The Hyphen of "Judeo-Christian" with Avi Finegold and Stephen Backhouse / Transcript

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Seth Price 0:08

Folks, welcome back to the show. This is the Can I Say This at Church podcast I am, as always, Seth, your host, bringing you some new content for December, I warned you. I know last week was a repeat though Austin Fischer is freaking brilliant. I really should have him come back on. Anyhow, new content today. So I'll Avi Finegold and Stephen Backhouse Steven is not new to the show, but obvious. And man, I laughed a lot in this conversation very, very much so. And I think you will, too. Slight trigger warning, you might get mad at some of these things, right? But that's okay. And if you're a patreon supporter, you heard some things beforehand. That are hilarious. And this is just a quick PSA, you should already be supporting the show. And if you do, thank you. I'm glad you're here. Thank you so much for downloading. Without any further ado, let's go.

Seth Price 1:21

Let's see. Excellent. “Recording in progress” (Zoom sound). There we go. We did it. Alright, who wants…you're not both doctors. Right? Or you both are doctors?

Avi Finegold 1:28

I'm a rabbi. He's a doctor together where Rabbi-Dr.!

Seth Price 1:34

Yeah. Can I say it that way? How can I make that work? Anyway? Here we go.

Avi Finegold 1:39

So these questions when you have a rabbi and a doctor. It's like is it Rabbi Doctor, is it doctor rabbi?

Seth Price 1:44

It is the same with Reverend when I have a reverence on like the Reverend, Dr. Pastor, preacher, Deacon Steven Backhouse, you know? Anyway, let's roll. Rabbi Avi Fine gold and Stepen Backhouse. Steven, welcome back to the show. Avi, welcome to the show for the first time.

Stephen Backhouse 2:06

Thank you!

Avi Finegold 2:07

Thank you. Yeah, hopefully not the last.

Seth Price 2:09

Yeah. No, let's do it again. We'll do it tomorrow. We won't do it tomorrow. Tomorrow's Thanksgiving. But you know what I mean?

Yeah. Welcome to the show. For those that are listening. I have no idea when this episode will release probably in the next few weeks. But we were recording the day before the United States holiday of Christmas. And I say that because Avi, you're in Canada. And I know your Thanksgiving listening was awhile ago.

Avi Finegold 2:24

Yes, Thanksgiving…

Stephen Backhouse 2:26

You said Thanksgiving or Christmas?

Avi Finegold 2:28

You said Christmas!

Seth Price 2:29

I don't even know how the internet works. Let me start again. (laughter)

We're recording this the day before Thanksgiving in the United States, which Christmas I think falls on the same for everybody, if celebrated. However, before the day before Thanksgiving, United States, which is different in the UK. I don't believe you have the “United States Thanksgiving” in the UK. And I know I have friends in Canada, and they've already had theirs. So that's kind of contextual here. Yeah. So you've been giving thanks for months now. But welcome to my Thanksgiving holiday. Avi, I appreciate you coming.

Avi Finegold 2:59

Well, you know, I spent 10 years in the US so I've done my fair share of both cooking and being at Thanksgivings.

Seth Price 3:07

You celebrate both?

Avi Finegold 3:10

I have an American wife. Look, I celebrated neither until I moved to the States. And then I realized that it was such a big deal in America to celebrate Thanksgiving, which is not a bad thing it's important. A lot fewer Canadians do the whole Thanksgiving traditions. And so I never really did it. And now we sort of like celebrate a bit on both. It's hard to celebrate Thanksgiving as an American in Canada when it's a workday and the other Americans that would love to celebrate Thanksgiving with you have a workday too. So what I might do is that Friday Night Dinner, which is our big Sabbath dinner, it's a day later, it'll be Friday night, and we actually have Americans coming for dinner and I may just make like a turkey, some stuffing and, you know, come up with the the day late and $1 Short Thanksgiving, for the Americans.

Seth Price 3:54

Well, you know, you're giving thanks for Black Friday. So I appreciate that, which I don't participate in. So, well good, well, let's start with you. Avi, since Stephens been on the show a couple of times, if you were to explain to people who and what you are kind of why you are, what would you answer to that?

Avi Finegold 4:09

I'm Avi Feingold. I am an adult educator in Montreal and online. I'm a rabbi. Without a pulpit, we tried the pulpit thing. My wife is also in the pulpit and we realized that two pulpits was not a good idea. Especially in two different congregations. It's I always joke that it's like a genetic disease, ordination. It's okay if you're a carrier you're just not supposed to marry another one. And like, you know, after a year, we were like, You know what, let me take that step back. I love adult education. It was a much bigger it was what I was doing beforehand. It's what I'm doing now and I'm much more appreciative and interested in doing that kind of work. And so that's what I do. Nowadays, a lot of it has shifted to online and podcasting and I have multiple podcasts of which one of which I'm guessing we're going to talk about today. But I have others and I like to teach I like to give over ideas. I think that ideas are at the bedrock of what we do, whether within faith communities or secular communities. And that's what I like, to disseminate big ideas, especially other people's I don't…my ideas are whatever.

Seth Price 5:19

I agree with that. My ideas are very little I would rather other people talk, Stephen, welcome back. So people should know you because I think you've been on the show at least twice. Maybe more than twice.

Stephen Backhouse 5:30

Yeah, we did a two parter while ago on nationalism and patriotism.

Seth Price 5:34

Well, that doesn't exist anymore. Stephen, you know, we fixed that right. Biden won the election! Like we're done with nationalism, absolutely. What would you want people to know, anything, anything, or we could just say, listen to the old ones. I mean, we could be lazy.

Stephen Backhouse 5:48

I sort of do a Christian version of what Avi does, which is I also don't have a pulpit. But I do spend a lot of time doing education in Christian theology, kind of in unorthodox places. So in businesses or in charities, or in churches, but places where groups don't normally have space for theology, I like to bring that in and, and teach people how to think Christianly about what they're doing. So it's usually Christian groups that bring me in. But just to think about how we use power, how we resolve conflicts, what we think about money, power, government, nationalism, patriotism. How Jesus works out in the modern world, there's a lot of that stuff that a lot of people are doing, they've started an organization or started a movement, and they, they want to find ways to connect that to the to the faith that they've got. So that's what I do. I call it Tent Theology so I bring that around and open up theology spaces there.

Seth Price 6:46

I'm not certain that I know how to think Christian(ly) when there's like, 97,000 denominations that all think differently, but that's not why y'all are here. So, um, so y'all started a podcast, which I've really enjoyed binging over the last week, I've listened to about half of your episodes, which is actually the inverse of what I usually do. I almost never listened to religious podcasts. Because I'm, I'm terrified that I will steal other people's thoughts, ideas and questions and make them my own. And I won't learn anything that way. I felt like if it doesn't come from me organically, and for the most part of selling a friend last night, the show is mostly out of my curiosity, this podcast, if I'm not curious about a topic than the show just doesn't happen. That all. I'm glad other people like to listen, but that's not the primary purpose. So you started a podcast, it's either called “hyphen” or “the hyphen”. I'm not sure…

Avi Finegold 7:38

It started with “the hyphen”, but I feel like it's kind of The Facebook, we kind of dropped “the”

Seth Price 7:43

Yeah.

Stephen Backhouse 7:45

We are following the Facebook trajectory.

Avi Finegold 7:47

Absolutely. Yeah.

Seth Price 7:49

So if you had to drill it down beyond the Facebook, which is now Meta, what what is what is more, more primal than hyphen?

Avi Finegold 8:00

Well it is the space between the notes right? So the space…exactly, there you go. And then eventually, we're going to call it “Our Space” instead of “my space”, because it's not just about me, right?

Seth Price 8:13

First episode will be named Tom. Just Tom. Yes. Exactly.

Avi Finegold 8:19

Moving further back in time to Friendster, AOL Instant Messenger,

Stephen Backhouse 8:27

Avi! Facebook is a name that's going to be available soon. So why don't we just call our podcast, the Facebook and then start from there?

Seth Price 8:33

Oh my gosh, what have I done? What have I done?

Stephen Backhouse 8:37

We better explain Seth, what it is.

Seth Price 8:40

So what is the hyphen and I joked a moment ago that, that I was talking with your with my son? And he was like, what is that we googled it, and madness ensued, and I only had like 90 seconds to talk with him. So it's not like I've had time to unpack it at all. So what is the hyphen? And how does it kind of relate to what y'all do and what you're trying to do?

Avi Finegold 8:59

Oh, who's going to take this one?

Stephen Backhouse 9:00

Oh, it's your idea Avi.

Avi Finegold 9:03

So I mean, we, I think, Hyphen came up like sort of at the end. And it came out of this idea that, you know, you know, there's no such thing as a Judeo-Christian right? That that is the word exists everywhere. But but it doesn't exist in practicality. There is no Judeo-Christians. That's just not a thing, right? There are Judeo’s, Judeans, Jews, right? And then there are Christians, and the hyphen in the middle is designed to like unite them. But in reality, it just, there's so little that actually happens in day to day life with Jews and Christians together that that hyphen might as well not exist. And we just wanted to highlight, I guess, the fact that at some point in time, it's it's important for Jews to have conversations with Christians and vice versa, not because we're trying as we say in the intro, not because we want to convert each other and God knows there are many to try from the Christian side to convert Jews. It is not about that and is not about Jews trying to say that we are right. And whatever we did is completely right, and the Christianity should just go away because it's a false religion. It's not about that either. Because we got rid of the disputations in the 12th century, right‽ Well, not really. But like we at that point, we realize they're not good ideas. But the conversations are there, and we are there.

And I guess, you know, like, the only thing that really stands after talking to Stephen for so long, the stands between us is this hyphen. It's so little, I mean, the thing that stands between us is really Zoom. Right? So we could have just called a Judeo-Zoom-Christian!

Seth Price and Stephen Backhouse 10:43

(laughter)

Seth Price 10:44

That wouldn't have worked,

Avi Finegold 10:46

No, exactly. And so that's where it's at. And that's what it highlights. And that's what it's, that's what we're trying to really do is have these conversations between the Judeo and the Christian and just talk about the similarities. And it really started at a really basic, much more prosaic, understanding of like what I wanted. I was like, you know, we were releasing our Christmas episode next week. And I had no idea what an Advent calendar was. I kept seeing them in stores, I kept, you know, passing by, I had some sort of idea of what it might be. But I really had no idea. I had no idea what happens, right, during the Eucharist in different denominations. I know that that exists. I know that there's a wafer, I know that there's wine. And like, I just wanted to know what these things were.

And I was like, if I have these questions about Christianity, I am sure that Christians have questions about Jews, right? What is the difference between the Hasids, right, that have those big black coats and the curls and all that or what is the shofar actually used for in like, you know, during Jewish services, as opposed to in Christian Services? Like what is a Passover Seder, what happens during that time?

Seth Price 11:49

The first one that I've known what you said, right there? Passover Seder, that's the first one.

Avi Finegold 11:53

Have you seen in some churches they use the ram's horn?

Seth Price 11:56

So I grew up Southern Baptist, so absolutely not. Yeah, we're not allowed to move. You sit in the pews. And you sit there till we tell you to ties, then you move?

Avi Finegold 12:07

The Hasidic community is the ultra orthodox, the ones that are likely to see the pictures of the stereotypical looking Jewish individual, which is a very small minority of Jews, the ones that have the long black coats, beards, and the curls and stuff like that, oh, who are those people? What do they do? You know, like, are they really exactly like the Amish? Or is it just the same dress? You know?

So these questions, but then we realized that like, there was much more to it than that, right? How do we read the Bible? How do we interpret the Bible together? What do each of us say about various passages? How is our respective histories affecting each other? Right? How does me not knowing as a Jew about what happened all the way up to the Council of Nicea? Right? Or during the Reformation? I should know that because that affects my existence, day to day as a Jew. Right?

My Jewish existence is affected by these Christian historical elements. And vice versa. And so those conversations have been happening and continue to happen on this podcast. And I think that that was, the goal. Two people who know not everything. If we're generalists, right, we know enough about a little about everything in our respective faiths that we can have these conversations relatively intelligently, make minimal amount of mistakes, and people can just be a fly on the wall, having, you know, hearing these things. And although we'd love to have more participation we should hear from people what they want to hear as oppose to just our ideas.

Seth Price 13:43

Those are Pandora's boxes. I did that once. I had like 90 suggestions and was like, I can't do all these. Also, half of these I’ve already done. So that tells me who's been listening. Who hasn't been, but I'm aware that most people are not like me, most people are not completionists where they will log into a show and they're like, “Oh, well, I have to go back to number one. Listen to all of them.” Which is I find deeply satisfying, but I know for most people. daunting, daunting, though, the favorite podcast to do that with is one called Behind the Bastards. If you like history, it is fantastic.

Avi Finegold 14:13

Okay, well, yeah we will check that out. Now's the time for to do it with us because we're not even like 10 episodes in and we're gonna go to 600 episodes easily.

Seth Price 14:22

Yeah. Stephen, do you agree?

Stephen Backhouse 14:27

Well, we are the Facebook now aren’t we?

Seth Price 14:29

Yeah, that's very Meta. See how we pulled it all back together there. Even the word Meta pulls it back together. Stephen, do you agree with obvious definition of the hyphen? And then I'm also curious, is the length of the hyphen differ based on the country that you're in? Because Judeo-Christian is a massive hyphen here in the United States? But I'm not certain about Canada, which you both can probably speak to nor about the UK at all. Like is it stretched and elongated or shortened depending on what political or religious posture we're trying to take?

Stephen Backhouse 14:56

I think I'm probably taking this from Avi observation actually. But I think the way a Judeo-Christian operates in reality is usually just a bunch of Christians trying to prove that they're not just a monolithic culture. So they say like, let's rope the Jews in with us to sort of stab against. It's usually like the Muslims or the atheists or something. Right. So I don't know if how genuine it is amongst Christians. I suspect Judeo-Christian is not a term that was coming up by the minority. The Jewish community is not making up Judeo-Christian it is the Christians who are using that term. And then what kind of Christians are using that term? And why? Yeah, so to me, I interrogate that term a little bit. And I wonder whether it is just trying to co opt or or obfuscate kind of what's really going on.

Seth Price 15:49

Have either of y'all dug in to the the origins of of that. It must be marketing, and there's no way it's not marketing?

Stephen Backhouse 15:56

Yeah, Avi have you have you? I don't know.

Avi Finegold 15:58

Yeah, there is actually a book, a work of philosophy, a French philosopher, Jacques Cousteau Lyotard. I'm sure, Stephen, you've heard of him? I don't know if you have Seth.

Seth Price 16:07

Nope.

Avi Finegold 16:09

I'm not trying to call names here.

Seth Price 16:12

You don't know this, Avi, but I also transcribe these episodes, I'm gonna need you to email me how to spell that word.

Avi Finegold 16:16

It’s like leotard but with a “y” at the front.. Lyotard. And he actually wrote a highly technical work of philosophy called The Hyphen. And it's a note this connection between Judeo-Christian but it's not something that anybody can and should even read it. I'm saying it's important. It's one of those like, you know, I don't know what your background is what you studied in university, but I'm sure there's a…

Seth Price 16:44

Communication. It's just, like a minor in philosophy and theology that I didn't complete either. Yeah, but I also went to Liberty University. So everything is kind of inside that.

Avi Finegold 16:57

Oh really! Wow, oh my God. Yeah, we got to talk about that.

Seth Price 16:59

Sure, lets go.

Avi Finegold 17:01

When we do our hyphen show on religious universities from the Jewish and Christian side, we can get on that? So he wrote this book, and I know that it exists, I own it. I've never read it, I probably never will. It's just this thing. But my guess is that or my sense is that you're right, that it was much more invented from the Christian side to justify, to validate, the idea of, you know, we are not just this new religion, or whatever it is, we have these deep roots. And we have these values that are, you know, and we are all encompassing. And in North America, Judeo-Christian, in theory, when the term was coined, was likely all encompassing, because the Muslim world and the Eastern traditional world was not there.

But what I was going to answer for you is that I think it depends where you stand. Because on the Christian side, if you're on the Christian side of that, your relationship to the Judeo was probably minimal to nothing. And except for in church, when you read about the Jews, and even that has no bearing on the Jews of today.

Seth Price 18:19

What do you mean?

Avi Finegold 18:20

The Jews of the Hebrew Bible and of the New Testament are not at all the Jews that are exist. I mean, they are descendants of but the practice, the faith, of Jews in the first century, and in the fifth century BCE, and post that is completely unrecognizable to the Judaism that we have today other than like, the broadest strokes of an outline of Sabbath and worship and stuff like that. They didn't have worship three times a day, and we don’t have sacrifices in the temple. Right? So we're saying that, that, if you think you know, Judaism, because you read the New Testament, and you know about the Pharisees, or you read about, you know, the Sabbath violator in the book of Numbers, you don't know Judaism today.

Seth Price 19:06

But there was a History Channel documentary every year. And I watched that, so.

Stephen Backhouse 19:10

So that’s it then!

Avi Finegold 19:13

Sure.

Stephen Backhouse 19:14

I haven't even watched that. So when, Avi had this idea. We didn't know each other.

Avi Finegold 19:18

Oh, hold on just one second! But from the Christian side, it's almost non existent. But from the Jewish side, even though very few Jews speak to Christians about Christianity, we are living in a Christian culture in North America wide, right. It's a little less of that bleed over in Canada here. But we are living in a society that is permeated with Christianity. I mean, Christmas is here. I live in Quebec, which is a formerly highly, highly, highly Catholic Province, which still has the vestiges of it, even though it is deeply secular. And when you're deeply, deeply, secular you're pushing back against something and that something is Catholicism, which means that we are still dealing with a highly, highly Christianized society. So we think about that a lot more than we think about then, you know, we don't talk to them necessarily. They're not necessarily people that we talk to about faith. But on the Jewish side, that Judeo-Christian thing is felt intimately because we are in somehow, you know, roped into this faith into this idea of what Judeo-Christian is.

Seth Price 20:21

Yeah. What were you gonna say, Stephen?

Stephen Backhouse 20:24

Well, just what he was saying about Christians just operate in a world in which they don't know, any Jewish people, or they just don't really have any context. And that was why I wanted to do this podcast with Avi because he's absolutely right. Because when I was, so that, I mean, Avi and I didn't know each other. I have lived in Montreal for a while, but we didn't know each other that. But I got this email from a friend of our mutual friend of ours out of the blue saying, I know this rabbi in Montreal that he wants to start talking to Christian theologians, and I recommend that he talked to you. And, and I just right away. Well, here's the thing. I realized I didn't really know any Jewish people. I mean, I met Jewish people, but I didn't have any friends who were Jewish. But I certainly hadn't had like, a long standing relational conversation with anyone who is Jewish.

And I also realized, like, and I don't even, I'm not even, I hadn't even noticed that I'd missed that. And it was like, oh, this is weird. Not only do I not know Jewish people, I don't even miss the fact that I don't know Jewish people. And yet, I'm spending all my time, as he said, talking about Pharisees in the New Testament, and talking about the temple practices, and Jesus cleansing the temple and the Jewish connections to Christian theology. And I thought, there's something missing in me; I need to correct this. So I was really happy to jump on that opportunity and go into this podcast with Avi. Because I was like, yeah, there's something that's not good in me and I want to fix that. And it wasn't antagonism. I don't know, it was almost like, it wasn't like I've gone out of my way to avoid talking to Jewish people. It was like, I hadn't even noticed that I wasn't talking to Jewish people. And that's not good. And so I was so happy for this to happen.

So for me, The Hyphen stands like a kind of a bridge really can be a bridge, to help me understand something that I didn't know. It's also quite fun. I don't know if Avi finds this. But like, when he asks me questions, that I then have to explain, like, oh, yeah, why is it, what is the difference between Southern Baptist and Roman Catholic?

Seth Price 22:44

(Laughs)

Massive!

Stephen Backhouse 22:45

I mean I have to describe it and that itself renews the interest in in the Christian side of things as well. So yeah, to me, that's part of this thing. It's like this hyphen is like a bridge into new worlds, and also kind of take me back to the worlds that I thought were familiar.

Seth Price 23:02

Yeah. How do you? How do you even explain, so say, that's a question, Stephen, that you're asked of Avi, how do you even explain that in an hour, because it appears the episodes are an hour because there is centuries upon centuries of difference between Roman Catholic and Southern Baptist?

Stephen Backhouse 23:18

Well, it helps that Avi knows way more about Christianity than I know about Judiasm. For all the reasons he's just said, I mean, yeah. Right, because Avi you went to a Christian didn't go to Divinity School in Chicago?

Avi Finegold 23:34

I went to the University of Chicago Divinity School, which is technically nondenominational, but has lots of Jewish scholars, lots of Christian scholars, lots of Eastern scholars, there's the Oriental Institute there. What I remember what I loved about it, and that was, that's good. You know, going back to what you're just saying, when you go into the University of Chicago Divinity School, you you fill out a questionnaire and it's like the Hyde Park Theological Colleges, you know, survey. And I'm sitting there and I'm looking through so many denominations that you're supposed to tick off which one you are, and then you get to the very end and it's like Jewish, and then “other”, right. I'm like, there's this, you know, I didn't know…but it wasn't just that it was like broken down like really fine.

Seth Price 24:22

Alliance Baptist, Central Baptist, Free Baptist, Virginia Baptist, those are just the ones in my city by the way, those all exist.

Avi Finegold 24:29

I'm more curious about that where I was like, I know broadly speaking the difference between Catholics and Protestants but I'm sometimes playing the enlightened idiot for the people listening right and and yeah, so I would first task in an hour you know what's the difference between a Catholic and Protestant to begin with, right? At a practical level at a theological level. I you know, you watch The Godfather, but you also watch plenty of Evangelicals something or others as well, broadly speaking, what are the differences between the two and then we'll save the Orthodox for another time. And then I imagine that we'll have an episode on different denominations of Protestantism, and without getting into really, really fractional, you know, bits like that. And then I think that it's about breaking it down and asking what are the questions that we can answer within the amount of time that we have. And then saving the other ones for another time?

Stephen Backhouse 25:23

I was gonna say like, and then the other part of our what we do is, I'm always interested in that kind of like, what does it feel like? Like not kind of, what is it, but almost like, what does it feel like to have Hanukkah? What does it feel like to be around, I asked me like around if you're on a Jewish person who's not observant, you know, who doesn't wear the head, the head, the skullcap. Who doesn't observe Sabbath, like, what does it feel like?

Avi Finegold 25:49

Right there for the Patreon people I showed off my kippah.

Stephen Backhouse 25:54

And so to me, like some of those questions, like, Avi is giving me this idea of like, what are all the questions you've always wanted to ask a Jewish person? And then you get say, what are all the things you always want to ask a Christian? And it's not just data and information. Some of it is like, how do you think about these people? Like what does it mean for you when you see somebody who's Jewish but not observant? And then he gets to ask me like, how do you feel when you're around crazy Trumpy charismatics, or how does it feel when you're around a high church…Roman Catholics, whatever, and there's just something kind of fun about that, that aspect as well of having that kind of ability to ask those questions.

Avi Finegold 26:33

I don't know if it's just us, but like sometimes the small, oftentimes, the small like fact based question becomes, you know, the launchpad audit naturally we are not planning these into like, larger questions that are more important than you know, what happens at X or what happens…you know, can you redo the Mass if you didn't take it properly? Like little things like that, or, or whatever it is.

Stephen Backhouse 26:59

Atonement and forgiveness stuff like that.

Avi Finegold 27:02

Yea, we end up on much bigger questions around things as a result of that.

Seth Price 27:06

Yeah. So I was what I was gonna say. And then I have a question for you, Stephen. And then Avi, I'd like your opinion as well. So you're talking about like the difference even in denomination so I was at an event on Sunday, chaperoning with some of the youth, which my son's a part of so you know, your kids in the in the youth so you your chaperone because it's one of the one of those humans is yours, you're the reason that they're there. And someone had said, “Well, you know, yeah, this minister here they had a, they had a falling out with a lot of the congregation because one of their first things once they were installed at this Presbyterian Church was that they said it's totally fine to be gay”. And I was like, “was that a thing that Presbyterians do?” And he was like “Well, they're Presbyterian USA”, to which I was like, “I don't know what that means”. And there's also a Presbyterian church next to us. They're not USA”… “no, they're not USA.”

I don't know what that means! And like I live here. It's so frustrating! Like, I don't know what that means. It's just so much, so much stuff.

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Seth Price 28:36

Getting to that bridge metaphor, Stephen, from the Christian side, I want to stretch that metaphor hold onto it a bit. What do you feel like is the like the monolithic structure, which is probably not a fair way to phrase the question, but I don't know a better way to do it. That is holding up that part of the hyphen? Like what is the main thing that is attaching the hyphen to the “C”?

Stephen Backhouse 28:57

I think it's this “chosen person” idea. I think it's people wrestling with that. I think it's something like that. So like the early New Testament, essentially, its whole connection, it's just it's just the New Testament is a series of footnotes to the Hebrew Bible. And it's pretty much them always trying to work out, alright, are we still connected? How are we connected to this idea of the of being chosen by God? What does this look like? What does this mean? If, if Israel is a light to the Gentiles, what does that mean? How are we a light to the Gentiles?

So, so much of the New Testament is not being set…the Imagination is not being set against Judaism. It's being written by Jews, for Jews about Jews and they think they're being Jewish. They think, like, this is what it looks like now to be a light to the Gentiles. And that has what set in motion if you think like playing pool where you line up a shot, and no matter I mean, you start the balls are really close together, but by the time they get to the end of the table, right, they can be quite far apart. And I wonder whether the starting point in the New Testament was “chosen people”, and then to see how that develops over history. And it's obviously become quite maligned and perverted in bad in lots of times in Christian history and I’m not defending that. But I do wonder whether that might be the thing that keeps bringing people sort of back, or that that's the connection and that link, that hyphen, has been tenuous, I mean, it breaks quite a lot. But I wonder whether that is the tenuous connection? What do you think, Avi? Is that fair?

Avi Finegold 30:40

From the Christian side?

Seth Price 30:41

No, from your side.

Stephen Backhouse 30:43

Just the idea of like “chosen person” might be that the idea of trying to work out what it means to be a chosen…

Avi Finegold 30:49

Well, “that and”. And we've spoken about this, and I, you know, it's not a shock, except to people who haven't necessarily thought about this at all, or a lot. It's also the justifying of the “chosen-ness” right? If you have to take the chosen this away from one people and give it to another you have to constantly be reminding yourself, right, that this is the right thing that we did. And, and that kind of automatically, like, you can't just walk away from that and sort of like, Yeah, we did it, we're done. We're the new chosen(s), who are the chosen(s)doesn't matter. We're not thinking about it, we're not talking about it, you end up constantly meaning to justify to yourself and to others. Right? Why what you did is the right decision, even though you didn't do it, right, the faith as a whole right there is that, you know, that looms so large for a lot of theologians.

And I suspect that there are theologians that would say, maybe we shouldn't have done this, maybe we aren't so chosen, but like the way in which you live your life and you justify your existence is to go and say, no, no, proudly, we chose this! We were chosen, we are the chosen, this is what it is! I suspect that's a part of it as well. But yeah, the, you know, so much of the Hebrew Bible that you have to answer for constantly and constantly, that it's there. Now from the Jewish side I think it's a quirk of history. I think that if you…

Seth Price 32:19

Chosenness is a quirk of history?

Avi Finegold 32:20

No, our bridge to the “C”

Seth Price 32:23

Yeah.

Avi Finegold 32:25

You know, if Christianity had gone and become an established tradition, but really like minor, the way that the Jains are today, or Zoroastrianism, right? The Jewish community wouldn't have wouldn't have to think about it nearly as much.Llike, yeah, there are these people that sort of did their own thing. And we don't think about them much. And you know, and that's it and you move on. But for, you know, a major strain of Jewish history, right, we broadly can divide it into people that were living in Arab-Muslim lands, and people that were living in Christian lands. You don't really have a lot of Jews that have a long, long, long history of living in lands with Eastern religions.

So broadly speaking you know, these faiths loom so large for you that you end up having to contend with it on a regular basis as being this faith that emerged out of the faith that you live in right now. And so you don't necessarily have to justify it, you're like, yeah, well, whatever. That's their thing. But it's around so often the you end up thinking about it a lot.

Now, that can happen in a good way, right? Especially in the Muslim world, right? If you look at the most one of the most famous Jewish philosophers, Maimonides, he doesn't seem to have a problem with Islam, because he says himself, oh, well, this is clearly a monotheistic faith that really believes and stuff and has a law based society very similar to ours. And so, you know, they're kind of cool, right? They have some mistakes, right? But having a false prophet, you know, is not a huge deal compared to, you know, having a, and so he'll talk all sorts of things about it are wrong. And then, but then in the, in the European/American world, right, what happens is, is that you're dealing with this other faith that is constantly thinking about you because of the aforementioned reasons. And you're living amongst them, even though you have very little contact with them you end up defining so much of who you are, right, as a negative approach to well, “we're not Christian like this”, right, because :we don't believe in three as one…we believe that one is one”. Right. So so much of your thinking ends up in contradistinction to what, right? The you know, what the dominant tradition is. And for the most part, for some reason or another, that ended up in a much more antagonistic relationship, with very few exceptions throughout history; until we get to today where we have this like real detente, this really nice way of approaching things where we're like, we can have these kinds of conversations. But we're still undoing so much of that history of, you know, “well, we're not Christian and we're not believers like this, and we don't believe in false prophets”. And so much of our thinking about our own faith ends up through the lens of other faiths, because it's so dominant. And because it's so closely connected.

Seth Price 35:17

I'm curious why…maybe there's not an answer to this, this probably isn't even an accurate question to ask. But I'm curious why the bridge was created, or the hyphen was created, to Christianity instead of Islam, or why there's not also an Islam - Christian bridge, considering they're all or unless I'm way out of character. Unless I'm way out of turn, like Abrahamic faiths, like the I worked with a guy for a long time, who we would talk about religion all the time, and he happened to be Muslim. And we would have amazing conversations. And he's like, I didn't know we had this much in common. You know what I mean? Like, I'm curious why it's just the one hyphen and why there are not more hyphens. And that may not be a question for necessarily y’all maybe, I don't know if that's a fair question.

Avi Finegold 35:56

Stephen, do you have an answer?

Stephen Backhouse 36:00

I don't know. I mean, no, not a quick answer to that. I feel that (the) Judeo-Christian label Avi and I are trying to like redeem it, or we're making the best of that word. But I do think it's been used as a weapon against others, specifically against Muslim, to be honest, so I don't know. Yeah, I don't know why we're not in a world where there's the Muslim-Christian hypen.

Avi Finegold 36:28

I mean, I do hear that term of “Abrahamic faiths” come up more often these days. I would say that, again, it's an accident of history in that if the golden age of Islam hadn't gone away, we would be dealing much more with that. And that, that the fact that the they sort of missed each other, right, the golden age of Islam, and the Enlightenment, sort of missed each other by a good couple 100 years. Whereas had they existed a lot closer together, or at the same time, you'd end up with a lot more of the blending of all of these thinkings. And the Eastern philosophy, as in terms of Arabic philosophy, would be much more of our daily culture.

And unfortunately, right because it is a deep and really, really fascinating faith tradition and philosophy, that that would be a lot more of our discussion. But instead, what happens is that the Arab world sort of retreats into the Arabian Peninsula and doesn't participate nearly as much in the Enlightenment of which we are living right now. Whereas I would suspect that if we were having this conversation in Dubai, the reverse would probably be true. I'd be having a conversation with, you know, a Muslim cleric and we'd be wondering, why aren't the Christians a bigger part of this discussion?

Seth Price 37:50

Yeah, yeah.

Stephen Backhouse 37:51

It's interesting that like of the Abrahamic faiths, right, so when the Christians get their revelation, they think they're now the ones with the latest and the best word, they go off pretty quickly. It doesn't take long before they start, like, marching with swords and shields and taking their gospel to other lands at the point of a sword. Historically, Muslims as well, the Muslim expansion through Europe and Africa was done often through a lot of violence. And, and yet, Israel didn't do that. So the Jews weren't doing that they received the revelation from God, and it didn't lead to like a violent expansion, a tribalistic expansion, across the globe. That I do wonder whether that's also quite to me, that's interesting thing that the chosenness of Israel is to suffer, whereas the chosenness for Christianity and Islam seems to try them, or they want to try them. What do you think, Avi..is that?

Avi Finegold 38:53

I mean? Yes, and no. I think that the moment of, and again, I'm not a scholar of this. I'm just a lowly reader with some hypotheticals going on in my mind. I'm like, “that's right”. And I'm like, well, Jews like to point out to the fact that that doesn't happen because we are a non proselytizing faith. Right that we stick to ourselves and we're happy with whatever and we try to push people away and there's the classic story that they give always of Ruth. Ruth the Moabite who converts to Judaism but not after she is rejected three times by her mother in law, right. And then the a convert is supposed to be rejected if somebody wants to come in, but we don't…it's too hard for you don't worry about it's not your thing, it’s don't. And I wonder whether that's just because at the moment when global domination became a thing when it became cool, right?

Seth Price 39:53

When has that not been the case?

Avi Finegold 39:55

All the kids are….well no, I'm saying like if you think about it before Rome, you didn't really have these like…you had these like territorial aspirations, yeah, these people that were trying to like push into, you know, various areas, but nobody was thinking about like, “well, we are going to be the ones and we're going to be the only ones. And we're going to have global total domination of Roman or hellenist culture” or whatever it is like and at the moment when that happens, that's the moment when the Jews are exiled. Right. That's the moment of the first major major diaspora for the Israelites in the Jews at the time. And we never really recovered from that. And that the idea of “well we're not proselytizing” is sort of like, yeah, we don't really have global aspirations. Because…because…because we couldn't. I mean there was no,

Stephen Backhouse 40:39

You make a virtue of a necessity or something. Exactly. Yeah. You know,

Avi Finegold 40:43

Exactly. Yeah. You know, and it's like, “oh, I didn't want to go to that party anyways, the kids there aren't cool, right!”

Seth Price 40:48

Don't tell anybody I wasn't invited.

Avi Finegold 40:52

Exactly. Yeah. So like, I suspect that that's part of it. And that if, you know, Jews had been actual players in this, you know, territorial thing, and we had, you know, actual territory and an ability to have skin in the game, and to have an actual ability to have a fight in this thing we might actually (have) had more nationalistic, territorial global aspirations, and it might, things might have shaken up very differently. But as a result of like, you know, this destruction of the temple and the exile we end up diasporic for such a long time. And, you know, then, as a result, you don't end up with…you always assume that you're just going to be, you know, the really smart kid in the corner that's never going to be cool and never gonna become super popular, but always have the influence. Which Jews love to have this thing, right! We love to point this out. (in another voice) “Think about how many Nobel Prize winners are Jews and think about how many you know this, or how many that” like the outsized influence, and I'm like, I don't need to think about that. I'm just happy with who I am. And you know that's it. So I'm not here peddling Jews run the media conspiracies, lest anybody come at me.

Stephen Backhouse 42:01

Is that part of the Judeo-Christian hyphen idea as well, though? Which is that actually it's all very well talking about Christian civilization. But come on, let's be honest. How many how many of our pillars of so called Western European civilization they're not Christian, are they? So is Judeo-Christian, a way to acknowledge that as well that this isn't just some monolithic?

Avi Finegold 42:25

Are you saying this is the bully's way of saying no, no, no, no, no, I'm friends with the brainiac. He can't just really like, throw me away and tell me that I'm useless. Right? I'm “Judeo-Christian”. We have these big…I don't know…never thought about it.

Stephen Backhouse 42:42

As soon as Avi said, let's call it hyphen. I like I got it. I was like, yeah, let's call it hyphen. This is a good word. You can talk about the word hyphen for a long time.

Seth Price 42:50

Yeah. So for those listening, that little exchange there were like, I don't know, I hadn't thought about it that way. I was cutting pomegranates last night, which is among my least favorite things to do. But also my most favorite things to do, because I enjoy eating them in the prospect of it. It's expensive.

Avi Finegold 43:05

Wait they don’t sell them….they don't sell them pre cut for you. So it’s a Montreal bougie sort of thing?

Seth Price 43:11

Oh no! I could buy it in that way. But so…I like I was raised in a way that if you don't do any work the joy is less if you didn't work for it. And there's a part of me that does enjoy the tediousness of eating the pomegranates. After I've spent 40 minutes getting them open.

Avi Finegold 43:31

Do you not know the whole under the water trick and the whole cutting off the top?

Seth Price 43:35

Yes I do but there is a there's like a a juicy film that that is already on the pomegranate. So when you run out of the water, it takes away some of the sweetness there a slightly more bitter. And by

Avi Finegold 43:46

That’s by the way, one of the alternate podcast names that we had, it was that The Juicy Film.

Seth Price 43:52

(speaking through laughter) But y'all were talking…about (laughter)

Stephen Backhouse 43:57

Moist Theology

Seth Price 43:59

Oh, gosh. Let me get back on track. So y'all were talking about you were reading through Scripture. And you both brought the same passage. And I think it was Deuteronomy could have been Leviticus, but it was a specific passage, and it literally just ended. I've finished it this morning. I think you're gonna spring off into Matthew.

But there was a part in I forget what you asked Stephen and you're like, “but what about this”? And Avi you're like, “I've never actually considered it that way, that's interesting”. To which I was like, well, that's the purpose for the show, like absolute I've never considered it that way. That's interesting. Like, that is a good response to interfaith dialogues I think; and a healthy one, a yearned for one I think if we're honest. That they you know that they could learn something. So question from each of you. And then I know that we're running close on time, because I can't remember exactly how many hours you are ahead of us, Stephen, but I know that you said you had a hard time to the jet to stop. So these are the two questions that I asked everybody, Avi and Stephen, you've already answered these questions. So y'all can go in any order. What are some of the things that you feel like we should be allowed to speak, or talk about, in our synagogues or in our churches? I've changed the question for present company that if we do not intentionally discuss them will begin to unravel the faiths that we hold dear.

Stephen Backhouse 45:10

What are the things that…say the question again?

Seth Price 45:12

Yeah, yeah, so the question is born more so out of so say I'm sitting at church and I just stand up and I say why don't we vote on letting people be gay in our church and also be deacons? And people in the back are like (shhhhhhhh) we were not interested in that today.

Stephen Backhouse 45:27

What's the one question that would start to unravel everything? but that we should be allowed to speak about?

Seth Price 45:31

Yeah, but that we should be allowed to speak about and question and talk about as a congregant of the church body or the faith body. And not necessarily one that the minister or Rabbi or Reverend or I don't know what the right word is here, pronoun or title is, not the one that they should be foisted on the congregation. But the one that everybody is thinking, in your opinion that nobody talks about for fear of being ostracized or kicked out or excommunicated.

Avi Finegold 45:58

Interesting, Stephen, you go first. (laughter from all)

Stephen Backhouse 46:03

It's on my mind. It's on my mind. But we talked about it earlier. But, I would, I would like to question the chosen person narrative amongst evangelicals especially, I would like to interrogate that, because it's such an ingrained part of a lot of Protestant, Christian, you know, their self imagination. That when they open up any random bit of the Bible, they think it's written about them. And when they hear Israel being blessed, when they hear the chosen nation being blessed, they think, “oh, that's about us”. And I would like to question that, and I would like to start talking about that more and to actually begin to look at what what has actually happened. Like Avi said, what happens when you claim you're the chosen person, but the previous Chosen People are still there. So then what happens? And you try and brush them under the carpet or do even worse things, which is what Christendom has done to Jews throughout history. And I think all of the bad things that Christians have done to Jews have come directly from their (inability) about not being able to share the stage with with chosen people.

Avi Finegold 47:13

Was that the alternate title for the Crusades, “brushing them under the carpet”? (chuckles)

Seth Price 47:19

Are either of y'all familiar with a show that has become popular called The Chosen?

Stephen Backhouse 47:24

Yes.

Seth Price 47:25

How would you? How would you retitle that name then Stephen, if we can't, if we need to question that that wording, or that mindset, like the entire show is framed around? Now, they're talking about the disciples being chosen, but we both know what's going to happen with that show once it's on DVD and get screened in churches? What would you retitle that unrelated question?

Stephen Backhouse 47:46

The Followers

Seth Price 47:48

There you go, fair enough, just want to make sure because I gotta remove that baggage.

Avi Finegold 47:48

So, I'll even be more valorous than that. Right? And there's an American Rabbi named Brad Hirschfield, who wrote this book called, You Don't Have to Be Wrong for Me to Be Right, and that really became a guiding principle for a lot of my thinking, and a lot of my day to day interactions with both Jews and non-Jews. And I would have no problem, maybe this is theologically problematic, or I don't know what it is. But I have no problem with Christians saying, maybe the one problem they might have is that they are supplanted what chosenness is, but different people are chosen for different things. And you're chosenness, I have gotten to a point in my where and faith and my day to day living, that your chosenness doesn't impinge on my chosenness. Right? And my truth is objectively true but only objectively true for me. It's not even objectively true for my wife, or my kids when they grow up and have developed faith traditions, or my neighbors or the people that I'm teaching right. And I don't try to impose my objective truth onto other people. Everybody has their own, right, it's postmodern, whatever, I'm not going to get into it.

But different people can have different objective truths instead of thinking about it as subjective truths. And your chosenness, to me, is a big part of that if you really feel like you are chosen to do “great work”, as long as you're not saying and again, that's maybe the part that I would have to change about that as long as you don't go and say, I am chosen and you are no longer chosen because it can only be one chosen. You know, that's when we might have some words and then I might realize that you know, in the 2000 year tradition of Jews versus Christians we kind don't have a great track record. We feel like the Detroit Bears in that one.

Seth Price 49:34

Wait! You feel like the Detroit what?

Avi Finegold 49:36

The Detroit Bears right?

Seth Price 49:40

Who are the Detroit Bears?

Stephen Backhouse 49:39

mumbling something about Detroit…

Avi Finegold 49:40

Football? Right?

Seth Price 49:41

That’s the Detroit Lions! (we all laugh)

Avi Finegold 49:43

What am I thinking! I’m thinking of the Chicago Bears! I mean gosh I’ve been living here for so long! (Seth is still laughing) I keep thinking of the ‘85 Bears

Stephen Backhouse 49:45

The Detroit Bears are so bad that no one's even heard of them! (laughs)

Avi Finegold 49:53

Right? Like you know, we're the Detroit Lions of the…

Seth Price 49:57

I’m not editing that out! That’s staying in!

Avi Finegold 50:01

Oh man! This is great. I do know enough football (maybe) if this was a Freudian slip.

Stephen Backhouse 50:05

And on Thanksgiving as well.

Seth Price 50:09

I'll also leave in my screw up with Christmas as well. There we go. Yeah.

Avi Finegold 50:13

So that's the way that I would approach it, that question.

Seth Price 50:18

Fair enough?

Avi Finegold 50:20

Did I answer the original question?

Seth Price 50:23

Is there anything you would add? Is there anything that so say in your wife's congregation? What would you, what do you feel like they would say?

Avi Finegold 50:32

So, I don't speak for my wife's congregation, it's a very large congregation, and they are very…

Seth Price 50:37

So say in your old congregation that because you said you were in the pulpit prior?

Avi Finegold 50:39

Yeah. What I would say is, and, you know, to me, it's maybe not even a congregational thing. I think about this a lot. So I have, for example, one of the podcasts that I have is it's called Bonjour Chai. It's the largest Canadian-Jewish podcast, right. We talk about current events, we have a weekly you know, and we're trying to always be contemporary with what are the issues of the week or whatever. And a few weeks ago, we had a guest on who was talking about Judaism Intactivism. And Intactivism is the new movement towards intact male bodies and activism, right. So they're anti-circumcision. They don't like that term, they are pro being intacted or whatever, I'm not gonna get into their politics and stuff like that. But for those of you who have read, you know, the Bible, circumcision is a fundamental part of The Covenant that Jewish males have with God. And it is universally something which is, you know, practiced almost universally to this day. But there's a growing movement of people that believe in intactivism and a part of them are Jewish, and they want to advocate for this and to have spaces in the Jewish community where people who are not circumcised are welcome.

And I got a lot of pushback, even though I may have disagreed with this individual, I got a lot of pushback from a lot of people that you shouldn't even give these people the space to have these kinds of questions. To have, you know, don't give them any, you know, audience. And I'm like, I may disagree with them. But A: I don't think there are any wrong questions or wrong opinions, it's up to you to go and prove these people wrong and to say, well, it's even beneath me to have these kinds of conversations as to why they're wrong is I think, a fundamental problem in tradition faiths today in religion today. So that is what I would start with.

And what that illuminates for me, much bigger is, and it's a big struggle, I think, that people don't talk about within the Jewish community, is the struggle between the universalism and particularism. Where we are a particular tradition we are, there is theoretically an in-group and an out-group within Judaism, right, people that are Jewish, and people that are not Jewish. But those lines get very, very blurred in today's day and age. And we don't have these questions. And I am…I'm a big Universalist. I clearly want to have these kinds of conversations with just about anybody. And I'm willing to have conversations with people that are really on the fringes of the Jewish community and people that are beyond the Jewish community. But we're not asking these questions as to where does the universalism stop and where does the particularism begin?

I love Steven, I wouldn't have him as a member of the 10 that we need to have a prayer quorum even though he is a believer, he is not a Jewish believer, and therefore he does not belong in the quorum of Jews. Where do those lines work, and not work, are not necessarily questions that we are dealing with in the Jewish community. It's fairly an uncomfortable topic, because there is a lot of interfaith relationships that are happening more than there used to be. There are a lot of still people with loose ties, what I refer to loose ties, within the community, people that don't necessarily want to go to services every week, people that don't practice the way that you know, ima practice or other observant traditional Jews might practice but still want to maintain some sort of ties to the community.

And it used to be that we would push those people out. It's like, well….all you care about is bagels. Well, forget it, you know, we don't need you in this community. And and, you know, bagels and Seinfeld, right, that’s Judaism for a lot of people. Well, nowadays is Larry David, I guess but Right. But nowadays, there are so few. And it's interesting, just the guests that I had on who was this intactness? Why are you pushing us out? You need us more than we need you. You want in and you're trying to push us out at a time when so many people are leaving faith traditions and leaving Judaism. Why are you doing that?

And I think he has a point. And actually that's the bigger point over the activism and (a) reason why I had him on is to have these kinds of conversations. And I think that that's the big conversation that now nobody really wants to talk about, right. The interfaith tradition, the interfaith marriage, the, you know, observance versus lack of observance. These are all things that people are thinking about, the gay versus not gay, like all these things are around I think. And I'm not sure what the answers are (because) the standards are so complicated. But that's, you know, just that's something that has to be out there and really be discussed more.

Seth Price 55:29

Give me one moment. My, um, my children came down was something that is apparently life altering. Right, one second.

Avi Finegold 55:38

I've been there.

Seth Price 55:42

Sorry. It looks like we lost Stephen. I wonder if he's coming back. What happened?

Stephen Backhouse 55:48

I don’t know, it just just stopped. No, the internet…didn't…my computer just shut down!

Seth Price 55:52

Oh, well, you got to apply those updates.

Stephen Backhouse 55:56

It just shut down. And then uh….

Avi Finegold 55:58

It is a sign from God. (laughs)

Stephen Backhouse 56:01

I saw a screen I've never seen before since owning this computer and it said “you've had an error and we've had to restart”.

Seth Price 56:06

Well, you're back. You're back just in time. So I'll ask you both this question.

Avi Finegold 56:11

Are you sure it didn’t say “you are in error.”

(we all laugh)

Stephen Backhouse 56:18

“And you must restart.” (laughs)

Seth Price 56:16

Hey, you must begin again.

Stephen Backhouse 56:21

“You must be born again”.

Seth Price 56:25

That's funny. That's the Nicodemus Air.

Stephen Backhouse 56:26

So my apologies. Do we need some sort of clear like space to restart this again?

Seth Price 56:31

No, you actually popped right back in about 15 seconds after Avi had finished. So yeah. So the question that I asked everyone. So Stephen, I think you've been asked this twice. So I'll begin with you…Avi to give you a bit more time to answer the question.

So the question I begin with is when you try to wrap words around what God is, Stephen, what would you say to that? If someone asked you like, how do you try to say, “here's what God is”.

Stephen Backhouse 56:59

My mind these days is in the world of fermentation, patient fermentation. I'm reading a book by Alan Kreider called The Patient Ferment of the Early Church. And he's talking about the value that the early Christians had on patience which was not a virtue amongst the Greco Roman world. And they saw God as eternally long suffering, slow to anger, right. And they tried to act accordingly, and that a lot of the sins that happen in the world, especially amongst Christendom, happened because of impatience and a desire to quickly change things rather than just to patiently wait and see or let things happen in a slow way. And it's that kind of process of '“bubbling change” which Alan Krieder, the Anabaptist church historian, calls “patient ferment”. So I would say something like that I would probably in my own way I tried to say talking about God is that part of the heart of the cosmos which is always creating and yet always waiting and patiently waiting as well.

Avi Finegold 58:06

God is a bacteria then, right?

Stephen Backhouse 58:09

God is the ferment and is the yeast in the dough.

Seth Price 58:15

Well, to make that more to make that more beautiful or pretty, I guess then bacteria is if you wait long enough, you will you will to become intoxicated, because that's what we do after fermentation. So yeah, intoxication, maybe in the best way. Who knows?

What would you say to that question, Avi, like what is? Who is? However you want to wrap words around? So

Avi Finegold 58:37

I'm a big fan of the Maimonidian approach, and it's not his conception entirely. But he is a big proponent of that. And I think there's not enough Jews that think about this. I'm really a big thinker in terms of negative theology, right? I don't like to think about what God might be. But I also have a good idea of what God is not. Right. And, you know, the finger of God does not exist, and God does not get angry, the way that we get angry. These are all just analogies for our human, you know, little pea-sized whatever's. And instead of thinking about all the things that “is” I really ended up drawing more towards, let me not think about it in this way, or let me not thinking about in that way. There's no emotion, there is no physicality, there is no temporality to God. And beyond that, you start getting at some of the broad contours of again, where that might be, but it's much more defined by what God is not than what God is.

Seth Price 59:39

Mm hmm.

Yeah, I like that. Plug the places where do y'all want people to go to do whatever it is that they need to do as it relates to the work that you do? And we should probably begin with Hyphen, because that's, that's what that's what originated this. So where would y'all direct people to kind of do what they need to do on the internet.

Avi Finegold 59:59

So, I mean, if you go to your podcast player Hyphen is apparently a common enough podcast word, you can search for it under Hyphen Jewish living lab. And maybe you can put it in the show notes or whatever. And that's easiest way to find Hyphen alone. And easier ways, just going to Jewishlivinglab.com. And you'll see all of the podcasts that I put out, and you can click on that. And you can click on the Apple link or the Spotify link right through there. And it'll, you know, in case you forget, and you can see all of those. So that's really the easiest one one direct ways to go to Jewish living lab.com and find me there.

Seth Price 1:00:38

Stephen yourself?

Stephen Backhouse 1:00:36

Well, I also plug that Avi does, he makes cocktails. Like, I recommend that you check out it says or Google Rabbi Avi Finegold + cocktails and see what you get, because I saw some good stuff.

Seth Price 1:00:49

Some good recipes there. Is that what you're saying?

Avi Finegold 1:00:52

Uh, yeah I do cocktail workshops. And yeah, I have this thing called The Jewish Cocktail Lab with little spin off where we teach some basics, some interesting Jewish ideas using cocktails as well as jumping off points. But cocktails are always fun.

Seth Price 1:01:05

Also intoxicating. Absolutely. So you're inadvertently saying that Stephen is correct there's what you're saying?

Avi Finegold 1:01:11

Yes. Not even inadvertent I’m very advertant in this!

Seth Price 1:01:17

Stephen where would you want people to go?

Stephen Backhouse 1:01:19

Oh, I just told you go to the Jewish Cocktail, it’s an amazing cocktail.

Seth Price 1:01:22

He is like this. Every time Avi, he refuses. He refuses either. I've had him tried to plug his books, he won't do it. He won't like his podcast, he doesn't do it. Which is endearing.

Stephen Backhouse 1:01:34

Alright, after you’ve had your cocktail, and you're gonna have a kosher cocktail, and then you're gonna come to tenttheology.com and check out all that stuff. And you could you could have a look at the Kierkegaard A Single Life, the biography of Søren Kierkegaard that I wrote, yes, well, you could check that out. Do come to Tent Theology you'll find all sorts of fellow travelers and interesting people on that podcast.

Avi Finegold 1:01:57

We need to come up with the hyphen cocktail that that would be a good one. What spirit most embodies, and don't answer the holy one, most of bodies Christianity?

Seth Price 1:02:11

Bourbon?

Stephen Backhouse 1:02:10

Something made by monks,

Seth Price 1:02:11

Bourbon.

Avi Finegold 1:02:13

Very different answers. That's American and European, very interesting. So Benedictine, and bourbon, and some Manischewitz splashed on top of that with a wafer.

Seth Price 1:02:26

(laughs) With a wafer!

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Jesus and the Bicameral Brain with James Danaher / Transcipt

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Seth Price  0:00 

Well, happy day there, everybody. How are you doing? I'm Seth, welcome back to the show. A couple quick, quick announcements. I also want to say very much, “Thank you.” So let me thank you first. To the patrons of the show, I know a lot of people don't listen to the end of the show, because I get some demographics on that, and some data on that. Thank you so much for supporting the show. Literally, it's like a Christmas gift every month. And so thank you so very much. You make the show go. And I don't have better words than “Thank you.” But I'm so grateful. Now, my life in December is about to get very busy. Busier, more so than normal. So where I work during the day is going through a merger. And I'm having multiple hats to fill every single day. So my availability to record new episodes during the month of December is really only like six days, for the entire month. And so I will do my best to ensure that we get new content every week. There may be an episode or two, that is not new content. And so I will do my best to choose something that I think is beneficial for me, and by proxy, hopefully you, to have kind of released out into the world. Thank you in advance for your understanding of that. And with that said, this week, I brought on James Danaher. Now I'm gonna call him Jim, because we're good like that. However, he wrote a book about the bicameral brain in Jesus. And it is really, really good. It is a new way of lenses to kind of view and rethink the gospel in knowing and being a bit on doctrines and theologies. And I absolutely love the left hemisphere versus right hemisphere kind of back and forth and ebb and flow when we think about the Gospels. And so I hope that you get as much out of this conversation as I did. The book is also very fantastic. So without further ado, let's go.

James Danaher, welcome back to the show. I think I had you on like three or four years ago. So time flies. I couldn't remember exactly where I was sitting at my old church office somewhere. So it's been some years. Welcome back, man. I'm glad you're here.

James Danaher 2:30

It's good to be back.

Seth Price 2:31

What um, what's been new? So it's been four years we've had an entire presidency come in and out. What's new since we talked less?

James Danaher  2:37 

It really had an enormous effect on me. You know, I taught at an evangelical college for 29 years. And I thought I understood evangelicalism, I thought I was an evangelical. And then five years ago, everything changed. And what I've really been working on these last five years is trying to explain that. How, how did evangelicalism end up where it's ended up? And I think this book, in particular, Jesus in the Bicameral Brain tries to explain that. The level of consciousness that the left brain gives us access to is the world. It's the culture. It's everything we've learned about how to live in the world. And it's, it's based on survival of the fittest. It's the subject-object relationship. It's me against the world. It's the basis for our economy. You know, Adam Smith says that we don't expect our dinner from the benevolence of the butcher and the baker, but from their self interest. And the left brain is all about self interest. And I see evangelicals; they, it's about being saved. “I'm saved. I'm not going to hell, end of story, leave me alone”. And I just see Evangelicalism as reducing Jesus to the Jewish Messiah. He pays for our sins. He's the blood sacrifice. He's the scapegoat end of story. You believe that and you're going to heaven. What else do you need to know? Well, what about the words of Jesus? And my argument is, Jesus does not appeal to the left brain? The left brain thinks that’s stupid – nonviolence, you know. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you? 

Seth Price 4:25

Yeah.

James Danaher 4:26

Love your enemy. You know, Judge no one. Forgive everyone. That's crazy stuff to the left brain. And that's why I think prayer is so important. One of the central chapters in this, this book on Jesus in the bicameral brain, is the idea of prayer as a different level of consciousness. And it's the contemplative practice of silence and solitude and getting to that, that place where you're no longer in the world. Now you disconnect from the world, and you get down to that deeper place and from that deeper place, you can see the beauty and goodness of Jesus’ words. And they can't be from, from where we are in the world. And that's why we've made Christianity, or at least evangelicals have, into something that's just something to believe. It's a doctrine to believe, rather than the words of Jesus really taking root at the core of our being. It’s transforming.

Seth Price  5:17 

Yeah, it's not a way to live for me. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, very much so. I am, I forget who it is. I was listening to something the other day, it might have been a sermon, or it was a pastor expounding upon a sermon. And he had said that he’d basically teach the Beatitudes. And didn't really, he worked them in using different words. So we'll call it like the “paraphrased Message translation” and never even gave the people the text, just expounded for a little while on how we should really operate in the world that we live in. And people lit him up for it. And then afterwards was like, by the way, I was, I was paraphrasing, this, and this and this, and then people, like, were really taken aback and he's like, I don't know why you're so mad at me. I presented it in this way intentionally. And we're gonna need to do something with this anger. Yeah, very much. So I do want to talk to you about prayer. So I've only written down three or four questions, prayer is in that. The rest of them are more, “Can you expound on this?” It's been long enough, Jim. So the first time we chatted, I like scripted every question because I had no confidence in my ability to ask good questions. Since then, I realized the only person the podcast is actually for is me, and if anyone else likes to listen to it, that's great. But it needs to be my earnest questions. Can we, I want to rewind a bit. What is a bicameral brain? We joked earlier before I hit the go button, or I had already hit go but I'm gonna edit that part out. What is, like, bicameral? Like what is that to begin with? Just to kind of set a level set because left brain right brain you know, you'll you'll see stupid things on the internet about why all women are left brain or why all men are right brained, or why all bankers are left brained or artist or right, but you know what I mean? What is that? What's, what's bicameral, anything really.

James Danaher  7:05 

There's a great book by Ian McGilchrist, who's an Oxford scholar, who published a book in 2009, called The Master and His Emissary. And what he argues in it is that we’ve become a left brain culture, where the left brain supposes itself to be the master. And the right brain is more or less the dullard brother, whatever. And he argues, it's just the opposite. It's the right brain that gives us access to the moral, to the aesthetic, to the imagination. And it's just modern culture, especially starting with Descartes. My specialty was history of philosophy, specializing in modern philosophy. I did my dissertation on John Locke on real and nominal essences, and I'm a great opponent of Descartes. And this is what McGilchrist comes out to, against too. And he's constantly showing us that the left brain acts [?] what's really the emissary and his analogy is that the master of any domain can't do all the little details. So he gets an emissary. And he sends the emissary out. And the emissary does all the little, you know, donkey work. And after a while, though, the emissary starts believing that they're really the important one. What do we need, or I'm the one that's doing all this work. And the emissary becomes, or, or sees himself as the master. And what McGilchrist is saying, if we go back historically, before the modern period, we see that it was always the right brain. Plato, it's always the right brain that's the master; for Socrates, for Plato. That starts to change with Aristotle. But in the modern period, with Descartes, it becomes all left brain. And religion is just a left brain thing. It's about what do you believe? What you believe is what's gonna keep you out of hell. Really? Where does Jesus say that? Jesus is always talking about your being, and that's why the distinction I make is the left brain is about knowing, especially knowing that world, it's what connects us to the world. And the right brain is what connects us to being. You know, when Jesus says that He is the WAY and the TRUTH and the LIGHT, He's not talking about a truth that's something to know. He's talking about a truth that's something that's both beautiful and good as well as true. Aristotle had said that human beings are involved in three basic activities: making, doing, and knowing. When we make, we want to make what's beautiful. When we do, we want to do what's good. And when we know, we want to know what's true. And that was the ancient wisdom that the truth was about your truth. How am I manifesting my beauty and my goodness? In the modern period, look at modern science: it has nothing to do with beauty or goodness. it's just about, we just want to know. And Protestant is, I heard a scholar say the other day, that Protestantism is the first religion, especially evangelicalism, I guess, first religion in the history of the world that only requires a belief. It doesn't go beyond belief. It doesn't have a moral element. I believe that Jesus died for my sins, He's the Messiah, and he paid for my sins. And they equate the forgiveness of sins with righteousness. And Jesus never does that. Jesus equates righteousness with the virtues that he talks about. Become His mercy, His forgiveness, His love to the world.

Seth Price  10:50 

You talk about anomalous data. And that's a word that I've practiced this morning, because that is a hard word to say. And I'm gonna paraphrase two different parts of it. Right at the beginning of the book, there among the first things that I underlined. So you talk about, like, you know, the left, the left brain acquiring knowledge, and the right brain seems to have access to anomalous data. And then you say, people with excessive security needs will tend to avoid anomalous data, and cling to what they purport to know. And then a little further, you say that those things that are anomalous, are inherited understanding, and we ignore them, because Jesus's words will always be filtered out by what we have inherited. What do you mean by like, what we've inherited and anomalous data?

James Danaher  11:34 

You know, I did a book a couple of years ago. And it was about, it was the history of philosophy. As that kind of critical thinking, where, you know, the first stage of learning is just acquiring data. And after we get a lot of data, then we can become critical thinkers and look at data in comparison to our understanding. But the philosophical level of thinking goes beyond that, and it sees within the understanding itself anomalies; things that, wait, that doesn't make sense. That doesn't make sense. And it's rethinking your foundations. And I think that's what Jesus is constantly calling us to do. Jesus is constantly speaking against the culture. And faith, I think a lot of people think, is, no, faith is never seeing the anomaly. So ignoring the anomalies – “Well, I just believe, you know?” Okay, fine. But the deeper life that Jesus is calling us to is, is seeing the anomalies in the things that he says  and how different that is from the culture. There's Lectio Divina is the Catholic reading scripture. And it's doing the reading and seeing the problem, in that – you know, I was with a group of men the other day, and we're going through the Sermon on the Mount, and Jesus says, right after the beginning of chapter five in the sermon; he says he didn't come to do away with the the law and the prophets, but to fulfill. And then he gives six examples of what the law says. And then what he says that's completely contrary to the law.

Seth Price  13:27 

Yeah. But I tell you, yeah.

James Danaher  13:29 

What do you do with that? And I said that to a pastor a little while ago, and the pastor said, Well, Jesus says that he didn't come to destroy the law, but to fulfill it. Okay, but then look what he does. How do you explain that? That's supposed to draw you into God's presence and get you to spend enough time in God's presence, and get to that deeper level of consciousness where God will explain it to you. You know, Jesus says that the Father will send the advocate – the Holy Spirit – and He will explain all things to you and remind you of all that I have said. But you have to sit with what Jesus says. Jesus is the Word of God, not the Bible. I hear people constantly say, “Well, the Bible is the Word of God.” It never says it's the word of God. Jesus is the Word of God. That's what it says in John, the first chapter. And it says that in Revelation, his name is the Word of God. 

Seth Price 14:23

Yeah.

James Danaher 14:25

 And it's Jesus’ words. I think one of the greatest parables is the parable of the sower. Jesus says, a man about to sow seed. And then he explains the parable to the, to the disciples. And he says that the seed is the Word of God. And it only takes root in 25% of the people that hear it. According to the parable, He says it falls on four different grounds. Only one of those grounds takes root; the other three grounds it doesn't take root. And there's, there's a chapter in the book on the parable of the sower. And the next chapter is a chapter on Christianity Lite. And what I argue is that, what do you do with the other 75% of the people who hear the words and it doesn't take root when you create Christianity Lite, which is a belief in Jesus and Jesus’ death on the cross, but it has nothing to do with the words of Jesus?

Seth Price  15:24 

Yeah, you actually say in here, I like, there's a part in Christianity Lite, you jump there before I was going there but I'm already on that page. Like that's where the bookmark was left. What are you saying here? Christianity Lite is usually quick to agree with that statement. And what you're talking about – inherited world – about what did you put in here? Jesus's words are heretical to most popular forms of Christianity since the basis for most forms of Christianity is inherited, is our inherited cultural understanding. And you go on to say, and you know, most people argue that liberals have made our culture into something ungodly, but in truth many agnostics and atheists live closer to the teachings of Jesus than many Bible believing Christians. Which, 100% 100, 100% Agree 128%. Yeah.

James Danaher  16:08 

The end of that chapter though, I do say that it's not that Christianity Lite is a false gospel; it's just an elementary gospel. Where else would you start? How else? I mean, I can't imagine I know Jesus sold his message to the disciples. But to sell his message to the world today, it almost looks like you have to start with – I know, I didn't, I didn't get to this place. It took me 45, 50 years to get to this place. It's a journey. This transformation that God is calling us to. And it starts, I guess, with a belief. And it starts with a notion that God is, you know, God is this sovereign ruler who gives us these laws and punishes disobedience. And, but if you stay with it, and especially start paying attention to the words of Jesus. Jesus, the most important thing Jesus ever said, was “our Father.” He says it 16 times in the sermon alone, he says, Our Father, your father, your heavenly Father. If God is your Father, that changes everything. Sin is no longer a matter of obedience and in order to avoid punishment, that's, that's not who fathers are. When you're a little kid, you might think that; you might think all my father wants is for me to obey.

Seth Price  17:39 

I think my kids would agree with that.

James Danaher  17:41 

Yeah, exactly. As you get older, you realize no, the reason why he's telling you that is he wants you to experience the fullness of life. And it’s + what keeps you from the fullness of life. It's not what pisses God off. But it takes years to get to that place. And it takes basically the death of the false self. Yeah, the false self wants. I just want, I don't want to look at myself, I just want to pretend that I am who I project to the world. And that's the real me. And what deep prayer does is, it's really a form of therapy. If you spend a lot of time in God's presence at that deeper level of consciousness, all the junk that is usually the result of childhood wounds that have formed our personalities, formed our false self, comes to the surface and we're able to let them go, you know?

Seth Price  18:39 

Yeah. Yeah, if I, if I was to say everything that you just said specifically about sin; I walked into a random church in the middle of Indiana, or Oklahoma or Texas or whatever. They would, they would run me out as a heretic. So being your relationship to the evangelical world, especially with your relationship with Nyack College, how does this come across to people that maybe don't have a personal relationship with you? Where they're like, ”Yeah, Jim has literally drunk all of the Kool-Aid, high as a kite over there. He's believing in a different gospel.” You know, you get the heretic word thrown around which I like what you say about heresy. You say heretics have always represented a threat to the security that most people derive from believing just what everybody else believes. Which I… So what would happen if I walked into a church and literally just repeated what you said about sin? And to be clear, I have said similar things in a church about sin, especially to my kid. I most recently said, because he did something that was overtly intentionally sinful. So I walked him through, you know, hamartia and how it's an archery term and you're intentionally missing the mark or maybe unintentionally but either way you missed the mark. And the wages of that are things die. In this case, it was a relationship with a friend. That, it was the wages of that death and you killed that relationship. Make better choices and instead you, things come alive. But that's a different thing. And people get mad on Sunday, if you say that in certain churches. So how is this received by people that aren't necessarily as heretical as me? 

James Danaher  20:19 

My philosophy majors would get it. And they were, there are some evangelicals, well yourself as an example, that are seeing this. They've been on the journey, and they've gotten someplace. But I think a lot of people, a lot of people tell me, “Look, I just don't want to go to hell. You know, I don't want to get crazy with this Jesus thing. I just don't want to go to hell, Jesus is my Savior.” Okay. But that's not what Jesus is talking about.

Seth Price  20:48 

And then I turn around and tell them, you're creating hell with your decisions right now. It's not a place you're going, it's a place you're making, and you miss the whole point. And then I get a glazed over look.

James Danaher  20:59 

Yeah. My next book is, the basis for it is, God is love. God is unconditional love. And he wants to make us into His likeness. But in order, and not only did God make us with love at the core of our being in His likeness, but he also made us in His likeness by making us free. And we're able to direct that love, however we wish. And Jesus tells us the best things to love and the worst things to love. And the best things to love are what put us in the heavenly state, and the worst things to love are what put us in it in hell. Did you know Jesus, one of the greatest things that Jesus ever said, in the fifth chapter of John's gospel, he says, The Father judges no one, but God has given all judgment to the sun. And then the 12th chapter of John, he says, and I judged no one. But you do have a judge. The words that I've spoken to you will be your judge. And I take that to mean Jesus tells us the best things to love and the worst things to love. And the worst things to love are the things that the world tells us to love: wealth, power, prestige, fame, you know. That's what the world tells you want to be happy; that's good enough money. Jesus has eight teachings against money. Eight teachings against money! We pay no attention to that! Well, there's nothing now, it's the love of money that's–

Seth Price  22:29 

Well, capitalism, you're aware that we're capitalist, right? Money is the money is the thing.

James Danaher  22:33 

Exactly. I don't know if it's in this book. But I often talk because I have a graduate degree in the social sciences as well. And years ago, I used to teach economics. And I would tell the students all the time, money has three functions: It's a means of exchange, to overcome barter; it's a store of value capital; but it's also the measure of value. How good is that car? How good is that suit? And we measure just like we measure distance in miles, we measure value in dollars. Yeah. And that's the great lie. That's the great lie. And the prosperity gospel that incorporates that into the gospel and says, “No, Jesus wants you to be wealthy.” Okay? You have to ignore everything that Jesus said, because it's just the opposite – that it's poverty, it's being reduced to who you are in God, which means the death of the false self, the self that you've created to be in the world has to die. That's the transformation. I was in the world for a long time. Somebody told me this once: they said, You know, when somebody meets you… I was a quarterback. When I was a kid, from the time I was eight years old, I was a quarterback in high school, I was a quarterback in college. And somebody told me recently, they said, you know, when somebody meets you, they don't find out that you have a doctorate or you're a professor, or, but and you've got nine books out; but within the first half an hour, they're going to know that you were a quarterback. What the hell's that all about? That's the false self. That's, I was always little. And I was told I was too little to play in high school. And then after high school, they told me Yeah, too little to play in college, you know. And that that was just such a drive that was, you know, that's this false self that I've created. And then I added to that false self by getting a PhD and by writing books and stuff like that. But that's not who God created. God created that self, who I was before the world got ahold of me and started making. It's like this. That's what the experience is: get back to who you were before the world got ahold of you. That's why Jesus says unless you become like a little child, you'll never inherit the kingdom of heaven? You know. It's about becoming who God made me to be, and not who the world made me to be. But we fall in love with ourselves, you know, and love we have that freedom we can attach. My favorite definition of love is based on an early 20th century Spanish philosopher, Ortega y Gasset. Says what love is, is attention abnormally fixed. The things, you know, we say, Oh, I love this. And I love that. Really? Is your attention abnormally fixed upon those things?

Seth Price  25:36 

Yeah what you love is your iPhone, that's what you love. You love that phone, so–

James Danaher  25:42 

But, you know, it's about abnormally fixing your attention on the things of God. And the best place to do that is just to take the words of Jesus, especially the words that don't make any sense, you know, unless you hate your mother and father, your brothers and sisters, even your own life, you can't be my disciple. What does that mean? Where did you get your cultural values? Where did you get, How did the world get into you? Through your family, or your culture, and you think that's who you are. That is not who you are. That's the lie. And you're never going to hear the words of Jesus until that self starts to die. And you start to identify with who you are in God. And that only happens through prayer. And not prayer, bah-bah-bah-bah-bah, you know, all the petitions to God. Just shut up. Shut up. You know, with God, that's why Jesus says in the sermon, you know, get in, get into your inner room. Now that obviously is a metaphor for that deeper level of consciousness. Be still be still and know that I am God, you know? It's from a place that you can see the words of Jesus and how beautiful and good they are.

Seth Price  26:57 

Give me a minute, we'll be right back. [Chip crunch] 

You use a word, it, early on in your book, and I want to relate it to liminal spaces, mostly because that's something my pastor talks about a lot. And so I'd like to get your context of what you mean when you say liminal space and how that relates to your book. But you use the word Behold, in a way that I don't use it. So I read Behold, and in my mind, it's a left brain activity. It's take note of this, behold, I've arrived at work. Behold, yeah, you know, I paid my taxes. But you're using Behold, as a saying, you know, it means don't miss this experience, which is really more of a right brain activity. But how does like the verb of beholding, which feels like that's not a real sentence? Maybe it is. How does that like, what is that? And then maybe how does that connect to liminal spaces, which are in two different chapters, but I'm gonna make them go together because it feels right to me.

James Danaher  28:07 

Right. I get that. That word Behold, from the woman just mentioned a little while ago, Maggie Ross, is her pen name. Martha Reeves is a real name. And she wrote a book a number of years ago called Silence: A Reader's Guide, A User's Guide, I'm sorry. And she defines Behold, in a way that I'd never heard it before. It's about not knowing. It's not about paying attention to something in order to know something. But it's being awestruck by something; something that goes beyond the imagination;something that just grabs a hold of you. That's the mystery. You know, we've made the cross into an 11th century atonement theory, when, it, the cross is this mystery of God, that God enters the world. He gives himself away to the world. In a way, that's just unbelievable. And that's what beholding is, beholding is not knowing something, it's not knowing. And it's, it's the not knowing that is the basis for the journey. Once, I say all the time when people say “I know God,” I don't, that's another way of saying, I've gone far enough. You know, I've gone far enough with God, I'm not going any further. Okay, fine, fine. But understand that you're creating your own eternal nature and character. God doesn't judge us. He allows us to create our own eternal nature and character by the things we love. And the best thing you can love is Jesus, and wanting to be like him. You know, the Old Testament is about Moses giving a law. It's about God meeting people in the world. Jesus’ words are about the kingdom and bringing the kingdom to Earth. How do you do that? Well, you make his word your own and you, you repent over them enough and repent against the things that the world tells you to love. Until those words really start taking root within you. And you suddenly find yourself not suddenly, But after years of doing this, you find yourself, you don't judge other people. You just start to be God's love to the world. And, it's amazing what happens. Instead of you reacting to people, and “Well I've got to show that guy, he may think he can talk to me that way–” No, start loving that person, and they melt in front of you. It's the, it's the most unbelievable power in the world. But I think most of us say: “Look, I just want to receive God's love and God's forgiveness. I don't want to become God's forgiveness to the world. That's what that's who Jesus is. I can't be like Jesus.” Well, that's exactly what he's calling you to do. He's called to be His disciples, to be His mercy, forgiveness, and love to the world. You know?

Seth Price  31:02 

Yeah. Yeah. What is? What? No, no, no, what is a liminal space? What is that?

James Danaher  31:11 

Ah, liminal space is that, that space that isn't occupied, it's the, it's, it's the place of prayer. When you're in a place of prayer. You're not in the world any longer. You're in that place that's, that's sacred. That's, but it takes real practice. If you don't keep on, you know, when I talk to people, I ask them, What's your practice? They go, What do you mean, what’s your practice? Well, how many times a day do you get alone with God and for how long? Oh, I don't have time to get alone with God. I am so busy. Yeah I know everybody's busy. And it's not right for me to talk about this, because I'm retired now. I can hang out with God, three, four hours a day, just practicing his presence. You, You read, Brother Lawrence’s Practicing the Presence of God?

Seth Price 32:07

I have not.

James Danaher 32:09

It's a great book. It's a little tiny book. It's about a 17th century monk who wrote one book in his life. He was the, he wasn't even the cook in the monastery – he was the dishwasher in the monastery. But what he would do as he was washing the dishes and pots and pans, is he would practice the presence of God; being conscious of God's presence. And there's some times where you get really quiet and really in a solitary place in that inner room, and you start to experience God's presence enough that you come to identify with who you are in that presence, rather than who you are in the world. I think that's how transformation takes place. You have to have that prayer practice. I listened to Thomas Keating a lot. You know, Thomas Keating the– He's, he's just the best. I'm a big fan of Richard Rohr. I spent 11 weeks a dozen years ago with Richard Rohr. And he's had a big influence on my life, but Keating, Keating just takes it to another level. He died–

Seth Price  33:19 

2008, right? 2008, nine or something like that? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Um, so is, Do you feel like prayer is predominantly a left brain or right brain thing? 

James Danaher  33:33

Oh no it’s all right brain.

Seth Price  33:35

So how do I get into that? Because I have inherited a left brain. And even like in the, even like, in a more less even like a less of a Protestant way. There's so much rote memorization and ceremony attached to it that you can just put it on autopilot. So how do I? How do I begin to do that?

James Danaher  33:55 

Yeah. I was just at a high school. I get together with some of the people I went to high school with for lunch from time to time. And they asked me to pray before we had lunch. And so sorry, I don't pray in public anymore. You know, in the sermon, in the sixth chapter, Jesus says, he talks about three things: almsgiving, prayer and fasting – three religious activities. And he says the same thing about all three: don't do it in public. Don't do it in public. Don't do it in public. And then he does the Lord's Prayer–

Seth Price  34:32 

–in public. [Laughs]

James Danaher  34:36 

[Laughs] I know. When you're in a room, shut the door, shut the door, you know, get alone. This relationship with God is personal. It's personal. And when you're in public, you're always the false self. My wife is a great worshiper. She loves worship, and that's where she meets God. I'm not a worshiper, and I think it's Because when I'm in public, I'm the false self. I'm the false self. And it's only when I get alone, and in the solitude, and that, I think the first scripture I ever heard when I became a Christian was: Be still and know that I am God. You know. And it's about being still and knowing that He is God and spending time in that silence. And that Scripture is so true. The Father will send the Holy Spirit who will explain all things and remind you of all that I've said. And that's the purpose of prayer. The purpose of prayer is to allow the soil of our soul to take those Jesus words, and have them take root within us. They don't take root with who we are in the world. And when we're in the world with the phonies that we've created to be in the world, and God is always looking to deal with us on a deeper level.

Seth Price  36:01 

Yeah. So if we're – so I agree with the false self thing. I'm a big fan of the Enneagram because my pastor turned me on to it. And I don't know if you studied that or not, but it's helped me. It's helped. You said you haven't?

James Danaher  36:14 

No, no Susan Sebille is a personal friend of mine

Seth Price  36:18 

And then you definitely have Yes.

James Danaher  36:21 

Yes, we've had some great times together actually.

Seth Price  36:24 

Yeah. Yeah. So I can say, as I was wrestling with some of my, whatever makes me me. There's a listlessness, or listing. If you want to use a metaphor of like a boat out at sea, of uncomfortability. And often I found that there were not places to safely take that in a way to reorient or re-orient oneself to the horizon, either in your faith or in your personal relationships. And so if you're going to begin in that work, what would you say for you, Jim, is maybe something that someone could hear saying, Yeah, expect this to hurt or expect it not to hurt but here are ways or practices to kind of reorient yourself, because it is going to get bumpy because you're you're disinheriting everything that you've inherited, but you're not forgetting those things. And those are easy to fall back on.

James Danaher  37:15 

Yeah. Well, I'm a three on the Enneagram. You know what the sin of the three is?

Seth Price  37:23 

You’re a quarterback. Absolutely. [Laughs]

James Danaher  37:27 

That’s right. I'm in charge, I'm in charge, it is what we're gonna do. And I've gotten a lot out of any grip, the place I'm at now in my walk, you know, a John of the Cross and the dark night sense, and then the dark night of spirit. And I've done a lot of dying, that that false self, but I think the only way you can see the sin of the false self of the, the Enneagram, whatever your number is– 

Seth Price 37:58

five 

James Danaher 37:59

–is your bed. Yeah. You have, you're five?

Seth Price  38:02 

Which is why that left brain thing hurts so much to let go of.

James Danaher  38:07 

You know what, when I was with Richard Rohr a dozen years ago, there was another guy that was an intern there, they had a program that you could be in turn with Richard Groys, CAC, either for a year or 11 weeks, and I was on sabbatical at the time, so the 11 weeks were perfect. Yeah, but one of the other interns was a five. And he would sit up on top of the guest house roof, and just watch, just watch, you know, it's avarice, but it's intellectual avarice. It's what I want to know. I want to know, I want to know,” you know, and maybe that's why liminal has, you know, I don't like that liminal space. I want to know, I want to figure this out. But by taking me down to that place, where it was just me and God, and I was confident enough in God's love, that he could show me who I was in the world. And the fact that it was ugly. And the fact that I saw how despicable I was – it was okay, I could do that. Because he had a hold of me, you know, yeah, it's a father telling you, it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay. But do you see this like what you did the other day with your son? You know, do you see what, what you did? It's okay. It's okay. Because I'm your father and I love you. But I'm showing you how this, this is not who you are. This is not who I'm calling you to be. There's a deeper you, there's a better you, but you got to get rid of that, that you that the world created. And we've all been created by these wounds that we suffered in childhood. You know, I was little and I hated being little and being told “well, you you're you're not big enough to to be a quarterback.” You know, now they have quarterbacks you, you know… When I was in college to the other quarterback was 6’4”, you know, and I'm 5’9”, and but I had a better arm than him, but–

Seth Price  40:11 

All you need is good blockers and a good arm; the height isn't all that important. Yeah.

James Danaher  40:15 

I never had good blockers. But it's that person that you're trying to make yourself into. And finally consenting. And I think this is what prayer is: it's consenting to allow that person to die. In order that the, the you that God created begins to come forth,

Seth Price  40:36 

Do you think our churches do that? Well, do you think our churches give us a place to come prepared to grieve for that person that's dying? Because there is a loss there.

James Danaher  40:45 

Yeah, yeah. That's, I think, the mercy of God. And if you don't have it – if you have a church that's all about righteousness, and being righteous, no, you can't tolerate anything. It's the kind of church that that Jesus is trying to create, is a church full of mercy, and full of forgiveness, you know, the, and our problem is we create churches that are righteous, you know, and Evangelicalism is about righteousness, and pointing at abortionist and pointing at homosexuals, and what does that have to do with you? What does that have to do with, you know, where's your sin? And that's what, what's so neat about Jesus, as he keeps on showing us the sin is deeper, the sin is deeper, the sin is deeper. If you pay attention to his words, he's going to reveal the sin at ever deeper levels. So his mercy will continue to flow through you to the world. But you've got to be a sinner. You know what, when Jesus says, Take this, take the log out of your own eye, in order to see the splinter in the other person's eye. And we interpret that as Oh, well, you got to take the sin out of your own. I know, a log is not the sin. It's righteousness, take the righteousness out of your own eye. So you can see the sin in somebody else's eye. You know, the wisdom of Alcoholics Anonymous: only sinners can minister to sinners, make sure you know you're a sinner if you're going to be able to minister to sinners. And we go no, oh, you have to be righteous to minister to sinners. Oh, shut up. You’re just a righteous jerk.

Seth Price  42:24 

That's the episode title right there. “Oh, shut up.” That's the episode title.

James Danaher  42:27 

You know […] you haven’t spent a lot of time with God. Because God would reveal, God's faithful to reveal that sin on ever deeper levels in order to transform you into His likenessThat's the gospel.

Seth Price  42:40 

Yeah that's the episode title right there. Oh, shut up a couple exclamation points.

James Danaher  42:51 

Just like, Oh, God, God, God, Oh, God. Oh, god. Oh, Shut up.

Seth Price  42:57 

I love it. Love it. Love it. So a couple two questions left, maybe three. But I feel like you're not going to answer the third. So but we'll, we'll go with that. So as, as your experience has, has led you to think about this, if you have at all. For the next few years – so let's say the next three or four years, what do you feel like are the most important things that the congregants of any church body, or faith body really, for that matter, should be allowed to talk about without fear of getting like ostracized and kicked out? And if we don't, it's going to just continue to degrade the church as a whole? Well, those things you should be able to talk about, like, what can I do? Or should I? 

James Danaher  43:38 

Right. A prayer practice that really is about getting down to a level beneath the level that the world has a hold of you. And, you know, Catholics have a much better understanding of this than evangelicals do. Evangelicals think no, who I am in the world, this false self is who God created. This is me. No, it's not. No, it's not. And if you paid attention to Jesus’ word you'd see; but the only way to pay attention to Jesus's words is through prayer, and not verbal prayers, but getting alone with God and being still in his presence. You know? Go ahead.

Seth Price  44:20 

So I have a sarcastic question. Because I want to, and I feel like it. So if we're, if we're praying only and, and, you know, and, and I can't think of the word. If we're praying alone. You know, not, not in public. How does one pray for the food at Thanksgiving? Because that's coming up here soon. How do we do that? 

James Danaher 44:44

I think that's okay. 

Seth Price 44:45

Punt it to the kid. Just let the kids pray.

James Danaher  44:47 

But don’t think that…that’s your prayer life. You know, don't tell me about prayer. I pray every meal I pray [...] that’s not the prayer life that Jesus is calling you to. Jesus is calling you to get alone with the Father and have enough confidence in his hold on you that you can see your sin at ever deeper levels.

Seth Price  45:10 

Yeah, yeah. Yeah I like that. Um Okay, so the last real final question. So when you try to wrap words around explaining what God or the divine or whatever word you want to use there is to people – What would you say to that if I was to say, “Hey Jim, what/who is the heck God? What is that?

James Danaher  45:34 

You know, I don't think that the concepts, the words, and the theology has that much to do with it. It's about “are Jesus' words really taking root within your life?” That's why I think when we get to the other side, we're gonna see atheists that have a big place in that kingdom. And people who profess to be these great Christians – they're not there. They're not there. It's about what do you love? Do you know, I just recently had a buddy of mine die. And I just, I was watching a giant, this– do a little bit of a story. But I've never really had a male friend, you know, a buddy. I've had a lot of acquaintances. But about 20-some years ago, my next door neighbor, we had moved into this new townhouse and he had moved in next door with his wife. And he was a giant fan. And I'm a giant fan. And he was asking me to go to the giant games with– he had tickets to, to get to the Giant games in Yankee Stadium. But I had my mother at the time, she was in her 90s. And she had Alzheimer's. And it was real, it was just too much to leave with my wife for four hours to go to a Giant game. But after my mother died, we started doing the Giant games. And then when they came up with the, you know, $10,000, a seat and stuff like that– 

Seth Price  47:15

Stop going.

James Danaher 47:16

–we stopped going games and just watched it on TV. And we did that for almost 20 years. And he just died in March. And just the other day, I'm watching the game and I realized why I loved him so much. He was a nominal Jew, had one eye, he was a musician. He a businessman… But he was such a loving person. You know, I have loved people, but love them for what I could get. Oh, I love that woman. Why? Because well, I'm gonna you know.. And but Rich, just, he was just loving. I never evangelized him. I never told him, you know, the Sinner’s Prayer or anything like that. Because I know he, he was beyond that. And he was, he knew he was a rascal. He knew he wasn't a perfect person by any stretch of the imagination. But he's so easily loved. And I loved– What I learned from him, was how to just love somebody, just just be loving towards that person, you know. And the only thing I ever said to him about my work and I said, the gospel is: forgive everyone, judge no one, and love even your enemies. And his response was, “Well, who wouldn't believe that? Who wouldn’t believe that?” That's, that's the gospel. That's the gospel. And it doesn't matter what you profess. You know, the idea of you, if you believe in your heart and confess with your mouth, okay fine. But what do you do with the things that Jesus says that contradict that? You know, in the middle of the sermon, Jesus says, and if you don't forgive others their sins, God will not forgive you your sins. Really? How does that work in with your theology? You know, it's about being God's love to the world, and His mercy and forgiveness. And, yeah. And I think, what you profess to believe counts for very, very little because what we claim to believe, is usually bullshit. We say a whole bunch of things, and we say, Oh, I believe this, and I believe that. Okay, good. Talk to me next, and see what you believe. You know, my specialty is the history of philosophy. So I know, theories change over the course of time. Doctrines change and people go well, “I believe that–” Really? You know, that's a 19th century doctrine, right? Nobody believed that before the 19th century. You know.

Seth Price  49:55 

I do that with inerrancy often or with like the rapture, especially with the rapture when people that come into it to where I work and they know that theology is my thing. And I'll walk them through the history of the rapture, and they will go, “What's… everybody's always…” But I was like: No, no, my dear. No, everybody has not always. Actually, most of the time people have not any way believed that. But it's okay. If you're good with that. I'm good with that, I guess. Yeah.

James Danaher  50:26 

Yeah. I think the most important chapter in all of Scripture is the seventh chapter of Matthew, the end of the sermon, where Jesus says, Build your house upon the rock. And he tells you what the rock is. It's his words. And he says, Don't build your house on sand. And I think the sand of the doctrines, the doctrines that come and go, and they're very popular, and you believe in what everybody else believes, in the 13th century, or in the 17th century, or in the 21st century, but it doesn't count for anything. It's not something to build your life upon. Jesus' words are the things to build your life upon. That's the gospel. You know, when people say they tell us what the gospel is, that it has nothing to do with Jesus' words. Come on, you know, the great saints have always built their life upon Jesus' words. And that's, that's how the gospel is gonna continue to go forward in all of its different forms. 

Seth Price  51:25 

Yeah, I like that. Yeah. So this is the part that I don't think that you're going to answer just because you refuse to even advertise that you write books. So plug the places, Jim. Where do you want people to go to do stuff related to the work that you do? Where do, you where should they go to if they want to buy the book, which they should, if they if they, you know, like, where do you want people to do things?

James Danaher  51:45 

Yeah, my, well, my publisher is Paragon House. And they do have a great distributor of my books are at Walmart, and what's the other Target and Amazon and Amazon in the UK is going great. And Barnes & Noble, it's, it's all over. But it has to be something that, you know, I, my… I have a cousin that's about 15 years older than me. And she said, What, where are you going to promote your book? Can I come? No, I don't do that anymore. I did that when I taught. And now I've pretty much become a hermit. And I just love just hanging out with God all day. So I really don't promote it very much.

Seth Price  52:24 

I told you, so I didn't think you'd answer. Yeah, yeah, I tell you what, I will find all the links, I will put them in the show notes. I also transcribe these. So I'll put it in the transcript right about here, that word here. Just click that word here. And it'll take you to the places. So, Jim, I really appreciate our time this morning. I always enjoy talking with you. 

James Danaher  52:43 

Well that sounds great. Thank you so much. That was great. I loved it. I'll get another book out. And we'll do this again.

Seth Price  52:47 

We could do it without a book, too. It's fine. 

James Danaher 52:52

Okay. Tell me when to do it, I'm available.

Seth Price  53:10

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Kathy Khang & JR Forasteros - Tonight We Dine at Midnight Mass

Note: Can I Say This at Church is produced for audio listening. If able, I strongly encourage you to listen to the audio, which has inflection, emotion, sarcasm where applicable, and emphasis for points that may not come across well in written word. This transcript is generated using a combination of my ears and software, and may contain errors. Please check the episode for clarity before quoting in print.

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Seth Price 0:00

Yeah, yeah, how many um, just governmentally? How many breakdowns through customs? Does it require to smuggle the vampire back in from from the Middle East?

Kathy Khang 0:10

Holy cow.

JR. Forasteros 0:12

I'm guessing that he just went through Hobby Lobby is there apparently very good.

Kathy Khang 0:18

Lobby and others that museum out in Detroit is funded by Hobby Lobby. Yeah.

JR. Forasteros 0:26

Oh, you need to smuggle something from Middle East. Yeah, yeah.

Seth Price 0:43

How are we everybody? Welcome back to the show. I'm Seth. You are probably just as busy as I am. Right. I'm recording this quite literally just a few days before Thanksgiving. There's a lot going on. So, yeah. Welcome to the holidays, folks. You and I were in it together. I really thank you so very much for downloading the show. I know that you have a lot going on. And however you got here, I am so glad that you're here. I don't remember when. Exactly. I don't remember what I was reading or where I was reading it. I don't remember if it was a text message or a phone call. But someone that I trust. It must have been so told me, hey, there is a show on Netflix called Midnight Mass. And I think that you would like it. And I said, Well, what is it? And they said, Well, it's kind of this and it's kind of that and the horror word got thrown around. And here's what you need to know about me. Horror does not interest me at all. I have tried. Oh man, I've tried. Like I I haven't watched any of the classics, because I just I just don't like horror movies. It's not that I get scared. I really don't is that I get bored. And I don't find the stories all that compelling. I don't like them for the same reason that I don't like romantic comedies. I feel like I've seen it. And I feel like I've seen it. So all that to be said, I decided to give it a go. Because again, the nameless person that escapes me right now told me Hey, you would like this. They were not wrong. And so I went online and I said I want to talk about this with someone both Kathy and Jr. I think we're volunteered to come on. And so both Cathy and JR are back returning guests of the show to talk about midnight mass. It is important to realize and understand however that there is not a way to talk in detail for an hour about a show that exists today. Without some spoilers and so if for some reason you haven't watched the show, and you think you might or any other reason that you hate spoilers some people just hate them. You're gonna want to not listen to this one. If that's not you, or if you've seen the show, stick around. This was fun. Here we go both of us welcome back to the show. Not that that works out. Well. Yeah, super

Kathy Khang 3:16

fun.

Unknown 3:18

Thank you so much.

Seth Price 3:19

Yeah, no good yeah. So briefly, because I do want to talk about this Netflix show. But briefly, it's probably been so for for you Jr. It's probably been a year Kathy for you. It's it's probably been molt two or three years. I don't know, three years too many years. What's new for y'all? Whoever wants to go first, like what are the things that you would you would want people to go? Oh, yeah, here's some things that matter.

Kathy Khang 3:41

Um, I think since we last spoke, I left my vocational ministry job and have been hanging out doing all sorts of different things, writing on the side teaching yoga, managing the yoga studio, but taking a break from that space of evangelicalism and being like, rooted in that space. So yeah, that's that's probably the biggest thing that's changed. I think since we last talk.

Seth Price 4:17

Yeah, that's probably healthy. Yeah.

Kathy Khang 4:21

I probably should have done that a while ago.

Seth Price 4:25

JR, how about you?

JR. Forasteros 4:26

Yeah. So I've started writing for a couple of new outlets. I have had a couple of articles go up at Sojourners. One on Robin coming out as gay. Well as queer he didn't actually come out as anything specific, but I'm kind of what that means for comics and comic readers.

Seth Price 4:43

Oh, the DC character. I was like Robin Hood. Okay,

JR. Forasteros 4:46

I've been a Batman a understorey Gottschee forget that. Not everyone interprets everything through the lens of comics. You know, Robin? Yeah, sure. There's only the one sec there's like 50 You know, whatever anyway, and then the other one was they just decided to call it I'm a pastor and I love horror movies. Here's why. So it's sort of a, what what value horror has for spiritual formation,

Seth Price 5:10

which is, and that's and that's you you're writing that I'm reading. I'm the pastor who loves horror movies and that's also on sojourners

JR. Forasteros 5:17

on sojourners. And then I also had my first article, hopefully of many to go up@tor.com, which is a sci fi and fantasy publisher, actually on reading vampire stories through the lens of monster theory and how that applies to church abuse and purity culture.

Seth Price 5:35

Those are all words, that makes sense independently. I'll have to is that publish it? I'll have to read that. I also thought Tor was like the onion browser. So I'm, I'm a bit confused there. But

JR. Forasteros 5:44

no, Tor is a sci fi fantasy. Publisher. Like they're one of the they're kind of the OG like big fantasy. So what's writing there? Well, one of the things I love is that they're not a they're not a Christian platform. Right. They're readership. There are Christians who retort like me, but but there are a ton of people who are not Christians, or formerly Christian or whatever. So the conversations surrounding the article there and in that space have been really fun.

Seth Price 6:12

Yeah. Yeah. Huh. Is that That's and then can you link that? Can you send that I'd like to read? Yeah, absolutely.

JR. Forasteros 6:18

Yeah, no problem. Absolutely. Anything that you want.

Seth Price 6:21

I'd like I'd like to read it. It's, it's not stuff I normally read. And I'm all about that. And, you know, and this show as well, it's not shows that I normally watch, I think, with the last time we spoke to her, I said, I don't really watch her ever, because I can't turn like my analytical brain off where I'm like, Oh, I can see the gaffer microphone. That's too bad. You know,

JR. Forasteros 6:42

there's a way to trick your brain to where you, I think, for me, where I start analyzing the, like, the the sociological and cultural implications of the film. And so then I can, like, ignore all of that other stuff, because I have my, you know, I give that part of my brain to DOJ. And, you know, let it let it just go do its thing. Did you just see a chew toy? Yeah. You know, like your analytical brain you want to try so go. Pay attention to this, and let me enjoy this movie. Sometimes I get to write an article afterwards. Yes.

Seth Price 7:13

That's hilarious. So I realized I didn't ask this in an email. Are we gonna talk about this show with or without spoilers?

JR. Forasteros 7:21

Oh, I figured with

Seth Price 7:23

Yes. Great. Okay. So if you're still listening, and you haven't watched the show Midnight Mass on Netflix, or you haven't borrowed your friend's password to watch it? You've been warned?

Kathy Khang 7:33

Yes. Get with it. It's been out for a while now.

Seth Price 7:36

Yeah. Yeah. It's yeah. Also, also the Giants lost the game on Sunday. So another spoiler and yeah, and for context, the Braves just beat the Astros. So yay, spoiled all the things for you. I've run I've run into that for the day. So

Kathy Khang 7:53

it was funny. At some point this week, Peter, and I look, my husband and I looked at each other and we're like, is there baseball still happening?

JR. Forasteros 8:01

I did the same thing. I used to be such a fan of matches. Yeah,

Seth Price 8:05

I like playing it. I like watching the kids play it. I'm not in it for 216 games, or whatever it is. I'm just, I'm not in it.

Kathy Khang 8:12

We are only if our team is in it. But our team was

Seth Price 8:17

my team's arrangers. So they haven't been in it since like the 90s Nolan Ryan, When did he leave? That's how long it's been since they've been. So

JR. Forasteros 8:25

Kathy, are you Cubs or Sox? I don't think I know this. You know, my wife's a Cardinals. So.

Seth Price 8:35

Anyway, fair enough. So Midnight Mass on Netflix. Um, so I couldn't come up with a better conversate your question to begin the conversation then. What is this show actually about?

JR. Forasteros 8:53

Like, like in the capital discourse, or do you want to plot summary?

Seth Price 8:56

Hey, you can take it wherever you are. I intentionally left it vague, because I have I have a shortlist of like seven things that I think it's about and I'm not sure which one of those is true. Maybe all of them. I don't know. What do you think this show is actually about?

Kathy Khang 9:14

I think it's, well, it's about religion. It's about groupthink. It's, you know the the power of groupthink and the power of shame. In a community that doesn't want to talk about its secrets, which sounds a lot like some families and some religious traditions and even maybe some countries don't want to talk about their secrets or not so secret secrets. Anyway. What do you think chair?

JR. Forasteros 9:56

Yeah, I mean, obviously, the way it talks about religion is really interesting, and the desire that a lot of people have for religion to be a cure all. And a religion is a place to hide from reality. And also Magga, you know, I mean, there was this very clear, like, make the island degrade again, strain that was being wrapped up in religious language. And that was, in many ways a it was, it was in many ways, I felt the real reason people were engaging in the religion so much, you know, you had to have the core folk at the beginning of the show who are already a part of the community. But then once things start getting better, quote, unquote, that's when everyone else shows up. And, and it was very much part of that, like, the best days are ahead of us, we can get back to the, you know, get back to the good old days kind of make the island great again, rhetoric. That was then again, wrapped up and resurrection and everything. It was also about belief, right? It was about the uncertainty of religion. Yeah, I don't know. How many of the seven did we check off?

Seth Price 11:16

A few? Um, so no, I found it. So for me, it was a lot about innocence. Because I like the way that the children are used in the show. I can't remember everyone's name, but there's young lady in the wheelchair. And I really enjoy Ali as as an innocent archetype of somebody trying to find something in his own. That isn't his parents. You know, in arguing with his dad, who I can't remember his dad's name at the time. It's calling the sheriff is fine. Yeah. I also like it's a show about for me about literally proof texting everything. And I also find it weird that it's a show about I think faith is a whole building beautiful structures for our community that sit unused and vacant every day after they've been built. Thinking about that Community Center Community Center. Yeah, literally look at this building we built for you. With arguably embezzled money. It seems right and, and you should love coming to it.

Kathy Khang 12:21

Right? Even though there's nothing offered. Well, there's

Seth Price 12:24

nice walls, and I really liked the chair storage on the back, it was a different way to store chairs. And what I've seen in the church was very nice chair storage.

Kathy Khang 12:32

So much potential so much potential.

Seth Price 12:36

So why so who was the actual villain in the show? Like, I don't actually blame. I don't want to call it we'll call him the angel vampire. I don't know what you want to call him. Because who cares? I don't actually think that he's a villain at all. Because they seem to be just acting on a primal rage in the same way that my dog wants to treats. So who is the actual villain of the series?

JR. Forasteros 13:02

It's interesting that you say say it that way. Because I read I you know, I did read the vampire as a as a monster. You know. I think it was walled up in that tomb for a reason. But I mean, yeah, yeah, it's pretty easy to point at Bev as as the big villain, but I think Father Paul is a villain too. What about you, Kathy?

Kathy Khang 13:29

Well, you know, even the the angel vampire character. I, sometimes I think, Oh, well, we we separate wall and are fearful of things we don't understand. And so that, that for me as somebody who often is connected with countries or country, which is actually not my country of origin, but countries we don't understand or are feel fearful of people we don't understand or are fearful of and are blamed for things. I think that to me, is one of those like, is the vampire a villain? Or is it something we just don't understand? And villainize conveniently, and then take advantage of when it's convenient for us, which is what was happening in that arc of the story. That the power of becoming a vampire does things that blood does things that serves a purpose that was convenient at the time, but you can't control that because you don't understand it. And so I think for me, the the villain is more kind of the underlying fear that people are operating out of constantly in that space of and not addressing the fear. So I'm not saying that fear it's Self is the villain and a bad thing, but that nobody ever talks about what's going on. So even the young lady who was paralyzed from shooting incident leads, you know, you you find out later all that she's been holding, right and she has that confrontation. Oh my god. But she's been holding that in for so long. And there's no space, even in this idyllic Island and parents who are supportive. She's not had that opportunity to say and speak her mind. So, for me, that seems that is the underlying kind of villain. That's what, that's what Bev operates out of. And that's what all of the characters are operating out of. And then that becomes really selfish, because you're not talking about the things that maybe somebody else is going through. And so you find a solution for your fear without thinking about the impact on others. Like, you know, keeping stores of rat poison, may or may not have bad consequences for other people.

Seth Price 16:15

Yeah. Yeah. So

JR. Forasteros 16:18

I want to apply that logic, though. Because if we can say, I mean, I feel like you could say what you said about the vampire, oh, here's one we don't understand or No, to bed and do the same thing. Like for me, the vampire was a monster because it was controlling Father Paul to bring death. You know, and I think it was intentional on Flanagan's part, that we don't know anything. We don't know where it came from. We don't know how old it is. We don't actually even know what happens to it at the end. I read it as the vampire sort of represented like the problem of evil. Like, it's, it's, yeah, it's there. And we wish we knew more about it, but we never will. Let's type into your point. Let's talk more instead about how we interact with that, like mysterious reality of evil show. I mean, it's tearing people's throats out. It's, it's incur I very much read it as it was directing Father Paul. I don't know how y'all read it, but like it very much seemed like he was doing this creatures bidding to some degree or another. So I don't know. I mean, I hear what y'all say about like, you know, maybe it's just a misunderstood, whatever. But I don't know. Maybe it's also because I watched enough horror movies that I'm like, vampire equals scary. Yeah.

Kathy Khang 17:39

Yeah. Oh, yeah, for sure. And it was creepy as heck. And the whole cave thing was kind of cool. But But you knew something was up at the beginning, right? With all the cats. And no blood. It was kind of weird. And that's fine, because I'm not a big. Oh, I don't know.

Seth Price 17:58

No, no, I agree. I agree. I have I can't breathe around cats. I am on record on multiple episodes of the show that that anything related to a feline should not exist, and I'm aware that that also includes lions, tigers, and that's an over exaggeration, but yeah, absolutely not. I am. I'm 100% A dog brush. There's bears? I don't know if I'm allergic to or not. I don't know. I don't know. Um, so you said Rat poison again. I want to actually go back to this first year. I still don't blame that monster. For doing what monsters do. Like I just as I don't blame a dog for going after the cheek flesh after their homeowner has died. It's just I feel like it's just acting at a base instinct. Sorry, Kathy. I'm not that it's not. I don't know. I don't know. Um,

JR. Forasteros 18:54

so it's, it's, it's you're reading the vampire is less than, you

Seth Price 18:59

know? No. I'm reading it as it's doing what it does.

JR. Forasteros 19:06

So what's the difference between it and Bev?

Seth Price 19:09

Bev seems to be manipulating fear with a massive amount of scriptural knowledge to justify even at sometimes taking away guilt from Monsignor Pruitt at what he's doing. Like there's a massive murder scene where he basically is like, oh, shoot his head. I don't want to eat this blood. But man, that looks good. And then he sits there all night and gorgeous. And she's like, it's okay. Because it says this, and it says this, and then it's and I can't remember all the stuff that she quotes. You know, she seems to be honestly acting more as a really manipulative preacher than the priest seems to act like giving people license to do things that they genuinely feel guilty about. Versus like the vampire is a vampire. Like I don't blame a vampire for being a vampire.

JR. Forasteros 19:59

I guess That's what I'm saying, though is like, isn't like we, I feel like we could make the same argument about that. We could say, you know, if we went back and looked at how she was raised and the situations in her life, we would get to the place where we're like, yeah, she's evil and manipulative, but like, evil, manipulative, people are gonna do what they do. And that's, you

Seth Price 20:15

know, she would have been trained by Monsignor Pruitt, apparently. So there's that. Yeah.

Kathy Khang 20:19

Right. And it goes back to theology. Right? Do you believe that you are born inherently sinful? Even if you're a baby, and you've not done anything except cry? The moment you're out of the womb? Absolutely. Not. And right, then, then who and what Bev is, is completely understandable. And yet it's still horrible. Right? And so I think the the ability to hold those things intention forces us to think about what we say we believe, and then how that actually plays out in TV, on Netflix or in real life, right? Because I, you know, thankfully, I don't think I know anyone as extreme as Bev. But I do know people like Beth, right, who have a different line and figure murder is really, really bad. So they wouldn't do that, but come up to that line as close as they can. And, and we've seen that over and over again, in religion, where a religious leader takes advantage and proof texts and makes people think a little bit by little bit what they're doing, even though maybe their gut says maybe we shouldn't, maybe we shouldn't use rat poison. makes us think, oh, maybe this is okay. for the greater good. for the greater good. Yeah, whatever good. That means, you know, America, America.

JR. Forasteros 21:55

You know, I think I think very tellingly here, you go back and look at the character of Riley. And what happens to him when he receives this gift. I'm using scare quotes for the listeners, the gift of the power the vampiric power. He he and I love that it's in the the episode titled gospel, you know, he kills himself rather than rather than take any one, you know, kill anyone. And I think that matters. I think when you look at what, what Monsignor Pruitt does, what Beth does, specifically, you know, when when they have power or are have access to power. And then you look at Reilly like, I think you do see a clear difference, you know, and, and I guess for me, that's why I keep I keep going back to standing on like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna hold on to the vampire, as as one of the monsters in the show, because I think, I think we do see intention and, and, you know, mind behind it, and I think we I think Riley proves, and we're, I know, we're going to talk about the ending in a minute. But they do make this comment in the last episode that it doesn't change who you are, it reveals who you are. And I think we see that very much with Riley. And he is proof for us that Monsignor doesn't have to be doing any of the things that he's doing. Right? That none of the that all of these people who turn and then immediately start killing someone don't have to be doing that if they don't want to, you know. And that's what that's for me. That's what makes Beva villain, right? Is her calculation. She decides you can even see it in her eyes. Yeah. And you were talking about Seth? Right? She decides to start manipulating this. Yeah, she has, she has a chance now to say, Okay, do I accept the truth that all of the good that has been happening is actually rooted in this monster? Or do I slap a Bible verse on it and keep the light going? And she chooses the second, you know? Yeah. And again, to your point, Kathy, I think I think when you're in a church system, that values success, and prosperity and attendance, and all of the, you know, markers that we usually use for success. It is so easy when there are these small things, red flags, you know, which which aren't actionable items by nature, if they were they wouldn't be flags, they'd be the thing you know, flags, they're just little warning signs. When when things are going well, and by going well, we don't mean are becoming more holy, we mean are becoming more successful. It's easy to make those small compromises and then once you've made one small compromise, it's easier to make two and once you've made 203 And then it's easier to make a bigger compromise and a bigger compromise. And before you know it, we've got these insane

Seth Price 25:06

endowment funds or scandals. Yeah,

JR. Forasteros 25:09

right. Yeah. Yeah. All the stuff, all the stuff that we hear about, right that and you wonder like, did these people you almost have to wonder like, did these people like, were they crooked from the start and decided to get into ministry? Because Christians are suckers? Well, maybe maybe there's a few of those folks. But I think most of us would say no, probably most of the time it's well meaning people who started heavy Did either of you watch the Tammy Faye movie that just came out with a screen shot yet? You know, I was I was not really paying attention when when all of that blew up in the world. But the way they paint Jim Baker in that movie is very much this other this kind of guy, right? He Yeah, he did embezzle. And he did. You know, there were all kinds of scandal.

Seth Price 25:54

Why this kind of guy you mean above kind of guy, or a monster, you're pro kind of guy, what kind of guy more of

JR. Forasteros 26:00

a Monsignor Pruitt kind of guy where he started out. He started out with very good intentions, and arguably continued to have those good intentions. But because he made compromise, one compromise after another, he got to this place, where if he told the truth, it would all come crumbling down. And he was able to point at I mean, actually, let's go back to that terrible martial podcast that just ended. He was able to point to all of the good against yes, that happened to say, see, like, yes, what I'm doing is bad. But no one knows about it. And this small bad is allowing this greater good. So it's okay. It's okay enough to keep going. Right. I don't think I don't think he would have said it's okay. Then you would have said like, it's okay, enough, you know, it's the ends justify the means. Yeah, right.

Seth Price 26:49

That podcasts you

Kathy Khang 26:50

get go for Kenny? Well, and I was gonna say that's where you get that scene in the show where they're all in the church. Right? There have been so many compromises so many lies, that the only way to fix this is to have a whole island of empires. Like, there's no turning back. And so you're either gonna fess up, but that would require humility. That would require honesty really facing

JR. Forasteros 27:23

the monster that right right. Yes.

Kathy Khang 27:25

Yes. Which, which again, at that point, they could say it's, it's the angel slash vampire, but the reality is they are the monsters right? Bev is the monster Monsignor is the monster. And it's easier not to do that. Let's just make everybody monsters so that we don't have to deal with the reality. So

Seth Price 27:46

yeah, and intentionally because the doors are locked. So you're not going to leave until you're either chattel or food or whatever the word is for that like I forget what you what do you feed that like pigs? The slop what's the word? So yeah, yeah, you're either gonna convert or you'll be consumed and become the fuel for those that have been converted. So I appreciate your volunteering for that. Yeah, that that podcast that you're referencing, Jr. It does when some form of an award I think for me for the way that it uses that intro music mixed in with, with Mark yelling at people with the Kings Kaleidoscope song, it is very cleverly done. I agree. The show has many issues, but at least that little intro music theme that is so well done. They nailed it. So if that's all you listen to and then just hit pause, why do what what purpose? I have two questions. What purpose does this story happening around lint serve? I've tried to give more thought to that I understand the Easter aspects of it, especially as he's working through all of the different liturgies that he's doing each week in church, but I don't know why lint matters so much for the beginning of the show. Though I do like that Riley still takes the ashes because it's like yeah, whatever. I can get behind this theoretically scientifically. Yeah, I'm dust. I can get behind that. And then Why kill? I think it's Joe. Why kill his dog? Like, is that just malice? Like, what is that a test for the point like, what is this? Why kill a dog? Because I am not a cat person. But I am a dog person and that poor dog.

JR. Forasteros 29:19

I like that. You know, killing killing the beloved animal is always is always the first thing that happens in a horror show. Oh, in the beats of horror, there's a moment and the cats I think we're serving a similar kind of thing. It's an omen, right? It's a warning. It's saying hey, something's wrong here. And I'm here this is horrible. But it's true. You can kill a human as long as they're an adult in a show. And people are like, Oh man, that's like, pretty messed up. You kill a dog and people are like, this is the worst Yeah, like, there's something about. There's something about pets, and specifically, I think dogs, one dog is worth all of the cats on the island. So there's something about that in the beats of horror that I think that's kind of that's kind of how that goes. But yeah, I don't know, Kathy, I don't know if you had any thoughts about that.

Kathy Khang 30:23

Yeah, no, I think it's an observation I've made as one who does not have a furry pet we do have two geckos. Very different experience is that one, folks I know who love their pets are wonderful human beings. But also we'll talk about kind of this unconditional love that they get from their pets that they don't get from the humans around until you die. Until you're right. And then after you're after you're

Seth Price 30:55

dead. That's actually that's true. I didn't make that up. I have a client that literally Yeah, that's that's the thing. The cheek in the nose me is the tastiest, apparently,

Kathy Khang 31:04

after you're dead. So but so there is something about that. And then you've seen that shift over the decades, where it's not just like pet food. It's like pet costumes, and pet insurance. And right. So I do think and it's not just pets, although that's, I think, a very western easy signal of like, things are bad. But its nature, right. So the Harbinger, the warning should be things happening in nature signals to us humans who think of the world and the earth as something that we can pillage for ourselves. It's the signal that says you're doing something wrong. And that's going to impact you if you don't pay attention. So then you have a whole beach of dead cats, with no blood, and the instinct is all just put them in a pile and burn it and don't let anybody know. That's fine. That's fine.

JR. Forasteros 32:06

Well, yeah. And to Kathy's point, right, like, it's often the case in horror fiction, that animals have a more immediate sense that something's wrong. Maybe and this this would circle back to your last question. Maybe because animals lie to themselves less, right? Like they understand that we're all just sacks of meat. And so once once someone's dead you can you know, eat their nose, and it's fine.

Seth Price 32:30

sacks of meat. Yeah. In water episode titled sacks of meat, ellipses, and water.

JR. Forasteros 32:42

But yeah, so So there's, there's also a thing where the monster will often eliminate the animal first, because the animal is often the first one that will point to sit to saying something's wrong. You know, where's again, we're a lot better about lying to ourselves. So yeah, why land because land is the season if confession and repentance and the show was all about doing anything and everything except confessing and repenting, you know? Yeah, at every turn. I mean, if it starts, Father Paul shows up lying to the congregation. Right, right. Right. Like,

Seth Price 33:14

he's just off Island. Yeah.

JR. Forasteros 33:17

Right. And we have that scene in episode three, where we find out that he's a vampire. And that he's actually Monsignor Pruitt. We find we, but where he's confessing, right, but the whole thing starts in lies. And so literally, the whole the whole journey that he's inviting the congregation and by extension, the island on is one that is a lie. And it's it is a myth of I want to be careful here because Because we'll get into some territory where I disagree with Mike Flanagan, but he grounds he grounds their hope and a false resurrection. Right? One that one that rather than providing life is only going to literally burn the island to the ground.

Kathy Khang 34:04

Right, and, and perpetuate a cycle of death in order to survive. Right. And, and that's the thing. It's a confession. It's the from ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Well, if you're a vampire, apparently no. No, that is

JR. Forasteros 34:22

the thing, right? vampires. Vampires have eternal life, but it's a it is a different, right. So they're, they're not zombies, right? They're not reanimated corpses, but they're also not angels, or whatever we will be on the other side of the resurrection. Right? They're this. They're this perversion of Christ's gift of eternal life. Yes. And yeah, so what happens when you willingly decide not to notice the difference between those two things?

Seth Price 34:52

Yeah. Yeah, how many? Um, just governmentally? How many breakdowns through customs? Does it require to smuggle The Vampire back in from from the Middle East. Holy cow.

JR. Forasteros 35:05

I'm guessing that he just went to Hobby Lobby because they're apparently very good

Kathy Khang 35:11

lobby and others that museum out in Detroit is funded

JR. Forasteros 35:15

by Hobby Lobby. Yeah. So they're like, Oh, you need to smuggle something to Middle East. Yeah, yeah.

Kathy Khang 35:22

It's going to the museum

Seth Price 35:24

did um, Did either of you laugh out I pause the show and laughed out loud at there's a line in there. And I can't remember who said it. I feel like it's Bev it could have been Riley's mom. That is welcoming mon Senor, or Father Paul, back to the to the pot or the crock or the crock pot or whatever it's called the potluck. And they say something of we're glad to add you to the flavor here. And knowing that it was like I literally like that is yes. And then they say something about like, yeah, we'll just add you right into the stew. I was like, well done. So I literally pause it and laughed. Yes. loved every minute of that.

Kathy Khang 35:57

A little campy humor is always really good before the blood and gore.

Seth Price 36:03

Is it weird that I like Father Paul, because he appears to engage more than most pastors that I know, in really hard questions by not giving a It's okay. Just lean on God. Like he literally leans into people. It's like, yeah, there's a lot of beliefs there. Like, it does suck. Let me tell you about what I've learned. Is it weird that I like that of him?

Kathy Khang 36:22

No, I don't think it's weird. Right? Because it's what we want. Yeah, except the vampire part.

JR. Forasteros 36:31

Right. And it makes me wonder what kind of Pastor he was before his dementia Senate. It's difficult for me to believe that Bev would have stayed in his church based on personal experience as a pastor. Yeah. He should have shouldn't have any other option on the proc but um yeah. Kathy, I think you were the one that said like apparently you know, Paul pastored Bev into the person that she is right or at least had a big hand in it. So that that that is part of my question is Was he always this guy? It doesn't seem like it. Katie isn't that the the pregnant woman's name

Seth Price 37:15

Aaron Aaron.

JR. Forasteros 37:17

That react I think the I think are the actresses name Katie. Anyway, yeah, it doesn't it doesn't seem like it seems like he is a breath of fresh air to the island. And so that made me wonder like where was all of this? Very honestly very excellent. pastoring up until he's drinking their blood. Yeah. Until I never I didn't I don't have a seminary degree. But my understanding is in seminary one to one they say don't drink your parishioners blood like that's one of the well like first things you like

Kathy Khang 37:49

probably a prerequisite class is I hope I hope

Seth Price 37:54

it's it's this will be very sarcastic it's it's a new Transubstantiation ism. It's just a way to practice differently. Very, I made everybody mad. I made everybody this the

JR. Forasteros 38:04

Emergent Church. No, but I wonder where like it because again, Seth, I think you're right. Like when you're watching him, Pastor people. You're like, Man, this is amazing. And I wish I had a pastor like that. And it's so great. You're like, okay, so he does seem people aren't like, Oh, he's just like Father Paul. Yeah, right now they're like, it seems different. So I did wonder if that was just something Mike Flanagan was sort of like hoping we would get past another

Seth Price 38:30

thing I wonder about is so he is aware that Aaron is his daughter? And he also seems the doctor You're right. No, no, I think Aaron is yes. The daughter Aaron's the daughter. Yeah. Oh, no, no, you're right. The doctor is the daughter

JR. Forasteros 38:51

is a lesbian who is caring for aging mother.

Seth Price 38:53

Yes. Yes. Okay, so there's a there's a thing that says he's coming back to save his mistress because he knows that she's not in good in a good spot, which I'm fine with that. But I misspoke. You're right. Aaron's not the daughter. But that doesn't change my question. So it appears as though once you have this site, you can literally see blood coursing in different ways through human anatomy. So I keep wondering whether or not he knew that she was pregnant and then also then knows, oh, she's not pregnant anymore. And somehow it's fine with that. But I just continue to wrestle with that. Just because it appears as though in the scenes afterwards that you're like, yeah, it seems like he would have seen that little heartbeat course. Or at least heard it or sensed it that there's too much volume of blood here. Yeah, everyone knew she was pregnant. Yeah, so that is there's part of me that wonders why there's a whole would be Oh, fine fine, knowing that she's no longer pregnant anymore and just not talking about it. Um, but anyway, that's

JR. Forasteros 39:49

that's all part of it. Part of him lying to himself. Yeah. Yeah, right. Like he has to be okay with everything that's happening. You know, and errands errands pregnancy and And then the way her body consumes the baby is I think one of the. For me, it was one of the most powerful illustrations of how the vampire and father Paul's ministry were fundamentally anti Christ. Because Jesus's life is meant to be generative and life giving. And Father Paul, what Father Paul brings to the island is fundamentally parasitic. Right, so, so again, you made the Transubstantiation jokes. That's right. But that's the whole thing, right? Like Jesus gives us his body and blood to consume. Yeah, the vampire consumed by others.

Kathy Khang 40:41

It's not the other way around.

JR. Forasteros 40:43

It is literally anti it is the definition of antichrist.

Seth Price 40:46

Thank you for saving that for me so that I wasn't branded as an additional heretic. I appreciate you.

JR. Forasteros 40:50

I knew I knew that some of your listeners are hanging on by.

Seth Price 40:54

All right. Well, hey, again. I feel like they know me they're not hanging on by a thread because I highly I highly try to filter myself on what I say publicly, but privately been enough weeks. You know what that sound means? 1530 seconds tops. I'm going to be back in just a second. Who has the better answer for what happens when we die? Riley or Aaron?

JR. Forasteros 41:17

Can I just roll my eyes back in the back of my head? Yeah,

Seth Price 41:19

sure. Why you don't like the question?

JR. Forasteros 41:23

No, no, no, I think it's a great question. i

Seth Price 41:27

Are you trying to remember what they say?

JR. Forasteros 41:29

No, no, I?

Kathy Khang 41:31

I said a lot. Aaron said too much, actually.

JR. Forasteros 41:37

Yeah. Um, no, I mean, I, I don't know. I enjoy the shows attempt to appeal to mystery. I don't know that it exactly worked. For me. It felt like it felt like the ending of the good place in a lot of ways for me, which, which also felt a little bit like a cop out. I also guess I don't I don't spend a lot of anxiety worried about what's going to happen after we die either. I think I think I've reached a place where I'm fine with it being mysterious and a place for faith. And so I enjoy discussing academically. Yeah, I don't know. Kathy, did you have any strong?

Kathy Khang 42:20

No, I just think about okay, so when I had strong feelings about Aaron talking so much at the end, about death, it was it like, after about 10 seconds. I was like, if you stopped now, it would be good. Yeah, but it kept going. And in that I felt a little bit like, Oh, this is what I grew up with, which is trying to explain the thing that nobody can explain. Or you you can't, we don't die. And then at least in the tradition that I was raised, come back and talk to people. Unless that happens in Scripture, right? So in reality, we're told you can't believe in spirits of your ancestors, only the Holy Spirit. And yet, we're saying that we are resurrected. So Aaron talking bothered me, because it felt like this fear and trying to explain something that we don't know, and it should be okay, that we don't know, what I appreciated about what's his name, I am so bad with character named Riley, Riley, you know, choosing and, and, and in some ways this. It looks terribly painful, but also peaceful, if that makes sense. And, and I've been thinking a lot about death lately, as we finally did our Estate Planning and made sure our kids sign papers so that if they are hospitalized, we can get the information as parents because they're all adults. They're all you know, 18 and older, is this sense of Western approach to death is out of fear. It's very fearful. It's very, like, are we going to keep ourselves alive? Or are we going to allow somebody to have the power to pull the plug, and they're hand wringing around that and I felt like Riley's approach, though, the idea of burning to death does not appeal this sense of like, I know, this is, this is the way this is the only way. And so in that respect, I feel like from the, from the Christian tradition that I was raised taught me to fear death, even though at the end is supposed to be like all rainbows and wings. The reality is more along the lines of like, this is what happens. Let's just make the best of it. And And what a way to go.

Seth Price 45:02

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well to lean into that I prefer Riley's answers. So the scene that I'm talking about is when they're on the couch, which I don't think is actually in the last episode is maybe like Episode Four or something.

JR. Forasteros 45:11

They Well, they do a flashback and Aaron gives a different answer. Okay. Yeah, but they flashback to that Carson. Yeah,

Seth Price 45:19

yeah, so no, Riley's answer is for me the one because I just, maybe it's the five and me, I just love the way that he is describing the process of death like, like literally, he says, maybe my brain releases a flood of DMT, which is a psychedelic drug released when we dream. But I dream bigger than I've ever dreamed. Because it's just one big last dump of DMT my neurons are firing, I'm seeing a firework display of memories and imagination. And we just empty the F and missile silos and then I just stopped and then he goes on to talk about you know, as I'm broken apart, I'm feeding life and my Adam's become the plants and I'm just part of the freakin cosmos. And I for some reason, I like that. Give it to what you said earlier, Jr. So I've ever since I watched it. So it's been a few years. I'm perfectly fine with wherever I was before I existed. And I'm pretty sure I'm going to be perfectly fine with wherever I'm going after I consciously exist here. And I'm not entirely certain that it's the churches business where I'm going, it's more about what I'm actually doing, and building and partnering and etc. But that's not necessarily Midnight Mass. But um, but yeah, anyway,

Kathy Khang 46:25

well, and and that's not actually how we die. Right? Or that's not how we treat death. Presently, we are embalmed with chemicals, were put in caskets that have metal in them in concrete, right. So we actually in that don't allow one another to die and feed the earth. And all of those things. Again, it goes back to that sense of fear that drives people into perpetuating lies about how you can live so that you can get to the other side. Yeah.

JR. Forasteros 47:00

Yeah, yeah, it's funny, I have a, I have a good friend who her father's passing created a pretty significant crisis of faith for her because of her evangelical belief in the resurrection of the body, and her recognition that so let me back up and circle back and come back to it. I think the mummification or the preservation of the body was a thing that made sense for people in death rituals, when the population of the earth was you know, under a million people. And when you're losing, you know, two or three people a year max in your community. And there's a very you know, there's a very small manageable kind of cemetery graveyard space. And the question of, you know, we didn't we didn't really understand matter, and Adams and all that kind of stuff. But what happened for my friend when her father died was she sort of had the scientific realization that there's there aren't enough like atoms in the world for everyone to be resurrected bodily and there still be a world and the reality that the atoms literally the literal atoms that made up that comprise your father's body had at some point been part of other people's bodies in history. And so to raise his body that necessarily meant in a closed universe not raising someone else's body. And then what are the implications of that one says atoms go on to someone you know, so it's, it's it's really working through like the science of death and decay. And and coming to this like, if if there is a physical resurrection in any meaningful sense, it can't look anything like what we understand. No, it's our you know, in our current universe, and that just that created a massive disruption.

Seth Price 48:59

Yeah, for her. Yeah, not to be more McCobb but I've told my wife how I want in tongue in cheek but if she does it, I will love her so much more. I told her to have me cremated and then have me packaged up in one of those massive illegal fireworks set me off on our anniversary and explode in the sky so I can go out with a bang and it's probably the dad joke at the end that nailed it for her is this not going to happen? But yeah, I said it is tongue in cheek and she and we talked about it after my if we buried my father last year it's tongue in cheek but anyway

Kathy Khang 49:33

but it's it's real right and even even in the final episode, all the the fire and the explosions and how Riley chooses you know his death he goes out on a rowboat or new I don't know what vessel it was but out onto the sea and because he's exposed to the sun just burns up again that that doesn't. That's not the norm here in the US and yet That's all built around this fear of what happens to our bodies, our physical bodies after we die. And my parents and I we have talked a lot about that and they've come to a place where they're like yeah, we we would like we're gonna we want the funeral thing we want the whole week thing and for you to cry and feel really really bad. And then we want to be cremated so that it's less space and it doesn't do all that and I want to become pencils. Listeners, thank yous Yes, it's a thing and then Peter wants to be pressed into record. Vinyl, and my Mom What's the song? Yes, I don't think he's just determined a song yet. He's got some time. And then my mom has said that she wants to be pressed into like diamonds and that my sister and I could wear her on our hearts.

Seth Price 50:53

I would go with Comfortably Numb on vinyl that feels like lewdly it's a great way to die become comfortably numb.

JR. Forasteros 51:02

I was hoping if it goes first Kathy would have it be my boyfriend's back so she

Seth Price 51:12

so the final episode which I want to talk about that because Jr has been on record on the social medias as well as earlier before you got here, Kathy that he doesn't like it. But I would like to say that that sing were Riley commit suicide, arguably, although I guess he's technically already dead is broken because it's a wooden rowboat, and he is burning very hot and nothing else burns except for him. So that's a broken scene. But for me, that scene is one motivated out of fear. Because he either doesn't trust himself to eat other people, or he doesn't trust himself to not eat her after he tells her the truth. And so he set up the situation in such a way that at least he's ending that circle of, of reciprocity, even if he does end up, you know, consuming her or turning her into whatever she's turning into. You know, because there's so far out that even if she gets converted, she's gonna come back up from water and get burned immediately and then go back under. But maybe that's just my, you know, pessimistic. pessimistic interpretation of I see what you did, and that's kind of nice, but you also set it up in such a way that even if you failed, you succeeded and that's not really a win. That's that's a cop out.

Kathy Khang 52:16

That's kind of cheating.

Seth Price 52:16

Yeah, it's kind of a cop out. It's,

JR. Forasteros 52:18

it's it's Kirk. It's Kurt beating the Kobayashi Maru. Right. It's Yes. Kobayashi Maru. Yeah,

Seth Price 52:24

just Yeah. Yeah. So why do you why do you hate happy endings, Jr. It's not a happy ending.

JR. Forasteros 52:35

Okay, so this actually goes back to some of my some of the reason I didn't care for either Aaron or Riley's read of what happens after we die. So, and again, for people who haven't watched the show, and I know there are a lot of you that you know, like horror, and so you just like to listen to things like this. I don't know

Seth Price 52:53

that it's horror.

JR. Forasteros 52:55

Well, it's definitely not but you know, there's a vampire in it. Okay. There was that Vox article that went around that people hated on but I actually agreed with largely that said that Mike Flanagan doesn't make horror. And I kind of agree with them. But here's the thing if you haven't watched it, folks, people are wondering like, oh, like is all this religion stuff like actually intentional, like, well, one yet the main character is priest. For two like the episodes are named Genesis, Psalms, Proverbs, Gospels, acts of the apostle, you know, yeah, it's really intentional. The last episode is called Revelation, after the book of the Bible revelation, which I have a whole different rant about that where people like, well, I just don't know if anyone knows how to read. We do know how to read it. Actually, the church has been reading it for 2000 years. Just because timothy hay got in there and jacked everything up for people doesn't mean that the majority of the church doesn't know how to read it. It's fine. It's hard no, they

Seth Price 53:51

don't quote revelation at all in that chapter. It's all it's a great point. It's all Genesis and Matthew, but

JR. Forasteros 53:57

but there's so much like, it's it's so clear, like even with with Father Paul being the beast in Revelation with bed being the false prophet, and even I would argue that the vampire being the Satan character, who's empowering the beast I mean, there's there's so much eat the burning of the ships, like that's straight out of revelation like there's so much but I think, I think, I think Flanagan in in his drive to tell a deeply personal story, missed the I have, for lack of a better way to say it off top my head like he missed the social implications of the New Testament and arguably of the Christian or the Christian canon. Revelation is not a story about the end of the world. Revelation is a story about how the world can be how God can be said to be just when the world is so obviously unjust And I mean, I thought like when I'm sitting there listening to Riley and Erin, talk about their ideas of what happens after you die. Like, I just kept rolling my eyes because I was like, Yeah, neither of you has really suffered in this life. Particularly not at someone else's hands. You know, Aaron was what? Okay, I shouldn't say that Aaron was in an abusive relationship, and that she got out of, you know, Riley has this whole trauma with the girl that he killed and keep seeing her. But again, that was his choice, right? He was an alcoholic. But they're both white. You know, they both come from what seemed to be at least middle class backgrounds.

Seth Price 55:41

Before the spill, you know? Yeah.

JR. Forasteros 55:44

Yeah. Both of them, like, seem like they've ended up back in the crock pot, because they don't have any choice. But their lack of choice means they still have a roof over their head and three square meals and employment and, you know, all this kind of stuff like they're, they're like, nowhere else to go looks a lot different from a lot of people's nowhere else to go. They're not on government assistance. They're not living in an oppressive, tyrannical, you know, system. And, and the book of Revelation is that that's what the book of Revelation is about it is this big, sweeping, like, social book about how God brings justice. And what that looks like for people who are living on just lives, you know, and what it looks like for people who are marginalized. And I just felt like that was completely missing, which again, people have been like, well, that's not the story of my playing. I was telling, I like, Oh, I know, but then let's call it what it is, right? Like he's co opting a story about one thing, to serve a story about something else. And like, it's okay for us to criticize that, like, Revelation is not a book that's trying to make us feel good about what happens after we die. That's, that's not and if you take, if you take that from it, that's fine. You know, sheets of gold are, are nice and whatever. But it's really about it's really about justice. It's really about what God's reign on earth as it is habitus is gonna look, it's gonna look like and it's about hope for marginalized people. And so turning it into, we all stand in a circle and sing a hymn ified Kumbaya. I just I was like, rolling my eyes so hard. And like, really, after all of the careful good work you did in this whole show, this is what you're leaving us with? Is this like saccharin. sappy. And again, to me, it was it was just more it was it was even at the end, they can't face the bed is that is the only one who does. And she acts out the scene when the fifth seal in Revelation is broken, and the kings of the earth cry out to the mountains to hide your hiatus from the wrath of the land. And she's digging in the dirt. You know, yeah. She's the only one who faces the reality of what has happened to her, or what sorry, the reality of who she is, and what she's done, and, and responds appropriately with terror. You know, I just I just didn't see. I just didn't see any of that anywhere. I think honestly, that the closest thing you got, besides that was the sheriff and his son.

Seth Price 58:17

I do want to talk about the sheriff in the sun. Kathy, do you also hate the ending? Yeah.

Kathy Khang 58:21

Oh, yeah. I hated the ending. I hate it. It was a cop out. It was total cop out of oh, so after all of that, it's fine. We're fine. It's all good. And, to me, again, that feels very, I mean, it feels very in line with the way things are going politically, it feels very in line with the way the Western white Evangelical Church handles things. It's kind of like, yeah, you know, these things happened back then. Even though it's literally in the show just a couple weeks ago, or maybe, like hours ago. And but it's going to be fine. It's going to be fine. And, and I didn't, I didn't like that because I I want my vengeance. I want to come up and at the end, and yeah, it would have been great to see Bev burn, but I did like her trying to dig herself into hiding, because she knew what was going to happen. Right? Whereas everybody else is like, oh, let's just hang out with the people we love and you know, the priest and his he did that I hated that and we're gonna bring our dead daughter and we're just gonna hang out on this bridge and what like, what's what's only and that again, for me felt quintessential American church, wrap it up with a bow. Because at the end, all that matters. It doesn't matter how you lived your life. If at the very end you say, I believe that's all that matters, right? So it's that, like, Oh, you're I want I want the apology. I want the acknowledgement of what happened. And so that the ending just felt like,

Seth Price 1:00:11

yes, yeah. But they had the tempo of near my god to the slowed way down, which is that kumbaya song you're talking about Jr. I'm pretty sure it's near my god to the kids is actually in a few episodes, it's actually kind of inner woven throughout most of the show, which is clever as well, I don't know the history of that of that him, I should look it up, maybe it has even more,

Kathy Khang 1:00:30

but also played in a way that I don't know, you know, I feel like a lot of churches don't know how to sing and play hymns. So every

Seth Price 1:00:37

hymn becomes Thank you passions, thank you, right? Like,

Kathy Khang 1:00:41

every hymn becomes a dirge. And I'm like, huh, so anyway, hated the ending. Yeah.

Seth Price 1:00:47

So I, I love the sheriff's character. But for a reason that I, again, I haven't literally searched the internet to get other people's opinions. Mostly because I didn't I wanted to make sure when I talked to you all my, my thoughts were mine. I love the thought of a different type of faith community coming alongside and community with the church, looking at it going, that's not God. Please, son, don't do that. Because that's not God. Like, I might say, I worship a God. But I don't know what that is. But that's not God. Stop, don't don't get involved with that. And I love you enough to let you do it. And I might even show up and sit next to you. But this is not God, even all the way to the very end, like literally limping shot, hurt, bleeding, worshipping at the end even like, like a heroic figure of that's not God, and we don't even worship the same quote unquote, God. Thoughts on on that whole? I don't want to say monolithic placement of Islam, because I don't think that's what it is. But I do like that. It's just a different faith.

JR. Forasteros 1:01:44

He's an other, right? Yes. It was effective in a way that having an evangelical or mainline Protestant on the island, but not much else. I don't Okay, yeah. Kathy, I'm curious how you how you had there? No,

Kathy Khang 1:02:01

I it was, it was uncomfortable. Because the moment you meet him, you know, you know, you know how the island is going to respond to him, you know, he's going to be an other you, you know that or at least I hope people know that. I'm going to give people the benefit of the doubt, which sometimes fails me, but and so for watching that felt really uncomfortable, particularly as somebody who was so rooted in the evangelical space still being considered and other, right, so for me, it was like, it didn't matter what religion I said, I practiced, I practice the same religion, but because I look different, and some of the things that my family does, the language we speak, is different. We're still other and so it felt a little bit like Well, of course, the easy trope is to put a Muslim family who has locked Why is it always the mother is dead, like, it's like, it's like Disney, the mother always dies. And, and so I, you know, that felt expected in a in a, in a show that was going to use the Protestant faith, the foil has to be something that we recognize as others. So that felt easy. But But and it can easily be turned around, right? That's what evangelicals feel white evangelicals often feel like they are the sheriff looking at the world saying, Oh, that's not of God, that's not of God, that's not of God. So I think it's, it's a tricky play. Because those, those roles can easily be switched out in the mind of the white church. Whereas for me, who had you know, as a, as a woman of color, Asian American Korean American, I have some proximity because of education and socio economic status. And yet, over and over, it's been proven to me, that I'm still the other that that I can speak flawless English, and raise third generation American children. And I'm still told you should be grateful for being in this country literally, just three weeks ago. So So I think it's hard. I love the character and the the, the sheriff and his son and that relationship feels real in the tension of any religious family, having a child who is just being a child and wanting to figure things out on their own. And I loved the like, Please don't go but fine. Okay, then I'm going to show up with you. I hope that I have continued to show that courage as my adult children walk their own lives of faith, because I have to tell you that the church has not modeled That for me. And I, so I looked at that, and I go, Oh, so it's okay to tell my children, I really don't like this. And I no longer have the power to ground them because they're 20 years and older. But, but, but Right, the current church tradition has not given me the tools to walk with them in their own journey. And so that was a little bit of like, oh, I can forbid it until a certain point, but what does it look like to maybe come alongside? And even at the end? Will they will they come home, you know, will they come home, and whatever that looks like, That, for me felt good. That was like, the only good part of that ending was, I don't have to force it. I just hope that my children don't have to deal with vampires.

JR. Forasteros 1:06:00

You know. So, so, my parents divorced when I was a teenager, and I'll try to speak as broadly as possible, one of my parents is significantly less emotionally healthy than the other. And it was difficult to see that during that time that I was a teenager. But I figured it out eventually. And I have a number of friends who are divorced, and who are struggling with co parenting in the wake of divorce. And they have one parent who is the Disneyland parent, you know, who, who just gets to, you know, either just see the kids on the weekends, or is just committed to making the other parent look bad, you know, and all this kind of stuff. And, and, of course, because teenagers are teenagers, like I was teenager, like, we, you know, we all have a point where I think I think we fall for the the fun parents syndrome, you know. And so as I'm, as I'm counseling and sitting with my friends and grieving, you know, the struggles that they're in, one of the things I keep telling them is like, your kids are gonna figure it out eventually, like, I figured it out eventually. And yeah, I had to apologize to my parents, you know, for how I treated them. But I think that's what we were seeing in a lot of ways. You know, again, I think it's one of the things the show didn't even really call attention to, but it was just there was the way that Ali wants to rebel by fitting in, you know, which is such a teenager thing to do, right? Like, I don't want to be like my dad, I want to be like everyone else, because I want to be different. Okay. Again, I did that. I'm sure we all did that in some way. But yeah, he figures it out at the end. Because when you get right down to it, if you're willing to step back and be honest, it's not hard to tell the difference between God and a vampire. You know, it's not actually it's not a trick question. It's not hard. You know, when it comes right down to it. Yeah, one of them is one of them is only destroying everything. And one of them is the source of life and hope and healing, you know, and it gets confusing because of the way we religious AI everything. I don't think that's a word.

Kathy Khang 1:08:17

But it is now

JR. Forasteros 1:08:19

it is there we go. Yeah. But you know what I mean? Like, like, I think, I think when we get right down to it, and we ask what is good, what is true? What is what is healing? What is wholesome? And the best meaning of that word? It's not actually that hard to tell the difference. And I think I think the I think the problem is we've grown up in church cultures that don't ask those questions, and so ended up promoting a lot of junk that is not that, you know, we have a lot of vampires hiding in our church closets. And, and so what we have taught people to think is like, if it's a church, it's of God, rather than if it's good, it's us, God. Right. And that means our churches need to ask that question too. You know, we've like we've let our beds and our Monsignor Pruitt's run the church for too long. Both both the like, obvious, cartoonish villains except they're not cartoonists, do we all know, Beth. But and then the well meaning ones to write who will who will willingly make the small, seemingly innocuous compromises if it means things can be great again,

Seth Price 1:09:22

which is Riley's mom. Yeah, yeah. Yeah,

Kathy Khang 1:09:26

yeah. And most of the adults right on the island at some point, are they there's, there's something they want, that they see is within reach if they choose to, to, to become vampires to follow along and play along with the rules of this new society. And I think that's the hard part of it all is and that's why, you know, good intentions don't matter. Because if you don't check them at the beginning They continue to grow into this deep selfishness without realizing you're you're surviving on other people's death. Yeah. And as violence as horror can be and this show for people, and for me, the parallel is also squid game, right? It's

Seth Price 1:10:21

not watch that. Yeah. Should I watch that? You should watch.

Kathy Khang 1:10:26

Watch it. Right. So people talk about the violence in the blood. And it's kind of like, oh, but we do this on a daily basis to one another without the blood. Does that make it better? No, actually, it doesn't, because it is the blood that makes us go EU. Whereas otherwise, we can kind of blind ourselves to the drive for personal wealth and gain and feeding our own addictions. That's exactly what is happening on the island. That's what happens in squid game and this kind of purity around Oh, well, I I don't it's too violent for me. And I just think, Oh, you don't live in a capitalist society? That is we are violent to one

JR. Forasteros 1:11:12

another. Well, we hate we build systems that hide the violence. Oh, absolutely.

Kathy Khang 1:11:16

Or, or numb it. So we don't feel it. And we we say, Oh, it's a good thing that we have weekends. And isn't that wonderful? And just in case spend all of your Sunday at your church to make sure you feel good about the rest of the week where you are working to the bone? Yeah, in a dog eat dog world so that you can have your share?

Seth Price 1:11:40

Yeah, yeah, for me the line. And so I was telling Jr. I watched some of the show again. So I was rewatching episode one. And there's a line in there spoken by the sheriff that I think encapsulates the whole show. And honestly, faith in general. So there's a part where Joe, the guy that his dog died, is literally wakes up and he's in jail. And he's like, You locked me up sheriff. And he's like, No, you were you were literally trying to get in here. So I just let you in. If you'd have had a better aim, you'd have broken everything on the way in and like this thought about fine. If that's what you want. I'll give that to you. Which is actually a good way I think to think about God as well, if that's what you want. Okay, I think it's a bad choice, my son or my daughter or my whatever, that's a bad but I'll okay. That's, you know, I don't know, maybe that's maybe that's too over originalist. But, but yeah, yeah. So so this is not about midnight mass, but it's something that I've asked everyone. And so as just kind of a final question. I'm curious, when you all try to say what God is? What is that? What do you tell people?

Kathy Khang 1:12:43

Hmm. God is all that is good, and beautiful and hopeful. That gives life not in some future that I don't know yet, but in the now. And so God is present. When I watch my daughter dance. When I listen to my son, talks about the beauty and the lessons he's learning watching anime, and the connections my youngest makes, to how he is seeing himself created beautifully and God's image when he listens to Kpop. That's God. That's done for me.

JR. Forasteros 1:13:43

Yeah, for me, it kind of depends on who I'm talking to. I usually try to express God in terms of kind of what Kathy just did right with with each of your three children, you know, that God, God is evident in different ways to each of her kids. But recently, in the last couple of years, I've been challenged by a good friend of mine, who's a member of my congregation. He was preaching at our at our church on mystery and on the limits of intellect. And the way he framed it was a way I had never heard it before. And it really kind of unlock some stuff for me. He said, usually, when we think of mystery, we think of a detective novel, which I do because I love crime novels, right? That a mystery is a puzzle to be solved. And if you just have enough information, and if you arrange the pieces in the right order, then this picture comes up and you're like, Ah, you get the euphoria that eureka moment. And he said but but divine mystery is something that is fundamentally unknowable. Like we can't we can't see the picture. It's too much. You know, maybe maybe it's maybe it's colors are beyond the spectrum our eyes can even comprehend right? It just, it is it is we are we are fun. mentally incapable of, of perceiving or beholding the thing that is mysterious. And so all we can do is sit in its presence and receive it. And so I don't know, I was really struck by that. And so I've been, that's how I've been. That's how I've been thinking about and experiencing God and even communicating about God in the last couple of years that God is the God as the good mystery that's at the heart of existence. God is the source of As Kathy said, everything that is good and true. And and we know that mystery, best through Jesus Jesus is the one who makes the mystery accessible to us. And so it's, it's through encountering the divine mystery again and again and again and again, that we can be a people who even knows what good justice work looks like. You know, who even knows what, because, again, I'm a big fan of Cornel West's justice is what love looks like in public right? And so if we are if we are participating in the divine mystery, that not only are we learning to love ourselves well, but we're also learning to love others as well and that you know, that looks like justice work.

Seth Price 1:16:16

Oh, yeah. Yeah. So yeah, good. So where should people go they've listened we've spoiled the show. If you're still listening you should have watched the show that's on you it's not on me it's not on me for that yeah, definitely not Where do you want to direct people to to kind of jump into this stuff? I feel like Yeah, I like I like the way that Jr talks about meat sacks or Kathy you know, they want to get into the way that you whatever you order where do you want to point people towards?

Kathy Khang 1:16:46

For me, I would say you can find me on the socials I spend most of my time on Instagram and Twitter at Ms. Ms. Kathy calm and then I also have a blog that last week I had two posts on for the first time in like two years so so there's probably more she's on. And that would be cafe comm.com.

JR. Forasteros 1:17:14

I'm I'm at Jr. Foresters anywhere that it's worth finding me. And then yeah, like my sermons and everything are Agera foresters calm. And then I, I co host the podcast. And actually a couple years ago, we did a big, big, big rebrand and brought on a new co host and everything. And I feel like it's been just a lot better ever since we did that. So that that host, of course is Kathy Khan. So yeah, we co host the fascinating podcast together.

Seth Price 1:17:45

I was gonna say you're gonna say what the name of the show is, or you're just gonna make them good.

JR. Forasteros 1:17:51

It's a fascinating podcast.

Kathy Khang 1:17:52

Yeah. And this has been a great season. So

JR. Forasteros 1:17:55

yeah, it really has weed. And we're, we're about halfway through and we have some more really cool stuff coming up. So yeah, we talked about faith pop culture. And then I don't know how do you pitch it, Kathy?

Kathy Khang 1:18:08

Yeah, that's what I say faith, pop culture and whatever we happen to be interested in in the time that

JR. Forasteros 1:18:16

we just we just did an episode on the Bible and horror and talked about the the big story in the Bible where Solomon Samuels ghost. We have a couple of episodes on LGBTQ inclusion and religion coming up. I think we're interviewing Dominic Gilliard in a couple of weeks. He's great privilege. Yeah. So yeah. So I mean, we, you know, we, we kind of try to talk about stuff that that is important to us. And also, you know, to a lot of jokes and have some fun. And yeah, that kind of stuff, too. So I think that's it. Yeah. Agia forcers. And then the fascinating podcast. So

Seth Price 1:18:54

fantastic. Well, thank you both for your mornings Jr. It's I'm also equally impressed at how high you could hit that high note on key because I know you're an hour behind me. So it's still relatively early. Because you have not consumed a lot of liquid, I can see you so that's that's impressive, to be able to go up that high for fire. So thank you both so much for your time. I really appreciate you coming.

JR. Forasteros 1:19:13

Yeah, always a pleasure. So thank you.

Seth Price 1:19:30

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