have made my way forward in life taking advantage of, and oftentimes not even aware of how much I'm taking advantage of, my white privilege. That I was able…I don't even know what happened to Laura Nelson's family. She left a baby daughter by the steps of the bridge before she was lynched. I don't know the story of that daughter, but I know my story. And my story was one in which I had all the confidence in the world that it took to go to college and then to go to graduate school and get a PhD. I had parents and grandparents who were able to economically help me do that and stepped into the Presidency of Union. Thinking that that was a place that I belonged, and that I could do this. And that legacy of Jim Crow and chattel slavery has, as we can look around the country and see, devastated the opportunities for African Americans to have a history like mine. And in that sense, I'm still bear that legacy in my own successes.

Seth Price 30:56

The chapter that you talk about going to India you talk about Indian Liberation Theology, which is the first time I've ever heard those three words put together. I talk a lot. I hear a lot about black liberation theology. And then I've also heard a lot about, you know, the liberation theology of, you know, Latin America. So how does that differ Indian liberation theology than the other or does it?

Serene 31:21

Yeah, well, so in India, I was studying at a small seminary, Tamil Nadu Theological Seminary in Madurai, and it was really the birthplace of what's called Dalit liberation theology. And Dalit is the word for servant. It's now the word that people use to refer to that whole group of people that Gandhi called “The Untouchables”. Those who are outside of the caste system because they are considered so impure. And so low in terms of their human status that they're made to be the street cleaners, the sewage cleaners, they are the outcast of India's caste system.

And what was so exciting about the seminary is that most of the students there and the professors were Dalits. And they were starting to push back against this caste system, and to say, No, this is wrong, these people are valuable. Because what's so interesting is that, you know, Gandhi himself, pushed back against British imperialism, and he did mobilize many Untouchables. But even Gandhi himself, did not question the caste system, and that the Dalit community now is pushing back on it is in an Indian context is very radical. And it's also very dangerous.

Seth Price 33:04

So how is that? And this may be, maybe you don't know, how is that changing faith there, but I don't necessarily mean face Christian faith, just overall faith? Because, you know, faith in politics and faith in policies and everything is intertwined regardless of whether or not you think that they are. They always are, is it changing India at all? Is it making it better is making it worse?

Serene 33:29

Well, right now, the leadership of India is very pro the status quo and traditionalist with respect to the caste system. So it's very hard in India today to be Christian or Muslim or to be Dalit, or Buddhist. And so you find these communities working together to push back against that caste system because they all fall outside of it. And to say no for India to be a true democracy, we cannot have a caste system. And that caste system in India is deep. It goes back thousands and thousands of years.

Seth Price 34:13

Well, of course, yeah, I mean, we don't have a caste system. But that's like when people say, you know, in America that the politicians that have term limits are politicians to do this, or do this or do this. But why would they? Why would they vote themselves into less power? Why would they do that, I don’t think that I would? I would like to think that I would. But I'm also honest enough to know, I don't know that I would.

Serene 34:36

Well, I think in India, it's very interesting that you find more and more people who are Hindu in their origins and upbringing, and even high caste Hindus who are rejecting that view of what it means to be Hindu because of the pressures that had been brought by all of these marginal groups that are saying “wait the system is wrong”. So it's even changing Hinduism itself.

Seth Price 35:01

You referenced the Timothy McVeigh bombing in Oklahoma. And when I read that visions of you know Christ Church or even just the Sri Lanka Eastern politics, you know so many people, just but that happens every week if people just look for it like it's, it's everywhere, and you talk about hatred, and then you basically write in a, you know, a message or a sermon or a speech that you would given that I honestly, if someone came into my church and blown something up, like I would feel the same way you would. Honestly, I would probably feel that way if someone talk poorly about my child to my face or the so there's a massive tension between anger and hate, and love and compassion. And the line that you write that struck me the most. And I've thought on it for weeks now. Is is after you've had your speech, you say

my feet took me to my Pew and my body sat down, and I've almost become an atheist, I thought for a moment. And then the years to come, I would realize the fine line between the two atheism and divine vision, nothingness and the holy.

And so I want to know if you can break that apart again, just how those four things interplay, atheism and divine vision and nothingness in the holy. And I asked that because I feel like a lot of people as they questioned God, they eventually just pull the ripcord and fall into atheism because they don't know where to go. They just they hit a roadblock and they just I can't do this anymore. I'm so frustrated and I'm so mad and I'm just not interested in investing the emotional capital into working through this anymore.

Serene 36:35

Yeah.

So in the in that sermon that I preached, you know, I think, as most people expect with a sermon, they want a nice ending to it. And this was just weeks after the bombings, in which I lost friends, in which my brother in law was injured. And the state of horror and confusion and grief inside me was so powerful. And in my questions about God, you know how can you ask these questions, even if you know they're stupid questions because you don't think God acts this way. But you ask yourself anyway, how could God allow this? You know, where is there any meaning or hope in this? Those things are so devastating your whole internal world just collapses. And what I wanted to do in that sermon was just be honest with everybody and say this is what it's like, everything collapses inside of you. And if you're too quick, to try to fix it all up and make it look pretty and bring in God as if God is a nice, quaint, little answer to all of our suffering then your faith isn't worth anything. But stepping into that place of utter desolation is scary. And it's in one of those moments that you seriously question everything you thought you believed. But if you're not brave enough if you're not serious enough to step into that place of utter doubt, then the faith that you have is not strong enough to hold you. Yeah. And I had the courage to step there.

And it was just in the experience for me in that moment that I go on to write is when I sat down in my pew the woman next to me to softly put her hand on my leg to call me down because I was shaking so much. And it was within that minute, in that touch, that I found grace.

Seth Price 38:38

And I'd argue that's what the church was right there, you know, a safe place to be transparent and raw, and then that same safe place to hold you. You know, to reference a story with your daughter, you know, she, I forget what the coins I'm a banker by trade and so I like that story, but you know, a safe place to hold someone.

We're coming close to the end of our time I could I could probably talk to you for hours. I really liked that so many different parts of your book. But it's not, actually this is the first time in almost two years of doing this, that I've ever spoken to someone that is basically a spearhead of a force that trains pastors and those with a theological mindset bent for the future. And so, where should Christians seminaries be heading? Like what do we do if you look at or you know, as Union or other seminaries, you know, here in Virginia Baptist Theological Seminary, literally, I think shuttered its doors in February. So where does the church need to be training their leaders to take it as you see it right now?

Serene 39:47

Oh, that's such a wonderful question. And it and it is the question of the day for theological education. And what I believe is that we're in the midst right now of another reformation of the magnitude of the one that happened 500 years ago; when everything is being turned upside down when the truth is that we held as you know, invaluable are now being questioned. And that's also when I go back to John Calvin. John Calvin didn't think that he was breaking from the Catholic Church. But he did know that his criticisms were searing and serious. And he was dealing with a whole population of people who no longer believed. And that's the same kind of moment we're in. And it's a moment of enormous crisis, but it's also in a moment in which there's the capacity for really mind shattering creativity.

And I think in so far as our seminaries are able to still teach the students the traditions and the stories that had been so crucial to the faith for centuries. But in teaching these stories to allow students to ask the question, “well, what did they mean to us today?” And the answers that were coming up with and I think our children and our children's children will come up with a very different than the answers that we found with respect to how we understand God. And at Union, where I am that is also opening our doors, not only to Christian students, but to Buddhist and Muslim students, and to the many many unaffiliated students who come here who don't come out of a tradition but out of a spiritual yearning. Because what the future holds for us is, if we make it, we're going to have to make it all together. And that conversation needs to be between all of us together.

Seth Price 41:41

I said that was the last question but I have one more question after that. And so if I hear that and I agree wholeheartedly. How do I do that at the dinner table? Because that conversation is gonna come home. So how do I do it and not be aggressive? Or if there's a parent listening, going? Yeah, we need to talk about this. How Do I do this with my child or with my pastor or with the deacon, and not be aggressive? Because I know one thing when people get angry you just can't think correctly anymore, that that's just not the way the brain works. So how do we do it well?

Serene 42:16

Well, for me, the most powerful way to talk about it is just what is the biggest truth that Jesus came to speak? And what is the biggest truth about the God of Jesus, and that is this message of love. And if you can get people talking about what they think love means, and what kind of life Jesus calls us to live, it shifts the dynamics from right and wrong and pronouncements to talking about a story of a man who healed people and proclaimed liberation. And that's the kind of space where, you know, people who have read Scripture and think about Jesus can talk about it. I mean, Jesus is amazing, and an incredible starting point for these discussions. So you're not going to find anything where Jesus is talking about being anti-LGBTQ. I mean, it's just not there. Nothing about choice. Nothing about women's bodies and their rights, you know, so it opens up space.

Seth Price 43:19

Oddly enough. I almost had one of those arguments today with a friend of mine that was writing me something about the Boy Scouts. And there's a big thing in the news about this. And he's like, Yeah, what's because of all the, you know, they decided to let there be homosexual scout masters. And I almost said something and then I deleted it. And then I almost said something else. And then I deleted it. I thought about calling him and then I hung it up. Because I'm still too angry because there's so much retconning and confirmation bias that I just I'm still struggling. I know what I want to say. I have no idea how to say it. I know it's gonna start with these cases go back to 1944 so your whole premise is unfounded.

But either way that is entirely off topic. Thank you so, so much for coming on. It was a privilege to be able to read your book. And I think the world has a better place for it. So where would people go? I've given away a handful of copies already have recommended it to I don't know how many people because it's honest, in a world full of books that say the same thing. Yours says different things in an entirely honest way. And I really appreciate that.

So where would you point people to…to either engage with you, maybe to learn more about the work that you're doing a union? The book is available everywhere that you can buy books, and links for that will be you know, as people go back to the show notes in the episode, but where would you send them to engage a bit with you?

Serene 44:47

Um, well, the webpage at Union has a lot about all the things that we're doing, as well as ongoing conversations with me I have a Twitter account and I am just one voice amongst many people who are struggling and trying to find answers to these questions, so that's where I would point them. And to you, your show!

Seth Price 45:12

Well, thanks. Yeah, I would second all of that…Robert's Rules, I’ll third it, or whatever it's called all of that so well thank you again I've really enjoyed the conversation.

Serene 45:24

Yes thank you so much and have a great day you as well.

Seth Price 45:40

I'd like to end with reading a quote from Serene’s book. It's a quote of a quote. And so she references Howard Thurman often off and on throughout the book, and how deeply impactful his and other words like his work on her life. And there's a quote towards the end, on forgiving that really speaks to me. So I'd like to share that with you. He says,

There is in every one of us an inward sea. In that sea there is an island; and on that island there is a temple. In that temple there is an altar; and on that altar burns a flame. Each one of us, whether we bow our knee at an altar external to ourselves or not, is committed to the journey that will lead him to the exploration of his inward sea, to locate his inward island, to find the temple, and to meet, at the altar in that temple, the God of his life.

And what a better picture than that, if we'll do the work, that hard work of wrestling with who we really are, which is really beloved, honoring that and realizing that everyone else is also beloved. Man, I can't imagine what that would do, to the way that we love to the way that we're called to love others to love ourselves, I can't imagine what that would do to the way that we blame others. So many evils of the world through which is realized what we actually are. I hope you’ve enjoyed the conversation.

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