40 - "The Forgotten Books of the Bible" with Robert Williamson Jr. / Transcript

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Robert 0:00

As a Biblical scholar, I'm a little suspicious of the notion that there is a correct reading of any particular text. The texts open themselves up to multiple interpretations, which can sound a little scary but from my perspective, it puts us as interpreters in the position of having to be agents of our own interpretation, we have to think through what is the range of interpretations that are here? How does this relate to my own sense of what it means to be a person of faith? And then what is my community saying about about these things?

So there's a conversation that happens between us and the Bible. It's not simply that the Bible tells us something and so we go to the Bible with questions and we come away with deeper with deeper thoughts about it.

Seth 1:18

Hey everybody welcome back to the Can I Say This At Church podcast, I am Seth your host, I will apologize in advance. There is a raspiness to my voice, I've been a little under the weather. And that's not a good reason to not do this. So, if you can forgive the lack of clarity in my voice, I think you're about to jump into a conversation that I really enjoyed having. I sat down and spoke on the phone with Professor Robert Williamson Jr. He's a Professor at Hendricks college here in his PhD from Emory University in Atlanta. He also received his post graduate diploma in Jewish Studies from Oxford University in the UK. He has written a book The Forgotten Books of the Bible. And in it we discuss Ecclesiastes, and Song of Songs, and Lamentations and Esther and Ruth. And when we approach texts that we don't often engage in, it's uncomfortable. What I appreciate about what Robert has done is just that; the text that that the book is on aren't really crystal logically centered, but they are community centered. They do affect the way that we live and treat others the way that we live as the majority, or the way that we act as the minority in a majority. The way that we approach sex, anger and lament and blaming and victim calling.

So excited for you to hear this conversation. Let's get into it. Professor Robert Williamson Jr. Forgotten Books of the Bible.

Seth 3:00

Robert Williamson Jr. I'm excited to have you on the Can I Say This At Church podcast. It's not often that I'm able to, to do a few things. And so I know that this is one of your first podcast interviews on your book. And it's also not often that I speak to people about the topic of your book, because I think you are right. And so in fear of burying the lead, the title of your most recent book is The Forgotten Books of the Bible, Recovering the Five Scrolls for Today. And that's like Song of Songs, Ruth limitations and a few others, and we'll get into that as the episode proceeds. But before we do, what do you want people to know about you? Like, what if I said, all right, you got three minutes. Tell me about you. What would you want people to know?

Robert 3:49

Well, I think the first thing is that I'm a Biblical scholar who has a deep interest in the church and the life of faith. And those two things don't always go together. And so I have a PhD in Bible and I teach in an academic position. But I'm also a church pastor. And I have a little community here in Little Rock where I live called Mercy Community Church of Little Rock, which is a community mostly of people who live on the streets.

And so I'm kind of inhabiting these two worlds, simultaneously, of being a scholar and a being a pastor, and of course, being a person of faith myself. So my work and especially I think, in this book, is an attempt to bring all of those things together to bring some of my expertise from the academic world, but also some of my pastoral concern from the pastoral world and to try to say something to people who are trying to live a faithful Life with a Bible as one of their sources of inspiration.

Seth 5:06

Yeah. And so you're a professor at Hendrix College in Arkansas. So where is that?

Robert 5:16

Hendrix is in Conway, Arkansas, which is about 30 miles north of Little Rock. Right on I-40. So if you ever drive West through Arkansas headed to Oklahoma, which not that many people do, but if you did, you would end up in Conway, about 30 minutes after you pass through Little Rock.

Seth 5:37

That works. Yeah, I've made that drive often, but I always get on to 30 at Little Rock. I never stay on 40. I get off a 40 somewhere before that. So yeah, I'm from West Texas. And so driving from Virginia, you know, 81 to 40 to 30 to 20, which just works well, you just count it down. But so this isn't a fair question, but of the two jobs and roles that you play What do you currently find that is that is feeding your spiritual life more? Is it the professor side or is it the pastoral side?

Robert 6:08

That isn't a fair question (laughter)

Yeah, so one of the things that I have tried to do, and Hendrix has been very good to me about this, is I've tried to minimize the distinction between those jobs. So when I founded Mercy Community Church, it was founded really as a place where I could bring Hendrix students to build relationships with people who are living on the streets. And so, Mercy Church thinks of themselves as a teaching community, which is kind of interesting.

So my students come down from Hendrix and the Mercy Community teaches them about what it's like to live on the streets and helps them read the Bible with marginalized eyes or whatever you want to say. And then the students from Hendrix also think of themselves as a teaching community. Helping people read the Bible. One time I had a group come down and teach, teach photography lessons to folks who live on the street.

So I have tried as much as I can to, to bridge those two worlds together. I, you know, I thought for a while about being a professor who had no connection to a ministry, and I thought for a while about being a pastor who had no connection to the Academy, and neither one of those seemed right to me. And so I think it's that position in between communities that really feels feels rich to me.

Seth 7:41

Yeah, I hear that. You describing that and it sounds very similar to one of my previous guests, one of my one of my first guest, Dr. Richard Beck out at Abilene Christian where he teaches psychology, but then he intentionally engages in a community that forces him to use his theology which allows him to bring it back and teach…not better but differently

Robert 8:02

Right? Exactly right.

Seth 8:05

So why this book then? Why these five scrolls? Why are they forgotten? Like, what is? What is the birth of this book? Is it? Is it that church that you help found? Or is it something else?

Robert 8:18

Yeah, no, it's not actually, it was interesting because it's when you read the book, the introduction, talks about Mercy Community Church and the forgotten voices of people who live on the streets and Little Rock and the Forgotten voices of the Bible, and how those are connected. But really, I didn't honestly see that connection until after I had written the book. And I was trying to think about why did I want to write this book in particular, and what does that have to do with the other things that I care about? And I realized that one of the things that I care about is providing a place where voices that are not often heard in the public sphere, can say what they need to say. Believing that there is truth that is spoken by people who live on the street. And there's truth spoken by these books that are in the Bible, and we are often too busy or too distracted or too oriented to other things to hear what they say.

So, I do think there is a connection between my work at Mercy church and my, my work in this book. But the book didn't grow out of that work in any direct kind of way. I've actually been really interested in these five books, really, ever since I was in seminary, 15 years ago, at Columbia Seminary in Atlanta, the Forgotten Books of the Bible. There are five books that I'm talking about.

And those are the Song of Songs, Ruth, Lamentations, Ecclesiastes, and Esther. And what holds those five books together is that in the Jewish tradition, those are the five best scrolls to ḥamesh megillot, which are each read in connection with a major Jewish holiday. So in the Jewish tradition, those five books get read, they get oriented into the liturgical life of our Jewish brothers and sisters, they they are part of a language of the faith.

And in my own experience, those books are hardly ever read in, at least in the Christian churches of my background. You don't hear them read in the pulpit, you don't hear them preached; you very rarely hear them even talked about in a Bible study.

And so this book kind of grows out of this. And here is this rich resource that we have in our tradition, which has been for practical purposes has mostly been silenced. And so the question of the book is, what happens if we let those books talk and if we take seriously what they have to say?

Seth 10:58

Before we get specifically to the book some I've written a few questions about each of the books. Although I don't know that I want to get to all of them. I found your book extremely well written. And when I say all of them, I do want to get to all the questions, but I don't necessarily want to dive into each book; on on purpose, I want readers of the book to have overwhelmingly things that they've not heard before.

So I am curious, so why as Western church, and I'm going out on a limb, assuming quote, unquote, Western church, why have we detached ourselves from that tradition that, you know, we're founded from? Why do we not discuss these do you think, why are they Why are they shelved, and just let to be dusted?

Robert 11:43

Well, I mean, I should preface my response by saying I haven't. I haven't really delved too deeply into the historical events that led to the ignoring of the books that I have my own surmises about that. One of them is, I think that Christian churches, broadly speaking, have tended to downplay what we call the Old Testament, kind of in general.

So if you're going to hear a text read in church, more often than not, it's going to be a gospel text or maybe a Pauline text, it's not going to be the Old Testament texts. Second is, I think that within the Old Testament, there are sort of these great traditions that are important to the faith. I mean, and they should be read. Like I'm not saying we shouldn't be reading Genesis and Exodus and Isaiah, right. But we tend to focus on the kind of main stories and we don't have time to or energy to, I don't know what it is, to get around to these kind of minor, minor things as they're perceived, I think.

And third, maybe is the Old Testament traditionally has been read in so much as it kind of points the way to Jesus. So the Old Testament is often read kind of Christologically. And there's not much in these books that lends itself to Christological reading. So if that's your orientation, you might not ever really encounter these books. So what I'm trying to do is to say, What if we just take these books kind of on their own on their own terms, and see what's there?

Seth 13:26

And I can see that I can see how these books specifically don't necessarily point easily to Christ. And what I can be surmise down into a 30 or 40 or 20 minute sermon on Sunday. And I will say in preparation of this, I went to some of the like the top 50-60 churches in the country, their websites usually will let you search out their messages. And I just typed in these books of the Bible just to see how many popped up and they were like, two; from going to January of 2018. To present we're recording in the middle of July. And so yeah, I mean, it's…

And that was a spread out amongst denominations from Catholic to, you know, everything it was it was all over the place. And so I think you've hit the nail on the head, nobody discusses these. And another nail that was hit hard. So right at the beginning of your book, as you you dive, I figured you would save Song of Songs for the end, just because that's an awkward, it's an awkward book. And if I'm honest, I never…there's a portion of me growing up that I felt like I had to be, quote, unquote, allowed to sit at the adult table at Thanksgiving to also be allowed to read Song of Songs. Which after reading some of the texts of your book, and, and I know we've joked back and forth on Twitter, like some of the pickup lines, I don't think would work but I'll try them. And so you I like the way that you handle the text with humor, but also with application. And you ask a question at the beginning you say

Our culture has a sex problem, and the church is partly to blame

so what do you mean by that?

Robert 15:00

Well, what I mean by that is, I think that the church contributes to, often contributes to, attitudes about sex and sexuality that are oriented toward maybe toward guilt and shame, or repression and control. So that people who are raised in church environments often don't know how to talk about, or how to think about, or how to experience sex and sexuality as things that are good; things that are gifts given by by a passionate God.

And so we, I think, have lost the language of the beauty and joy of human sexuality. And I think that plays itself out and I'm not suggesting that the church is solely responsible for the problems in society. But I do think that it contributes, in that when we don't have healthy ways of expressing sex and sexuality or talking about or asking about, that we tend to repress those things that then come out in problematic ways.

So my position in the book is that if we could engage the Song of Songs in ways that teach us and give us language give us ways of thinking about the goodness of sexuality, that then we can just own our own nature as sexual beings, that that might enable us to engage in conversations about the appropriate role effects in our lives and might help us and thinking about you know, the metoo movement is going on right now and conversations and churches about LGBT Q, folks and gay marriage. All kinds of things that are related to our attitudes about sex. And I think that we often just don't know how to talk about those things as church people.

Seth 17:09

How then if we're thinking about me too, and consent and other things, so as you're breaking down the Song of Songs, the woman, the Shulamite woman, she doesn't seem to care about any hierarchy. There seems to be an equality between the man and the woman. And I know that that's not the way the quote unquote traditional church would preach things. They preach more of the complementarian view, which I would never say that to my wife, because I've value my face. So I don't want to get hit.

So as people are reading the Song of Songs, I know there's multiple ways to read it, but how do they make sure when they're reading it, that they're, that they're reading it correctly? That if they read something about consent, or they or they don't understand the phrase, how do they make sure that they're they're reading it and they're not charging it with their own bias?

Robert 18:06

Well, I think that, you know, I mean this point at a much larger question, which is whenever we read any difficult texts about anything, what are we doing? And how do we make sure we're reading it, reading that correctly. And, you know, as a Biblical scholar, I'm a little suspicious of the notion that there is a correct reading of any particular text, the texts open themselves up to multiple interpretations, which can sound a little scary, but from my perspective, it puts us as interpreters in the position of having to be agents of our own interpretation, we have to think through what is the range of interpretations that are here.

How does this relate to my own sense? What it means to be a person of faith? And then what is my community saying about about these things? So there's a conversation that happens between us and the Bible. It's not simply that the Bible tells us something, and so that we go to the Bible with questions. And we come away with deeper with deeper thoughts about it.

Seth 19:19

And oftentimes more questions. I like that idea of it's a conversation with the Bible. Yeah, I like that.

Robert 19:26

Yeah. And I mean, one thing you'll notice in my book is, at least I hope that instead of coming away with simple answers about the way we ought to read. I hope you come away with more sophisticated questions about things that you might ask of the Bible. I mean, I make my suggestions along the way, about how I interpret these things. But there are various points along the way invitations to the reader and this doesn't work that great in a book, you know, but invitations to the reader to say like, here's what i think but what do you think about that?

And so the the way the book is written I hope is as an invitation to conversation and an invitation into a deeper kind of way of thinking about what's happening in the Biblical text that we can then been asked different questions that we might have asked before.

On the issue of complementarianism. That's a that's a difficult one. And one of the things that, that I think is true is that on any given question, the Bible itself, hold multiple perspectives. You'll see that most clearly in this book in my chapter on Lamentations, which we can talk about. But there are Biblical texts that seemed fairly strongly to suggest a complementarian view of the relationship between male and female and particularly in the deutero-Pauline letters and in the New Testament.

I don't think that the Song of Songs has a complementarian view I think it thinks about two lovers one male, one female, who are who are exploring their, their sexuality together. And there is invitation, and respect and response, throughout most of the book. And you know, my position is not that the Song of Songs says this, like that's what the Bible says. But when we talk about what the Bible says, The song songs perspective needs to be included alongside Colossians or Timothy or whatever it might be.

Seth 21:35

Last question on that book. So how do you as a pastor then preach that on Sunday without…without alienating every single uncomfortable member that you know is funding your organization? How do you ride that line?

Robert 21:52

Yeah, that's your job. Yeah, I mean,

Seth 22:00

How is that my job?! (Laughter)

Robert 23:02

Now, I mean, the book is, so you can tell in reading the book that I am somebody who teaches and somebody whose congregation I mean, you might not be able to tell this. I talked about it a little bit in the book, but in my own congregation I dont preach. I lead people through conversations about the Bible. And so I can say, well, when I read song, the songs, this is what I see. And they can say, Oh, yeah, that makes sense. Or they can say, Oh, no, that's a terrible idea. And so, also when you work with people who live on the street, like there's not a lot of money involved.

Seth 22:39

Well, you know, to boil it down. It sounds like what you're saying is the preacher speaks at people less and talks with people, communally more.

Robert 22:48

Yeah, and I think I mean, you know, I'm, I do preach, I dont preach on a weekly basis, but I also my my spouse is a is a pastor, as well, and so I understand the need to be able to say something in 20 minutes, that resonates and doesn't alienate.

I also worry that when preaching, how do I preach this is the orienting question that what it results in is a simplification of the Bible in ways that are ultimately kind of problematic. So the Bible is a really rich and complicated set of texts. And if we need to boil it down always to a 20 Minute Message with a clear takeaway that I can put in my pocket. I don't think we treat it as respectfully as we might.

I also think there's a reason that I ended up as a professor and not as a pastor, which is because my intuition is always to complicate things and I'm not sure that that's, that's a way to get people to come back every Sunday, although maybe it is I haven't tried it. But when I say it, that's your problem. What I mean is, I have tried to open up the text in ways that I think show how the text is rich and pastors who are reading the book would then have to say, Okay, now that I can think about all of that, like, what do I say on Sunday morning?

Seth 24:15

I can remember when my wife and I first got married. Many years ago, the church that we were attending, where we, you know, rented an apartment, one of the first times her mom came down to visit she came to church with us in the pastor briefly pause, he said, “Guys, I'm going to pray for like three or four minutes, we're going to be talking” and he was talking about Song of Songs, and he was talking about sex. And he preface it by saying, “this is important. This matters. It's a huge part of your life, your marriage in this church. There's bigger implications. But again, if you haven't had a conversation“, and he spoken code words, “I'm going to pray for a really long time. So you got about three and a half minutes to excuse yourself or get your 14 year old out of here, whatever you're comfortable with, and then come back and get ready for some mess”.

And our mother and my new mother in law sitting next to us and my wife was like, Oh, this is gonna go badly. This is gonna go so badly. And at the end of it all, and I think she would mirror this. She's like, that's one of the best messages I've heard in a long time. Like, we should talk about this more. I was like, Yes, we did it right. Well the pastor did it right.

Seth 25:41

I want to move to Lamentations and the reason being is lately, something that I've been preparing for discussions on is the prosperity gospel. Because I don't like it. I just I tried to not often give my opinion, but I'm not a fan of the prosperity gospel. And when you were breaking down Lamentations, I kept hearing echoes to a prosperity gospel, but because of the theology that you list that people will use from Deuteronomy 30, in 16, and 18, basically saying that, you know, God gives us what we deserve. And so if you know if our house burnt down, you did it wrong. Or if you're being successful, you probably did it right. Can you break down that theology a bit, and you did not really, that's that's me again, and forming my bias into what I read.. But I couldn't help detach the two as I read that, as I read that portion of it

Robert 26:28

I think that is a reasonable interpretation of the theology of Deuteronomy. Of course, it's always more complicated than you can boil down to, in one or two sentences. But Deuteronomy, what I call in the book is reward punishment theology. In scholarly circles, it's often called the deuteronomistic theology, which just means it's a theology of the book of Deuteronomy.

But essentially where the book of Deuteronomy comes out is God saying to Israel, if you follow the Torah, I will bless you. And if you do not, I will curse you. And so this is a message of obedience to God and reward for obedience and curse or punishment for disobedience.

The way that prosperity gospel works in my mind is it just, it just works that equation backwards. So it says, if you have been blessed, it's because you've been obedient. And if you have been cursed, it's because you've been disobedient. Which is not actually what Deuteronomy does. But Deuteronomy lends itself to that kind of interpretation.

You see something similar in Proverbs actually on a more individual basis. And then you see books like Job that are really pushing back on that and saying, look, here's the here's your righteous sufferer and he’s done everything right and he's still suffering. What are you going do with that? So the Bible itself recognizes that prosperity gospel gets us into trouble where we we all know people who live good lives and bad things happen to them. So how how can you account for that within the theology of Deuteronomy? So we have to find other ways of thinking of in addition to the deuteronomistic theology.

Seth 28:24

As I read through that, that portion of your book, there were different voices in Lamentations and I might, I'm probably going to say I'm wrong, but you have the person that victim blames, you have the strong man, and you have the scoffer. Can you briefly go over those but what I really want you to speak on is the scoffer because I feel like that's the voice and the echo chamber, that many of us in today's climate of America I feel like that's the hat that a lot of us aware on Twitter and on Facebook and on whatever you know, social circles we run in? Could you Recently goes through those just different voices and then zero in on scoffer?

Robert 29:04

So, scholars have recognized for a while now that there are multiple speaking voices in the book of Lamentations, and they don't all agree with each other. The person that taught me about this was Professor Kathleen O'Connor, who was my teacher at Columbia seminary.

People talk about the voices differently. I myself see five. One is a figure called the Daughter of Zion in Lamentations. She's basically a personification, a female personification of the city of Jerusalem. The second is a guy who speaks in Lamentations 3, who he just says, I am the man and he uses a word that means a warrior So, so we call him the strong man.

There is a funeral singer who speaks in the first couple of chapters and ends up engaging in some dialogue with daughter Zion. There's the scoffer, who you mentioned, who I see in Lamentations 4. And then at the very end of the book in the last chapter, there's a communal voice that speaks as a we instead of as an I. And I see that as kind of the community's response to to what's gone before.

There's a couple of dynamics that I think are really interesting in that set of voices. One of them is that two of those voices, well, three of those voices, have experienced destruction and trauma themselves. So daughter Zion says, this happened to me. The strong man says this happened to me, communal voices, this happened to us. And then there are two voices that seem a little distant from the suffering so they talk about, look what happened to Jerusalem, look what happened to Jerusalem.

So I see part of that dynamic is insider — outsiders people who have themselves been traumatized and people who haven’t. One of the things that I'm trying to do in that chapter is to say, trauma in this case of destruction of the city of Jerusalem in the temple, causes multiple theological responses. And the book of Lamentations doesn't try to choose one of those. It lets them all kind of stand side by side. Daughters Zion is, is angry at God, for the suffering, she hasn't heard, and she never really moved past that. She's just, she's upset. She doesn't think she deserved it. And she thinks there is no hope for the future.

The strong man who also seems to have experienced suffering, he actually has a prosperity gospel kind of attitude. So he's basically saying, I'm suffering because I did something wrong. So if I just wait out God's anger, He will bless me, God will bless me again.

So there you have a prosperity gospel and an anti-prosperity gospel voices that are in the book and both expressed by people who have experienced trauma. The two voices that have not experienced trauma, one is the funeral singer. And in my reading he starts out a little judgmental about daughter Zion you know, saying because you suffer because you sin so why are you so upset? But after he listens to her for a little bit, he changes his tune, and even starts to weep on her behalf.

The scoffer you're interested in starts that with that same position, you're suffering because you did something wrong and you know you deserve it. So like what what problem is it of mine? And he never changes his tune. He just like that's what this copper thinks. You got what you deserved! You know, I say in the book, he's, he's the one voice in that in limitations that I would get rid of if I could like I, I don't like what what he has to say but Lamentations is insistent that he's part of the community too.

So even if you don't like what he says, you, you kind of have to figure out a way to let him hang around. Maybe he'll change his mind later. I don't know. But, but we've all got to stay together as a community. That's kind of the message of that of that book, I think.

Seth 33:30

And when I read it, what I don't want to hear but what I feel like I am hearing and since since reading your book, I've gone back and I've read Lamentations a few times. And that started with a different a different book I read Prophetic Lament from Professor Soong Chan Rah. And so there's just been a lot of that, which is, when you engage that much and said text, it tends to make you a bit sad, but what I'm understanding or what I think I'm beginning understanding is everyone's entitled to their voice. But everyone's not entitled to be 100% true and correct that there's a portion of the daughter of Zion and a portion of the scoffer and a portion of every other voice that is in some way or form correct because it's, it's their personal story. But that doesn't mean that anyone else is necessarily incorrect. And I think that that's the piece that so many in the church today Miss or at least what I think so many people in the church miss.

Robert 34:30

Yeah, you know, that chapter starts out with conversation about Black Lives Matter and the role of anger and protest, both in the church and also in society; and what I view as people trying to shut down those voices and say, it's time for you to move on to something else. And my reading of Lamentations says that community, the Black Lives Matter protesters, they get to be angry for as long as they are angry. And, you know, I see Daughter Zion kind of representing that kind of position. And Lamentations never tries to move her along. It just lets her be angry. And I mean, I assume the hope is that at some point she comes to something else. But for the duration of the book, she she just gets to speak her truth.

And, you know, I don't know if you necessarily need to say she, her truth is true, but it's only partially true, or something like that. I don't think Lamentations actually gets us there. I think it just says, she has a truth and it is her truth. And that truth might be incompatible with the truth of the strong man, who also has his own truth. And they get to think what they think and Lamentations doesn't correct them. But what it does do is hold them together. So it says, even when we are fundamentally incompatible in our theological or political responses to things, we still belong to each other. And so somehow we have to figure out a way to all be in community together without trying to shut down or even to kind of limit the fullness of the truth of others in the community. It is a beautiful idea. I don't know exactly how one does that in practice. But I think Lamentations is offering us a vision of a community that holds together even though the people in it have very different theological perspectives; it's a really beautiful image, I think.

Seth 36:55

Yeah, I don't know how you do with either. I find the churches begin even if they start that way they quickly homogenized down to a common denominator and then just branch off into the “we don’t agree”. And that's that's why we have you know, 197 million different church denominations. That's an exaggeration but we'll probably get there in the next you know, 40-50 years get that many.

(Laughter from Robert)

I want to shift to Ruth and I don't think we'll get to the other couple books that you've written on and that's fine. Specifically because I don't hear, well I've dealt a bit with Ruth and with a bit with Esther this year in some other readings, but I like the idea of both Esther and Ruth are giving a voice to the immigrant and and Esther does it more of you can assimilate to a point I think and but you also need to remember where you're from, and remember why you have a voice and use it wisely. [That] is what I hear in Esther. But Ruth is more the opposite. You break down Ruth and when I read you, when I read what you've read about it, it's about commitment, and it's about going to and making a decision standing by that decision but doing it logically and in a way that betters the community. Is that an overgeneralization? It probably is. I'm sure that it is.

Robert 38:18

I mean, everything is always an overgeneralization. Right. But yeah, the two books do have a lot in common Ruth and Esther. The distinction that I would make, I think, is that Esther is written from the perspective of a community that is a minority in the place where it finds itself. So it is written from the perspective of Jews living in the capital of the Persian Empire. So its perspective is how do we live when we are not the dominant culture?

Ruth is kind of the opposite of that. It's written from the perspective of people within the land Israel. And the question is, how do we relate to this foreigner this Moabite in Ruth, who has come to build her life among us, as the as the daughter in law of this Israelite Naomi? So she's married into an Israelite family, her husband and her father in law have died. And now she and her mother-in-law are trying to make a life in Israel where she is a foreigner. But the perspective of the book is from is from the perspective of Israelites who are the dominant culture.

So the question is, what is the role of a foreigner and you know, the way that I read the book, and it's not the only way to read it, but I think it's a productive one is to read the book of Ruth in light of other Old Testament books, like Ezra and Nehemiah, that have kind of an anti-foreigner orientation to them. So foreign women in particular are suspect and maybe should be even exiled out of the country.

Ruth by contrast, says, look, here's this woman she's a Moabite. She is a traditionally an enemy of the Israelites or her people are. But she comes into Israel, she learns the customs, she commits herself to her mother-in-law, she builds a life for them. And in some ways she saves the life of her mother or Israelite mother-in-law, Naomi. And as we find out at the end of the book, she becomes the great grandmother of King David, the greatest king of the Old Testament.

So on the one hand, the book of Ruth is making that kind of a claim that foreigners have something to contribute, immigrants have something to contribute, and so we ought to welcome them. But at the very end of that chapter, I've spent some time reading particularly Gale Yee, who's a Chinese American Biblical scholar, and Yolanda Norton who's an African American Biblical scholar, and they read that book from the perspective of someone who doesn't fit into the dominant culture. So they are they are more attuned to the character of Ruth than somebody like me.

And so, they point out the ways in which Ruth has had to compromise her own ethnic identity and has had to let go of the traditions of her own people. And so they they lament the book of Ruth in an interesting kind of way like…Yes, okay. It says that immigrants can belong to the culture but it says they can do that only by way of losing touch with their own roots. So, that chapter for me, suggests, so it reads against Ruth a little bit to say we should welcome immigrants, we who are in the dominant culture, but we also need to be careful about the ways that we are asking people to let go of their own cultural heritage.

Seth 42:13

Yeah. And that's a conversation that's happening daily in America. I'm not not to bog down on a political immigration policy question. So I'll defer all that. A concept that I wasn't necessarily familiar with, again, because of my lack of reading of the book and my lack of understanding of ancient history is the role of Redeemer that Boaz plays. And so what does that look like today? Like, is there a role similar that today that we could call someone you know, the 21st century quote, unquote, Redeemer? Is there anything like that, that we still do?

Robert 42:51

Oh, that's an interesting question. The book of Ruth is a little confusing about exactly what it means about the role of the Redeemer. But the way that I read the role of the Redeemer is that the character Boaz has a responsibility for his relative Naomi, who is a woman whose husband has died, and she owns a piece of land that has some value. And so his role as Redeemer is to make sure that she is is able to survive (and) is taken care of, has a place to live, is able to eat, and takes care of her property until a descendant of hers can take it back from him. So he's almost like the property is entrusted to him. So I'm struggling a little bit to think of what is what is the parallel some kind of a trustee of estate?

Seth 44:01

There might not, there may not be one. Because as I read you break it down. It was basically. I mean, he basically took a big risk and saying, Yeah, you know, we'll do this you can have it not a big deal. Almost like a chess match on knowing his opponent knowing what that would be like. But he did it in a selfless way. And I can tell you, as a banker, a lot of times trust never let assets leave the trust. It's not always selfless. You would hope that it is. But it's often not, and I wasn't certain what your answer would be. I just was genuinely curious as I sat there and thought about I was like, does this…because it is a good role for someone to be able to play

Robert 44:41

Yes.

Seth 44:43

I just didn't know if it still in some way, existed. It would be beautiful, if it did.

Robert 44:47

You know, one of the things I'm trying to do in the book is open up the ancient context in ways that suggest connections to contemporary life. But there are lots of folks whose background or experience is different than mine, and they see different connections than I see. And I think this was one of those cases where it never actually occurred to me to ask whether there is a role like Boaz’s role in contemporary life, but like as a question that occurred to you, and so one of the things that I hope will happen when people read the book is that they might see different connections than I see. Which might lead to different or richer or better interpretations than the ones I'm able to offer.

Seth 45:32

Yeah, well, I will forget my last question because that was it. What is your hope when people read the book, and I think you beautifully just answered it there. And so where can people engage with you Robert Williams and where can they get a hold of the book? Obviously Amazon and everywhere else. It launches on August 1, I believe?

Robert 45:51

The book is published by fortress press and so so any any of the fortress press connections you can find the book is launches on August 1 is is available Of course on Amazon and Barnes and Noble and places like that. I think if you order if you preorder it it'll it'll ship on August 1 and then otherwise it's available. You can find me on Facebook at my author page is Robert Williamson Jr. The URL is RobertWilliamsonjr.com author facebook.com slash. And I also have a website, where I'm blogging about things right now I'm not blogging about the book but I'm writing about biblical texts and their connection to contemporary life. And that's just RobertWilliamsonjr.com so they can find me there as well.

Seth 46:45

And I'll encourage listeners as you go out, and you can purchase the book one of my favorite parts is is Robert gives some pickup lines and Song of Songs to use with your significant other. So I would encourage you to try those and then just give some feedback. You know which ones worked … which ones didn't… maybe change them, maybe give some common day variations. I think that would be, that would be a fun thought experiment, why not?

Robert 47:08

I think that's a terrible idea. People can try it if they want.

Seth 47:12

I read a few to my wife and she's like, where's this sounds like it's from the Bible. I mean, this is Holy. This should work. Yeah. So anyway, thank you so much for your time today. I'm happy to have you on and maybe in the future we can have you on for different topic.

Robert 47:30

I would love to I appreciate you taking the time to talk with me, Seth, and happy to talk with you anytime.

Seth 47:51

I'm going to challenge you all to listen in at what your communities of faith are talking about. Are they taking the Easy passages, the easy roads, the parts of Scripture that don't require us to think about immigration, and don't require us to think about sex and equality and assimilation, and lamination and grief. And if your church is not doing that you're called to do something about that to speak out and say, hey, it's a huge segment of Scripture that we're not touching on. And for our church fathers and for the history of our church that has historically mattered and we need to make it matter again.

Go out and get a copy of Roberts book. And if you do, send some feedback to Robert you can find him at RobertWilliamsonJr.com. Thank you so much for listening today.

Thank you to the Silver Pages for the use of your music. One last thing before we leave, I have an inkling of thoughts of what I would like to do with next year of this show. And that sentence in and of itself is a little bit bigger than I thought it would be. I had no intention that the Can I Say This At Church podcast would turn into what it's turned into. And I'm enjoying every minute of it. I'm enjoying how the community continues to grow week over week over week, and talking with you all, and reading books with you all studying scripture and debating Scripture with you all. It's fantastic. And I would like to do some of that in person I would like to hold maybe live recordings or gatherings where we can meet, discuss, grab a beer, or wine or tea or whatever it is that you grab. That will not happen without your help, though. So if you have not yet committed to do so please go to the Patreon page, which you will find in the show notes or at CanISayThisAtChurch.com and pledge some support. I look forward to meeting you all If you'll help me do so, I'll talk to you next week. appreciate each and every one of you.

Be blessed.

39 - Learning to Speak God from Scratch with Jonathan Merritt / Transcript

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Jonathan 0:00

All languages, linguists will tell you, and they all agree, all languages will either change or die. All languages will either trend toward extinction, or evolution. And so what we have to do with the language of faith is to begin to engage in something called “wordplay”; to begin to talk about these things, but to ask how should we understand these words in our day? And how should we understand these words in ways that will avoid the pitfalls of the past and also empower us to to live in the 21st century and that's what I'm really trying to model in this book.

Seth 0:52

Hello family this is Seth, you're listening to another episode of the Can I Say This At Church podcast. Many of you may know the name Jonathan Merritt. He is a writer for The Atlantic for the religious News Service. He has written more than 3000 articles he's written in the New York Times The man writes a lot of words. He has written a new book, Learning to Speak God from scratch, why sacred words are vanishing and how we can revive them? What does that mean? You and I, when we talk about being quote, unquote, saved, or being quote, unquote, sanctified, or any word that you throw around in church, that if you say it out at lunch around someone that is not have the same faith, they just give you that side-eye look. That's what we're talking about. Learning to speak about God in a way that defines the language and revives the beauty of talking about the Creator of all things. And so I really hope that you enjoy it. Here we go. Jonathan Merritt.

Seth 2:14

Jonathan Merritt man I'm a fan. I'm so glad that you could join the Can I Say This At Church podcast. I enjoy your writing. If I'm honest, I enjoyed the Atlantic writing more than the religious news service writing, but that's, that's okay. I stay in the religion quite frequently. And it's nice to hear a different avenue. But thanks for coming on to the show, man.

Jonathan 2:33

Oh, thank you. It's my pleasure to be with you.

Seth 2:36

You have a large following, but for those that are possibly not familiar with you, could you just briefly give me a crash course on you?

Jonathan 2:44

Oh, gosh. Now how do you do that quickly. I'm a son of a Baptist minister, a TV preacher, who went to college to get a degree in biology and chemistry and then felt this call to be a writer and just started running after it. And so today that's what I do. I'm a religion writer. I write books, I help people write books and I write columns. And I live in New York City and I love all of it.

Seth 3:20

In reading your book, and I didn't know this, the college that you're referencing, you went to Liberty, correct?

Jonathan 3:25

I did. I went, my undergrad is from Liberty University, which those may know that's very conservative Christian school. Jerry Falwell was the founder of that school and went there straight out of high school with the prodding of the parents and, and I graduated shortly thereafter.

Seth 3:45

I fully relate with that because that's also where I did my undergraduate work.

Jonathan 3:51

Get out of here!

Seth 3:53

Ya, when I read that, halfway through the book, or maybe a third of the way through the book was like, how did I not know this? When did you go when were you there?

Jonathan 3:58

I graduated in 2004.

Seth 4:00

Okay, well we graduated the same year then so we were literally there at the same time. When I started Demoss Hall was one floor nasty shag carpet and when I graduated it was, well you can do whatever you want it on the third floor, because after that it was vacant.

Jonathan 4:13

Same, that is the exact same thing. And of course, when you go online and look at the campus today, it's like what is this place? I don't have any idea…

Seth 4:20

I feel like I should get royalties because I'm certain my tuition paid for at least the lobby of one of those buildings. I don't know which build on that I need royalties.

Jonathan 4:30

I’m sure. You should you should get a kickback or at least have a brick with your name on it.

Seth 4:36

Well they want more money to do that. I'm sure you get the same letters. They don’t don't give away those bricks for free.

Jonathan 4:41

I do not forward my mail when I move. There's a reason for that.

Seth 4:45

Well, I started to get them in my email and I don't know how; that's fine. But no when I read that, yeah, and I almost for certain know which class you were talking about for biology. I can't remember the gentleman's name; baldhead, glasses wrote his own textbook, in a survey class here at the bottom of Demoss. So yeah, I was reading that it's like, Man, there's a lot to relate here. Which do you prefer to be an author or the columnist version of yourself. When I say author, I mean, the long form book author.

Jonathan 5:17

Yeah. It's like saying, Do you prefer to be awake or asleep? I like both. I like sometimes I like one. And sometimes I like the other. They're good. They're, they're different skill sets. But for a writer, they can be sort of necessary states because there's one that's just like, get it get to the point get it out and there is another where you really get to explore the story as a form and narrative.

And I think they both sharpen me and helped me hone the craft of writing in a necessary way. So once I get done with a book, I tend to be like, all right, I just want to write columns, but after you write columns, For a little while, you're like, man, I'd really like to get in and dig deep and do something more substantial than this.

So I just finished this book. And the publisher wants a new book. And I'm like, I think I just want to write columns for a little while.

Seth 6:13

You're not Seabiscuit? Can I breathe for a minute? You're gonna make me bleed from the nose. The book that we're referencing, it comes out August Learning to Speak God from Scratch. There is a lot in there. Can you briefly tell me what that even means? Because I know we're both from the south and speaking from the scratch or bless her heart or that type of stuff is commonplace speech. But as I asked a few friends, some of them didn't even really know what that meant, learning something from scratch. So what are you getting at there?

Jonathan 6:44

Yeah. Well, the subtitle is “why sacred words are vanishing and how we can revive them”. So the point is, I moved a few years ago, I'd written three books by the time I was 30. And I thought, how much wisdom does a 30 year old have to share with the world I mean, I'd written 150,000 words and thought, I have nothing to say. Writing a book every two years is not a good idea. And so I decided when I moved to New York, before I moved to New York, I said, I'm not writing another book, unless I really feel like I have a message that's so important that the world needs me to write it.

And it's now been five and a half years since the last book I wrote, which in the publishing world is an eternity. But what happened was, is I moved to New York. And as I explain in the book, I run into this language barrier. Not that I couldn't speak English anymore, I could still speak English, I could still converse with people. I could order a hot dog from a street cart or hail a taxi cab, but I could no longer speak God.

And by that, I mean I could no longer have spiritual conversations or just draw from the sacred vocabulary in the way I had previously done. So there were words that were so negative in connotation, a word like sin or hell or judgment that I didn't feel like I could use. And then there were other words like grace or gospel that I’d used so often, I didn't even know what they meant anymore. I was now in a culture that people around me Didn't work from the same script. They either didn't know what those words meant, because they hadn't encountered them. Or they had encountered them with wildly different meanings that I had. And they would stop and ask me for a definition, please. And I couldn't come up with one.

Seth 8:46

That wasn't based on other Scriptures or another word.

Jonathan 8:49

Well, right. That was that I wasn't I couldn't, I had to define religious words by using other religious words. And so what I found out was is that I suddenly became Like 10s of millions of Americans who claimed that faith was important to them, that God was important to them, that spirituality was important to them. And yet they, they, they struggled to articulate those things in everyday conversations, because for some, for one reason or another, they had lost confidence in the vocabulary of faith. And when I realized how widespread this problem was, I said, Okay, it is time to pick up the pen again. It's time to write a book.

Seth 9:34

So if we're talking about learning to speak God, and that's those sacred words, how do we define what a word is sacred? Like, how does that? How does that matter? How, do I know which ones are in which ones aren't outside of people just given me a weird stare? And the reason I ask is, so a few weeks ago, my son was baptized. And as we talk more and more and more, he's in the same boat as the adults that you're alluding to in the book where he doesn't understand the vernacular because you don't teach an eight year old to talk in generalities of a presumed assumption of understanding, because that's my job as a parent to teach him. And so I'm finding it hard to define what things are without making a church speak, which is another I guess, word that I'd have to define “church speak” would be another topic.

Jonathan 10:19

Right. Yeah, once you start going down this route, it's hard to come back from it. When I say sacred words, there is sort of a little squishiness to that, right. Because even there are some words that some people would consider to be, quote, unquote, secular, a great example of that as the word family, which I have a whole essay on in the book. But it's a word that when we use it, we're intending to point beyond. Beyond the, the temporal beyond this realms to beyond the natural so it points to the spiritual it points to the transcendent it points to the supernatural.

It points to things like morals and virtues and ethics. And those are things that I kind of lumped into this, this category of sacredness. And so, I'm less concerned about whether somebody says, You know what you think that word is sacred and I don't. Instead, what I am attempting to do is to get people to say, to engage in this process of figuring out what is sacred for them, and how do they talk about those things?

Seth 11:34

You speak a bit, thinking of sacred words and how we speak about dead languages and, and to put that into context. I mean, the Bible is pretty much written in a dead language. nobody speaks Greek anymore, or Aramaic. Well, I guess some people do, I don't in the vernacular, and the only Latin that I know is in vino Veritas, because, because wine, and I like wine. So how long does it take a language in your research to go from commonplace vernacular to a dead type language where the only people that use it are people in that in that network or in that in that study?

Jonathan 12:15

Well, this is interesting because I looked, I looked at dying languages, and there are a lot of those. I mean, you mentioned Aramaic, that's one, and there are a lot of reasons for a language dying. Either the people who spoke it die, or a different economy rises up a trade language emerges and it eliminates that in Latins case, it becomes more and more restricted simply to certain places and spaces and people.

But then there are also other languages that we call, that linguists call, comback languages. So we when we talk about the language of the Bible, Hebrew, for example, is a language that went to the brink of death and has come back now as spoken again. And so you can revive languages that are moving to the brink.

So what I try to do in this book is is to say, Okay, if a language is dying, and you don't want that language to die, how would you revive it? And I began to look not just at languages like Koine Greek or Aramaic, or Latin, languages that are effectively dead. I began to look at languages like Hebrew that have come back.

And what I found was, is that there were some commonalities in come back languages that could be overlaid into this conversation. But one of them is, very simply, a renewed commitment of those who spoke it to keep speaking it. So people who speak that language wake up and they say, we don't want this language to die. And so in our own homes and in our own communities, and in our own religious spaces, and in our own workplaces and in our literature, we're going to begin speaking this again despite the awkwardness—despite the difficulties despite the obstacles, we are going to start speaking this language again.

And that's sort of the baseline. The thing that really surprised me is that in order to revive these languages, you have to take an imaginative approach to the language. You have to say, we have to allow these words to change. We have to allow for new syntax to enter in; new rules, new meanings to arise with these old words. If you look at come back languages like Hebrew like Yiddish that spoken here in Brooklyn where I live, like Hawaiian or Irish, Catalan, you will find that they never come back in the same form that they originally existed. That all languages, linguists will tell you and they all agree, all languages will either change or die all languages will either trend toward extinction, or evolution.

And so what we have to do with the language of faith is to begin to engage in something called “wordplay” to begin to talk about these things, but to ask how should we understand these words in our day? And how should we understand these words in ways that will avoid the pitfalls of the past and also empower us to to live in the 21st century and that's what I'm really trying to model in this book.

Seth 15:47

You write in your book, I don't think you're quoting anyone; I'm pretty sure that you say

when we lose our spiritual vocabulary, we lose much more than words. We lose the power of speaking grace, forgiveness, love and justice over others.

And when I hear that, I think a little bit beyond that. And so I have a few friends that have leaned into learning like their native American heritage. And with that the language that comes with that, like languages that just aren't spoken here, I still live in Central Virginia. And what they're finding and what I'm learning through them is that when they think about a divine creator, or God, or whatever you want to call it, it's more beautiful because they have more than one word to say the same thing.

There's more depth to the meaning of what we're trying to talk about, as opposed to just being another wall is white. Of course, the wall is white, it's always white. It's no other color but white. If the church can't figure out and I guess our generation specifically can't figure out how to course correct and revive speaking sacred words. What does that future of the church look like if you know what would the future of the church was like now had some had Hebrew continue to just pass away?

Jonathan 16:58

Well, you have to start with With the problem, and as identify in the book, they’re really twin problems, there is the decline of sacred words. And so when you look at Sacred words using Google Ngram data, Google has compiled all of the speeches, and books, magazine articles and blogs in the English language going back hundreds of years and you can search the frequency of certain words what we find is, is that religious language has been in massive decline for the last 50 years, at least in the English speaking world. So words that grace, salvation, all of these words are declining, but also virtue words, just simple words like courage, kindness, compassion, love, these words—words that we call the fruit of the Spirit—all of these words have been in decline. So there's been a decline in sacred words, but there's also a decline in spiritual conversations.

What I did for this book was I conducted a survey with the Barna group of over 1000 Americans. And I said, How often do you have religious or spiritual conversations? What I found was despite widespread religiosity in the United States, only about 7% of Americans say they have spiritual conversations, religious conversations, about once a week, which is not all that frequently. Now what I thought was, is when I looked at just Christians, practicing Christians, while that number would go way up, well, it didn't only about 13% of church going Christians say they have spiritual or religious conversations about once a week.

That means if you go to church, and just the faithful show up that day, and you look around, only about one in eight are having spiritual or religious conversations about once a week. And that's fascinating because we talk about things we care about. We talk about things we love. So we care about our children. We love our children, we talk about our children, we care about our favorite sports team. So we're going to talk about our favorite sports team. We care about this hobby or that hobby, we talk about it. We say we care about our faith. We care, we care about God, we care about spirituality. And yet we're not talking about these things. And so what I wanted to know was, why not?

But you asked an interesting question, what is lost if we don't recover these things? What I point out in the book is that there is an emerging body of research that now shows a connection between the words we use and the thoughts we think, and the behaviors we display. So the more that we talk about something a great example I use in the book is the concept of time. In English we are a future language we talk about the future we have a future tense. But in in other languages you don't have a future tense. Chinese, for example does not have a future tense. So they use the same tense no matter what they're talking about. Well, what's the difference? Because we talk about the future more, we as a people think about the future more. And because we think about the future more, we behave in different ways.

When you compare languages with future tenses over and against those that don't have future tenses, you'll find that the language’s in the cultures where they have a future tense will practice more safe sex, they will smoke less, they will save more for retirement. Why? Because we're talking about the future. We're thinking about the future because we're, we think about the future more. We're behaving in ways that take into account the future. Now, how does that relate?

The less that we talk about God, the less that we talk about about faith, the less that we talk about faith and courage and grace, the less that we will think about faith and God and courage and grace, the less that we will become people who are tuned to these transcendent realities. And the less that our lives and our behavioral patterns will be built around God, faith, courage, and grace. And so if you think these things are important, and I do, then you see that we are we are heading very quickly toward a crisis point where we will be living in a culture that will not be shaped about these things. These things are be shaped around these things, simply because we have lost the ability to articulate them.

Seth 21:42

Yeah, well, and we also won't worry about the present day because we're always looking forward to what's coming and not heeding the warnings of what happened that I've read other things unrelated to theology, specifically researching a bit on pornography and a few other things. That the more that that a person engages in that type of actions, that's the way that their brain and their pathways in their personhood becomes wired to crave the reward and pleasure systems of that; and it makes it where with a spouse, they can no longer really enjoy that anymore. It's a chore, as opposed to being something more holy, because they've reprogramed their brain. And then I've read similar studies that for instance, and you reference it in your book as well, you know, if you can focus on a form of prayer that isn't transactional, that if you can be contemplative and for me, that's been I've been wrestling the issue with the examen, which I find extremely hard because I'm not a patient person at all. But it, if you can allow it to, it'll it'll change you it'll if you want to be more graceful and you're focusing on that intentionally and praying for that but doing it in a way that is not expecting a “I prayed for this next Tuesday, I'm more graceful because that's how this works”. I I made the purchase. I said my prayer. I need my receipt. Prayer will change you in the words that you pray and think on will actually physically change you.

Jonathan 23:08

Yeah, I totally agree.

Seth 23:50

In the beginning of the book, I had to stop and think about a section that you wrote for a while because it was a thought, especially being going to Liberty and then since then I had never given much idea too and since then I have, and you bookend towards the end of the book as well. So I think you do you talk about the imago day as one of those words. And in that some is argued that the imago dei isn't necessarily my soul or the way that I look or whatever, it's the ability to speak and that, you know, other creations don't really have that.

Can you go in a bit to that? And the reason I ask is the Erasmus version of the prologue to John I think if we treat words that way, it'll it should affect the way that we have arguments on Facebook or Twitter or in real life and it makes every conversation matter more.

Jonathan 24:44

Yeah, so when God creates, in the poetry of the first chapter of Genesis, when God creates with words, by the way which is significant; God creates us as people who speak. And that's interesting that God creates us with words, as people who create with words, our selves. There's a quote in the book by Barbara Brown Taylor, that I love that says

God could have made us stone creatures, tree creatures, sea creatures, winged creatures, but God made us speech, creatures instead, human beings made in God's own likeness, which is to say, capable of joining God in the work of creation, by speaking things into being ourselves.

And I think that is interesting. That what does it mean that God with words forms us and says, you're gonna be like me? And immediately following that, we find Adam trying to find words to name all of the animals, we find him walking in the garden, using words to communicate back and forth with God. It seems to me that that the ability to speak is so central and we take it for granted. But it is so central to who we are as humans. And it is so central to who God is in the text. And it is so central to both of us in that story that in context, it could be or it seems likely to be that the imago dei is pointing to that reality.

And when you read the text going forward, you find it becomes a drumbeat, an echo if you will, throughout the text, where language as a essence of divinity re-emerges again, and again, and again, throughout the Old Testament, into the New Testament, throughout early Jewish communities, in early Christian communities, and if you really look at this holistically, which I paint or a try to paint, in this book and a chapter called our divine linguiphile, I think you cannot get away from the fact that words are so central to who we are as Homosapiens. That it just might be that's the way that God intended it.

Seth 27:37

Which is, to me, it makes me fearful because I only know one language and I know other languages very, very badly. And there's a portion of me that feels like because of my lack of knowledge of words I don't see aspects of God that I want to.

Jonathan 27:54

Yeah, that's true. Listen, the way that you talk about things will always expand and limit the way you conceive of things. And so the more languages you learn, the more broadly you're able to conceive of things. There are languages for example, and I didn't include this example in the book but it's a great example there are languages, I believe Russian is one, that has/have different words for different shades of blue. In the English language, we have blue, and we can say dark blue, light blue, Navy blue, royal blue, but in Russian there are all these different words for all these different shades of blue. What does that matter? When you look at the way that speakers who have different words for different shades conceive of the world and see the world they more readily pick up on on different shades of blue when they see it.

So if I take a person who speaks that language to the Metropolitan Museum of Art, here on 70 whatever street on Central Park, they will have a different experience looking at the same piece of artwork than I will. Because he or she will notice things that I won't see. And so you're exactly right when you talk about like Greek having multiple words for different kinds of love. Now we can put an adjective on it, say romantic love and brotherly love. But it strains us to understand those different ways of expressing love, simply because we don't talk about love in that way.

So you're right, you're limited in ways. But there are ways that you have a certain consciousness that people who speak other languages will not have. And I think that's a really fascinating way to think about the connections between consciousness and articulation.

Seth 29:55

Yeah. So is there a generation that does this better. So say you take five people with five different languages all to the Museum of Art there in Central Park, and you're all looking at the same thing, and you experiencing things in a different way. And so let's say you're looking at a, I don't know, a spiritual picture, it doesn't even matter what it is. Are there generations, or cultures that do this better that when you ask a question they're like now, but here's what I see and here's what that means?

Jonathan 30:24

And I've never thought about that. But it could be that. I wouldn't say, you know, I wouldn't say that that's true, generally, that there are some that just sort of speak God better than others, like, well, you speak French, you're going to speak God better. I do think that there are aspects of spirituality that we are better equipped to talk about or to conceive of, because of the languages we speak.

You know, we go back to that previous example of future languages. It might be that because we talk of future we have a future tense, we're able to Think of the eschaton more easily. Because we're, you know, there's some languages that are more communal in nature. And perhaps they're able to speak of religious communities more easily. I think what this teaches us, however, is and I'll take a little bit from the from Paul's language in the New Testament. In the Pauline corpus, you find this language of the body. And it may be that those who speak different languages are actually the foot or the hand. And that's why we need each other. That's why we need to listen to each other.

Most of us when we do theology, we're really doing predominantly those of us in America are really doing white, Western, male theology. But could it be that those who grew up speaking other languages could provide us something that we are missing? I think probably that could. And so I would say one thing that you're bringing up here that's important is, is learning to listen to the way others speak God and considering that maybe they're conceiving of God in a different, but true, way that could help you achieve some higher level of consciousness about spirituality yourself.

Seth 32:28

Apologetically, and so when I say that I know being that we both went to Liberty, that word means something different to a Liberty student than it does say to a Notre Dame student or to a different school student. And so the way that I was used to frame sacred words like sin, or holy or sanctification or salvation or saved or damned or whatever the word I want to use, I was geared to use words as quivers in an arrow, that this is logically the only meaning for that word. So apologetically if people are going to and I hope that they do for fear of losing a version, the who is it that said it? I don't know who said it. But if Christians can embrace the mystical version, but the mystical aspects of our faith, we won't have a faith for much longer. And that's a badly done paraphrase of someone smarter than me saying, I think something equivalent to you know, it's more nuanced than what you're trying to make it. And so as we engage in it, and we begin to try to, like toddlers, learn to speak God in a better way and grow with that. How do we handle apologetics using those words?

Jonathan 33:37

Yeah, well, I I think that there's something to benefit from apologetics in terms of defending what we believe. I think in some ways, this book is maybe a little bit of a counterbalance to where apologetics has taken us. So apologetics has taken us to a place where when somebody says something, we want to argue back what we believe.

So if somebody says, You know, I conceive of God in this way we go, Yeah, well, I don't conceive of God in that way I conceive of God in this way. And here the three proofs are three reasons why my conception is better than yours. And it robs us of our imagination. Because oftentimes, the way they conceive of God could be really helpful to us. The way they conceive of a particular doctrine could be helpful for us. But we are so programmed to argue and convince rather than to sit and imagine, I think we miss out on something.

You know, I really like the Quakers have a spiritual discipline that they call “wondering”. That whenever someone says something, you would disagree with that, rather than taking an apologetic approach, they take an approach of wondering, they sit and wonder about where that person could be right and where that person could teach you something. That is their first response. Oftentimes, I would say as somebody who grew up in an apologetics moment and an apologetics movement, before you even get done saying what you're saying, I'm already formulating my rebuttal to that.

Seth 35:27

And I'm probably pissed off already.

Jonathan 35:29

Yeah, that's right. And I'm already thinking about how wrong you are, how stupid you are, how I can say something that will show you how smart I am. And I think it takes both theological humility and theological imagination, to take the opposite approach. What I hope to do in this book is to tell people Hey, it's, it's a great thing, that you're able to defend what you believe, but could it be in this moment that the thing we need the most is not arguments for why you believe what you believe. But a certain amount of wondering that would begin to expand your own imagination about what you should believe, or what you should be fixing your mind on. And I hope that's what I do in this book. So I wouldn't say that this work is necessarily something that will help you shore up your apologetics, but it certainly I hope will expand your imagination.

Seth 36:32

I think you hit the nail on the head there. Yeah, as I read through my apologetics revolver is full. It's been full since I went to LU and I will tell you, I really struggle still with that version of me that is the default me the me I would, I guess you could say, taught to be as a Christian, and I use that same attitude and everything I do banking for a living and it's things are black and white. There's very little gray, but I'm realizing that religion and spiritual spirituality specific is extremely grey. And even amongst Christians, it's more muddled than it isn't, regardless of what you hear on the news. As I begin to process this, and this, I want to make this one of the last questions as I give you back the rest of your morning, as I process this, and then I know based on your research and Barna and many other research as well, the lack of spiritual conversations happening as I intentionally try to engage in this, how do I do so? Be it at church or be it at work? Well probably not at work, be it somewhere and do it in an intentional way that doesn't somehow come off as arrogant or bragging that I'm wrestling with bigger things than you are. You're worried about fantasy football and I'm worried about something holy, deeper. How do I how do I do that?

Jonathan 37:56

You know, I just I'm about to produce a video series. I went down to Times Square with a microphone and I just started talking to people. And I said, “How comfortable are you with spiritual conversations”? Some people said, “Nope, I not. I don't think these conversations are appropriate”. Most people said it depends; if you're just trying to argue with me about what you believe, I'm not interested. If you're trying to convert me to something or coerce me to do or believe something, I'm not interested. But if it's a real dialogue, a real back and forth, I'd be okay with that.

And I think that's actually true. Even in a city like New York that's fairly secular, it's not a-spiritual, it's actually not antagonistic toward religious conversations or spiritual conversations. So what I find is, is if you can take some of your declaratives and turn them into interrogatives. If you can focus more on seeking to understand than seeking to be understood, if you can focus as much on listening as you do on expressing and articulating, that's about the best way to speak God.

And I think you would find people will welcome those conversations. If you can find those questions in your own in your own communities that can happen differently, but with people who are outside of those religious communities, it asked to have a slightly lighter touch. But I think that we should, we should create spaces for spiritual conversations that welcome doubts, that welcome honest questions, that welcome struggles with these words. You know, as the ancient rabbis used to say, God is in the wrestling. So God's in the answer, yeah, but God is in the question.

And if you can develop those kinds of spaces, I think you will find that Most people will be willing to enter in those spaces with you and imagine what spirituality looks like and should look like in the 21st century. And what I do is, is I think they should happen in community. And I offer there's at the end of the book, there's a how to guide for seekers and speakers. And I actually map this out for people to say, here's how you can do this in your family, in your, in your home, in your workplace, at your PTA gatherings, at your happy hours after work in your churches, in your small groups, here's how you can do it. And I think I think it's something that is quite possible and that most people are not antagonistic to if you do it the right way.

Seth 40:44

When is that video series out?

Jonathan 40:47

Well, I'm just reviewing copies of it. So hopefully in the next couple of weeks, I'll roll it out one one by one. So there will be a whole series that will come out on YouTube.

Seth 40:56

So those will be on YouTube. Where can people as they are listening to this The book is what's the website? Is it speaking God book? That's not what it is.

Jonathan 41:04

It is speakGodbook.com. You can any of my stuff will be posted at Jonathanmerritt.com.

Seth 41:12

Fantastic. And yeah, well from one Liberty grad to another we are rare at least in this conversation space. I find that we are we are a rarity, at least in openly in this conversation space.

Jonathan 41:27

For sure.

Seth 41:28

Thank you so much for coming on. Jonathan. I appreciate it.

Jonathan 41:30

Oh, the pleasure is all mine.

Seth Outro 41:51

Thank you so much for listening to today's episode. I really hope that you I we the church and just society as a whole can begin to Embrace, speaking about things in a way that matter, not just using church speak, to use church speak. It's easy to do that. But when we do it, it takes away the beauty of the meaning behind the words. So I really do hope that we can all as Jonathan is written, learn to be begin to relearn how to speak God from scratch. And by that I mean just an honesty in the way that we talk about God. Because that matters.

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38 - Raise Your Voice with Kathy Khang / Transcript

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Kathy 0:00

Not everyone is created to be the kind of activist on the street. And not everyone is created to be a preacher teacher. So it's important to kind of know what your lane is. And you're not going to know your lane, obviously, unless you experiment and you test things out and you fail miserably and pick yourself up and have a conversation with God. But in all of that, what I've written in the book as well is you pray, because this is not…this isn't about the history books. It really isn't.

This is about what is God inviting the church into during this time, and all of the different parts of the beloved church and I cannot believe that the invitation is too hide in fear and to build walls that separate us and them. And so how will we know? We need to pray? We need to, we need to be in Scripture. We need to be discerning. And then you do it and then you do it.

Seth Intro 1:50

Hey there, welcome to the Can I Say This At Church podcast? I am Seth, your host. I'm so glad that you download it today. Today's episode, if you think about your week, your day, if I'm honest, a lot of times, the first thing that I do when I get up in the morning is turn on my phone, Check Twitter, check Facebook, and maybe I check email, then I get in the shower, and I'm ashamed to admit that I have a feeling that you do the same thing. And so what do we find when we're on Facebook? I find people just yelling out into the void. I find people voicing their opinion, maybe to a question that wasn't answered. And if it is a question that is answered, be it religious, political, your favorite sports team, whatever it is, whatever you feel like you need to talk about. I find recently, and over the last decade really since the advent of social media, that we poorly, very, very poorly raise our voice.

The world that we live in is so hyper connected. And I feel like it is sometimes a daunting task. To figure out how to speak well, what needs to be said and how to speak that in love, and how to own what is true in and offensive and a non offensive way at the same time. And that is what the interview is about today. So I sat down and I sat down on the internet with Kathy Khang, who has written a beautiful book entitled Raise Your Voice, you will hear in this interview, what we are called as Christians to do, how we should proactively engage in conversations. How when you find what you feel like you're being called to say to the world, how to do so in a way that will help further the church and further our communities because let's be honest, not everyone is in church, but we are still in a conversation with people whether or not they are and I think That's key we have to remember that so I hope that you enjoy it. Here we go. Let's talk to Kathy Khang.

Seth 4:40

Kathy Khang. Thank you so much for joining the Can I Say This At Church podcast, I also can't thank you enough and Intervarsity Press for sending me a copy of your book. I sometimes when I sit down to read a book and I try if I'm being honest, I try to read every everything that's sent to me. Especially if I'm going to Speak to the author because I feel like it is a disservice. And it's not genuine if I can't do that, and so yours I actually sat down and I read in one sitting, which isn't every book but I genuinely voraciously, enjoyed reading and I can't wait to hear the feedback from it as it comes out. But thank you again so much for writing it. Thank you for coming onto the show.

Kathy 5:21

Oh, thank you, thank you so much. And that intro and hearing about your experience with the book means a great deal. I have just gotten a physical copy of the book and there is this excitement and also a wave of nausea that is coming over as I'm realizing that people are actually going to read this.

Seth 5:49

Why why nausea?

Kathy 5:51

I think it's the nervousness, right? It's the what…what will people think? And usually I am not one who gives two hoots about what people think. But I have had to do a lot of business with God in this process of writing and putting out these words into the public. So it was one thing to blog. That's, that's a very different experience. And it's a different experience to be invited into a space as a speaker. But I had to wrestle with ego and thoughts of you know, what it means to be a successful author. Why am I doing this and envy and all of those wonderful, icky human emotions as I got ready to get this book out into the world?

Seth 6:50

Well, I'd like to start where I start with most guests, at least first time guests and hopefully we'll make you recurring as the years go by because I can't see myself not continuing to do this in the future, I'm enjoying it. But what is kind of your upbringing and kind of what has pointed you in the direction those brief milestones in your life of the story of you? Like how did you get from where you were, and wherever that was to being the person that was able to do the wrestling with God, and be very honest in your book? There's a lot of personal stories in it so what does that journey just sort of look like?

Kathy 7:31

The journey I guess, in my mind, starts with my family and we immigrated from Seoul, South Korea in 1971. I was eight months old, so I have no memory of crying my way across the ocean and settling in Chicago and growing up as a child of immigrants and a child who didn't know what it meant to be just an American kid in the north side of Chicago. Going to school, I had no idea what it meant to be different, all of the kids were different. We all were very different. And most of my close friends, we all were immigrants.

I still remember the smells, and the sounds, and the languages of my different friends who were Greek, and Filipino and Indian and that was very normal. And then moving to the suburbs. When I was in second grade, was the first time I realized that what I experienced in Chicago was not necessarily the norm. It was the first time I encountered, actually, so many white-Caucasian people; my entire school. And what that meant for me, and how suddenly my face was weird. My name was strange. The language I spoke at home was considered exotic, the smell oils were not smells you wanted to carry with you into the public, all of those types of experiences and the wrestling with who am I? How will I choose to present myself in public? What does it mean to be a child of God?

Because that's what I'm being told at home but that's not what I'm experiencing in school. And all of that wrapped up in the practice of journaling, which was some thing that my father had encouraged me and my sister to do when we were growing up. And so I have various notebooks and then actual little diaries with cute little locks on them. And, you know, my dad, I think, gave us that gift and encouraged us to journal not because he thought that I would become a writer but really it was to practice my penmanship and to practice writing, right to be a good student.

And for me, that just kind of became a wonderful outlet of being able to be fully honest and not have a filter and, and just write what I was experiencing the good and the bad and all of the angst and all of that. So, you know, it was being raised in a Christian, but a distinctly Korean immigrant Christian and home with strong memories and roots for the first few years of school in a very diverse community in the North Side of Chicago, and then moving to the suburbs where, for the rest of my life, I would wrestle with whether or not I fit in. Whether or not I was American enough? Whether I was human enough? Whether or not my experiences and my family was enough? I think all of that continue to follow me into my young adulthood and into my early years of being a newspaper reporter and, and parenting, marriage and all of that. And here we are, squarely in my mid life.

Seth 11:58

Are you so this is your first book, right?

Kathy 12:02

Yes. So it's my first solo book. I was part of a multi-author book about 12 years ago, also from Intervarsity Press called More Than Serving Tea.

Seth 12:15

I haven't read that one. But I also don't really like tea. And I have a feeling that that has nothing to do with the book or very little, but

Kathy 12:22

Yes, correct. (laughter)

Seth 12:25

I'm more of a coffee guy. So the title of your book is Raise Your Voice. And throughout the book you've interwoven, finding your voice and why that's important. And in the world that we live in now, if you turn on the news, or if you go to church, depending on your church, but I feel like every church is going to have this in some way, shape or form. My personal experience has been once you feel “laser focused” on what you feel like your voices and with that comes what you're called to speak truth too.

And that could be preaching that could be, you know, foster ministry, that could be anything. But I find that once you begin to dig into what you're passionate about and what you feel called to do that there is an inherent cost at expressing your voice. Be it a podcast via blog, be it a book, be it at a Sunday school. And so you touch on that a bit. So why is it worth finding a voice? And is it is it worth bearing that costs?

Kathy 13:34

Oh, it's absolutely worth bearing the cost. But I'll be completely honest, there have been many times over the years where I have often wondered whether or not it was worth bearing any cost. It is not fun to receive hate mail. It is not fun to read hate mail. It's not fun to read nasty comments on a blog or an editorial. None of those are fun and they will make you question whether or not you've done the right thing.

And whether or not you've been obedient to God, ultimately. But I would say that if you choose to stay silent, you know, we often hear the phrase these days, you know, “you don't want to be on the wrong side of history”. My response to that is, you know, ultimately, it's obedience to God. I don't know what history will say about any of us and as an individual, one single little person in the world, I don't suspect that history will say very much, if anything about me personally but I believe as a Christian, ultimately my responsibility is, am I being obedient to the things that God is inviting me to.

And I wrote this book, in part, because I saw so many of my friends and people I interacted with wrestling with that sense of I should say something or I should do something I should express, X, Y, or Z. I think this is what I made to do. But the cost of not doing that not only do I think a little piece of you dies every time you shut that voice down. I also think that it is refusing an invitation from God.

And not all invitations from God are really pretty and exciting. But I do believe that those are the invitation That we should be listening to the most and most carefully. And what does it mean to gain the world? Right? We we learn those things in church. But I think, in the practical day to day, that's why I wrote the book that this isn't about, you know, the, the one time you have to decide whether or not you're going to raise your hand and stand up in a meeting of 2000 people that may or may not happen, but really, it's the daily obedience and faithfulness to the things that God is asking you to speak up on.

Seth 16:39

So how do you then speak? Well, I'm trying to word this right. So I am a white man. And I there's not much I can do about that. And that's fine. How do you elevate, no elevate is not the word, how do you try to speak and in my case, it would be about theology and about the love of Christ. And I find that when I say that, and I try to raise a voice that says, No, no, no, no, no, no, we we don't need to be concerned about Trump and North Korea as Christians, we need to be hoping that we can love the people regardless of the outcome, or Syrian refugees, or Muslims, or anything I find that's kind of the voice that at least for this year that I've been called, that I feel personally called to, to say, you know, hey, why have we come so little since the lynchings? Why have we not made any progress since redlining? Why, why is this still happening? And, and I find that people don't listen. And so even if you have found what you feel like you're called to speak about, how do you be how do you use your platform effectively?

Kathy 17:54

Well, you know, I think first it's wrestling with that idea of platform because I don't believe everyone necessarily kind of in the pseudo-Christian celebrity sense has a platform. But I do think that everyone has the opportunity and the responsibility, ultimately to say something, and to do something, those words or actions will all be different for everyone. And that's also something that I remind people (about). Not everyone is going to be the person who goes to do a letter writing campaign or not everyone is going to feel comfortable marching in a protest, but ultimately, what is going on that we as Christians forget, and are not listening to the very prayer that we pray every Sunday right? Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in heaven. What I say to people is maybe we've been way too focused on the heaven part. And way too focused on the idea that we just need to get people to heaven and make decisions to become a Christian and we've totally forgotten about the part of your kingdom on earth. And that's where I at least for my sisters and brothers in Christ, I, that's where I kind of battle with them and say, no, this is not an opt out. kind of situation. This is very much You do? There is no opt out. If you are praying that prayer if you say you believe in the Gospel, the gospel is not about how many people we can get to pray this sinners prayer.

Seth 20:02

Which isn’t really even in the Bible.

Kathy 20:05

Exactly, exactly. And, and so I, I think here, especially here in the US, we have this kind of brand of Christianity that is about, and particularly evangelicals, have this brand of Christianity that is about getting to heaven. And whatever happens here on Earth, whatever scorched Earth we all have our tickets to heaven and good for us. And the older I've gotten and the more I've wrestled with Scripture, I've realized, Oh, no, no, no, no, no.

That, you know, it's a bonus that we will spend eternity with God. But in the meantime, we are here on earth and what is it that we're supposed to be doing? We're supposed to be proclaiming the Gospel. And the Gospel is not only about the ticket to heaven, it's about how we are going to interact with one another, with the earth, with all of creation, how are we going to interact? And that's why I think it's important. That's why I encourage people to figure out what is it that you're passionate about? What are the things that you care deeply about? What are the big and little things that happen day to day that you know, have to be different? And how will you speak into that whether it's with your friends, your neighborhood, your kids?

Seth 21:44

Well, that's the hard part is is the kids. I said something…what I say? I said something last night on Facebook and and I'll probably edit this out because I don't know that it's relevant, but it comes to the top of my head now. I said something about how if we I watched You have Netflix and everybody I think has Netflix. And so there's a new mini-series or documentary that documents I think it's 9 or 10 rappers and I will say the language is quite vulgar. But one of the ones that I watched and I didn't watch many of them, is on TI. He's a rapper from Atlanta. He's talking a lot about racial reconciliation. And then he engages with a lot of older people, and says, you know, I'm doing this wrong, like when I speak, nobody hears me saying anything. And so I'm going to look back and I'm going to go speak to these other people that were living when Martin Luther King was alive, and ask them how they actually did things with him so that maybe I can do this better. And you can see the light bulbs go off every once in a while.

Talking about our children. At the end of that he's in a think it somewhere at Montgomery. There's like a racial reconciliation museum. And it's not the most recent one it's an older one. And him and his children are walking through and listening to the stories and watching news broadcast about you know, we don't mix any farmer will tell you don't mix your black chickens with your white chickens because it makes both chickens produce less eggs. And just stuff like that. And you can just see the face of his son. And then they go and they read a story of I think his name is Emmett Till. And I basically went to Facebook and said, I don't understand how we've gone so, so short a distance, like if we think of history, and in terms of distance, like we've gone one foot when we should have been 500 miles further, and we've only gone…like how we only gone this far. And, and many of my friends summer, African American Summer, Hispanic, and they all had said, you know, it's a great question. How do we fix it?

And I was like, I don't know, it's gonna have to something that we do has to change the hearts of our children. So that this is different in 50 years, and I've asked that of other people and I don't know what that answer is. Except for to just talk about it in its own, they are very uncomfortable conversations with with a nine year old, in this case, my five year olds a little bit young for that, but you just being honest that this is this exists, and it's not okay.

Kathy 24:19

So yeah, and I would say even with your five year old, there are age appropriate ways to have the conversation. And I wonder if that's part of it. Is that why things have not gone further is that we have kind of made conversations about race and injustice. Level 300 conversations that wait until patterns are way established, and values are already established and have been in practice for too long. And then at that point, we can have conversations and we can come to some sort of agreement. But it's all at an intellectual level. It's really not at a heart level, it's not at a level in which we're making active decisions that are different. And my kids are older, so my kids are 22, almost 19 and 16. And we continue to have those conversations…what it looks like to be able to just even yesterday, for example, we drove down to the University of Illinois, Champaign Urbana to drop off our youngest at camp.

He's at camp for track, throwing discus and shotput and, you know, even in the process of signing him up for that we had the conversation like look, this camp costs a couple hundred dollars we need to know all you need to know as a family. This is something that we have prioritized. But it also means that you have access to this and not every child has access to this and you need to be aware and look and pay attention when you go to camp.

Who are the kids who are at camp with you? Where do they go to school? How far have they traveled? You know, how about your coaches? How about the college students who are going to be your coaches during the week? Where are they from? Where did they go to high school? How did they get into track? You know, ask the questions. And those are the conversations that we've had all along in helping our kids understand that talking about differences is a good thing. And I wonder, at some level, why we haven't come as far as we'd like to think we should have or could have is that at least what I hear a lot in the church.

And this goes back to your question about the cost is that I'm often told, if I point out the division, I am being divisive. And I think that we have translated that into, if we talk about race, then you're racist. If we talk about differences, then we're focusing on the wrong things. And to all of that, I would say, Oh, no, no, no, no. We have it the wrong way. We do need to talk about the differences. I think that that's part of the beauty of how God's created us is that we are different and how can we learn appreciate that if we don't actually know how to define and distinguish what those differences are. And we are so quick to say, oh, but you know, at the end of the day, we're all humans; which I don't think people actually believe.

I really don't think that we would treat each other this way. If at the core, we believed we all were created in God's image. And so we don't know how to talk about that, because we don't know how to talk about how we're all created in God's image when we are so different. When we speak different languages. We come from different places. We may not even believe in the same things, we treat each other horribly, horribly.

Seth 28:48

Yeah, by default. Which is that's a different that's a different podcast episode altogether. But But yeah, I agree. Either. We all bear the image of Christ or none of us do. And the problem is we treat each other like none of us do unless you're in my tribe. Unless you look like me. You go to my church or we're on the same baseball team or whatever, but for the most part 97% of the time we act like no one else except me. bears the image of Christ or the image of God.

Seth 30:00

There a big theme through your book. And I like it because I don't read the book of Esther. Really ever. And that's probably my fault. And I'm going to rectify that. And Matter of fact, I have since reading your book rectified that I found there's pieces of the Old Testament that I avoided. And I think that was because I didn't want to hear what was in it. Like texts like Amos talking about, you know, when we when we worship, you're doing it like you don't treat God and worship like a whore. And I'm like, I don't like your songs. You're dead. And I don't I didn't want to hear that. I've said and learn to hear that. And it's somehow changed the way I worship. But I like the way that you interweave Esther through. And I was hoping that you could talk a bit about that, like how does Esther as we read through that as Western evangelical Christians or as any other version of any other religion. This is a fairly large audience that listens, how as we read the book of Esther, can that help us inform who we are and how we should act when we're trying to draw that line of I'm going to embrace who I am, but I'm also called to be something foreign? You know, as I bear the image of Christ, and I'm trying to, to be like Jesus, like how do we share or we ride that line?

Kathy 31:24

Yeah. Well, you know, Esther is one of those books I grew up with in Sunday school, and even my Sunday school experience kind of ties in with this is that I never took a hard look at Esther until I was probably in my late 20s, early 30s. Because the way Esther was taught was, you know, she won a beauty pageant and became queen and saved her people. Yay!!! She did it and she was awesome and it's Queen Esther! And for those of us that are old enough who listened to the podcast you know, the felt board you know a little paper felt board stories that's what I remember about Esther and Esther was white and see when a beauty pageant and it was great.

And, even with that type of storytelling, I could not relate to Esther because people like me don't win beauty pageants. We don't win Miss America we are not you know, we're just not in that space and then the idea of becoming queen is ridiculous because, you know, I was not able to watch the most recent Royal Wedding because I was traveling but I did pay attention on social media. I must confess I have this strange fascination with royal weddings. And maybe I'll just blame You know, Sunday school and Queen Esther on that. But this idea of, you know, going from commoner, to becoming royal is so bizarre and yet that actually is the story of us.

Right we are created in God's image but we’re taught when we become Christians we are part of God's special family. But with Esther the more I learned about Esther and heard different women of color preach on Esther. I took a deep dive and I think that particularly white American Christians should hesitate to think of themselves as Esther.

Esther is a Jewish woman growing up in exile in Persia. And when I say woman, I say that loosely because she's probably a teenager. And when I realized that she had another name and that she hid her Jewishness, I thought, “Oh my gosh, that's me”. That's how I grew up. Because my name isn't Kathy is actually KyounghAh. That's my Korean given name. And I don't use that name because well, because when we immigrated, my parents figured that no one was going to bother learning how to pronounce that so they gave me Kathy. And as I grew up, it wasn't because my parents told me to hide my Korean culture. It was because I was ashamed of my culture and white, US, culture tells me that in order to succeed as an American, we say that America is a melting pot, right? So you assimilate, and you lose any distinctive characteristics you have and you just kind of melt and become one.

And that means you lose the uniqueness of who you are and what you bring and your culture and the things that are different. And so the story of Esther I think, is an important one, one because I think it begs the question whether or not that narrative of the melting pot is really what we want in our church, or in the church capital “C”. And what it means for Esther to wrestle with That moment when she recognizes her people are in danger of genocide. And will she be who she's pretended not to be for more than a year? And the other part in Esther that just floors me every time is that idea of language and how the edict to destroy the Jews is written in every language in every dialect so that everybody understands what is going to happen to them and what is going to happen, what's being allowed.

And that idea of a heart language, being able to understand what's happening to you, is written in your heart language and is communicating your own destruction. And I don't think I write this in the book. But I've also wrestled with that in recent times is how have we translated the gospel into something that tells people that your culture has to die; and you're no longer allowed to sing the songs you love to sing, as we talked about, and singing a language that you love to sing, to read Scripture in the language that you love, to be who you are fully in church. That somehow we're supposed to all sing the same way and love the same songs and pray the same prayer in the one language that is allowed in our church.

And so I hear a lot people kind of wanting to imagine them cells as either Esther or Mordecai you know as the one who kind of gives the challenge to Esther you know,

for who knows for such a time as this that you have come into royal position

and imagining ourselves as Esther but here in the US I think more of us are probably not Esther or Mordecai.

Seth 38:29

So who are we then?

Kathy 38:31

I think sometimes we are more like Haman and Haman’s wife and friends. And I tread carefully on this because I don't want this turned around to tell people who speak out against racial injustice, that they are Haman and that they are offended at every little thing. That is not what I am saying. What I am saying is that I think particularly as Christians, we are too easily offended at people whether or not they're in or outside of the church because we have also drawn those lines pretty clearly, that we are too offended by the questioning of whether or not we are living out the Gospel. And our undies get all in a bunch. And then we yell and scream and say, and point fingers at those social justice warriors, they do not have the gospel, blah! And so we become like Haman. And we become like his friends and his wife who say, yeah, let's get rid of them. You know, let's, let's kick them out. Let's destroy them! Because that's not of us. You know, and I have said this to a lot of my white friends, if the worst thing that could happen to you is that you are called racist, if that's the worst thing that can happen, why are you so afraid?

Seth 40:16

That's a good question. I agree with that question, wholeheartedly.

Kathy 40:19

Right. And, yeah, yeah. And and so I think that's part of it is that I look at Esther and I go, "Wow, Haman got a little carried away with the little power that he had, and took advantage of it because one person did not bow. One person didn't bow.

So it wasn't enough to ruin Mordecai. He took it way beyond and said, You know what, I'm just gonna kill him off all the Jews. And so I think, honestly, going again, back to that question of how have we not come so far? I look at Esther and I think, Oh, I think maybe we need to look at Haman and see what he's done; and see what he does. And maybe think about how the church has taken offense at people we would say, are outsiders, saying you don't live the way Jesus lived.

And instead of listening to that, we listened to, you know, we listen to the people we listened to, and say, Oh, we need to keep those people out! We need to do all sorts of crazy things. Because we don't want to hear that. We don't want to question whether or not it's a good idea to have anybody bow to us. And, then for me again, you know, circling back to Esther is that sense of like, for how long did I just kind of, for survival, pretend I wasn't who I am? Because it's, it is a matter of survival It is a matter of there's a cost to pay when you speak up and you become who God has created you to be. And Esther was no dummy. She knew it, she went to the king and he didn't recognize her. She would die. You know, I'll be honest, you know, I say I would die for Christ. But I don't want to.

Seth 42:50

Laughter both

Kathy 42:53

But, you know, but I'm being honest. And I say that because I don't really want to suffer. I don't. I know that's what I signed up for, but if I'm being perfectly honest, that's not the life I want to choose. And, and I think too easily we say, yeah, that's what I would do. And I think, you know, I….I…I'm with Esther, I would say, you know, Mordecai, I don't want to die.

Seth 43:29

So when I hear you say all that. I find it odd that that the version of church that we, in this country, practice most often is that it's very, it's very, you're going to do it this way. We're going to sing this songs. We're only going to sing verses one and three, because we don't like the words in four.

Kathy 43:51

YES!!!!

Seth 43:53

And if you think about the way that Jesus ministered, he didn't do that. That's literally what the Pharisees and scientists were doing. You're not allowed to come here, don't touch him. You're not allowed to stay over there, stay in your lane. Be quiet, you know that you're not allowed to be here.

Kathy 44:07

Yes!

Seth 44:08

And then when Paul and when all the other disciples go out, you know, I mean Peter was basically told you can go to the Gentiles now they are not Jews and George still gonna be right with me, you're not gonna get tainted in some bad way because they do it differently than you.

And I almost hear him saying, if I tried to put myself in that minds-eye I have I made them to worship the way that I made them to worship and it's not your job to redo that. Your job is to tell them where I'm at so that they can direct their worship appropriately.

Kathy 44:46

Yes, yeah.

Seth 44:47

I am curious. So there was a concept in your book called “Midwestern nice”. And so when you talk to a minute ago about you know, evangelicals getting their undies in a bunch is that an example of that?

Kathy 45:00

(laughter) Yeah, yeah, well, you know, it's an example in multiple ways because that's not actually how I speak. I wouldn't necessarily say undies in a bunch because that's probably as much as I could get away with in church. And, and it is…it's very passive aggressive, like being polite and smiling. Or maybe like you might be smiling but you also might be scowling. I can't tell. And it's and it yes, so that's what Midwestern nice is about. And I say that as a Midwestern girl having lived my entire life in the Midwest and minus the eight months in Seoul, Korea. And, this sense of like, I think they like me or maybe they don't; but they weren't outright mean to me and and that's almost worse.

Seth 46:08

Yeah. Well and and growing up in Southwest Texas that as I was read you as a gosh as I read your words about that type of mentality, it reminded me of, you know, a group of people getting together and basically they want to gossip or talk badly about someone so what we'll say first is, “bless their heart, Lord love them but” and now I'm allowed to say whatever I want to say because bless their heart…

Kathy 46:36

Exactly.

Seth 46:38

So in closing as we're coming into the end of our time, so as people are listening to this and as people whether or not they think they are I feel like every time we post something on social media, or every time we say something out loud, we are in some way, shape or form speaking up, whether or not we realize it and which is really scary again, when we think about kids that we are subconsciously modeling the way that we should handle people different than us, which is a very, there's no instruction manual. And that should be on page one, when you're given this child and a birth certificate that should be, you know, we check your manual that you initial that you read that.

And then we check that you have a car seat before you're allowed to leave. And now go and be whatever you're going to be. So in closing, what would you have us think of so what should be our practice and our rhythms? As we find ourselves having an elevated aggression towards an idea or being moved to say something, whether or not it's currently in the culture? You know, what should we do before we do that? How should we sit with that? While we're either typing it or saying it out loud? And then should we let it breathe? Should we just continue to yell into the void and what do we do after?

Kathy 48:00

I pray, before I do anything, I pray. And then while I'm doing it, I'm praying and after I hit send or post, or whatever it is on whatever platform it is in social media, I pray, I pray before I choose to say something in person. And I pray during and I pray after. I think there are lots of you know, real practical things that we can and should be doing. I think in a world where we are connected 24 seven, we should be disconnecting, we should be turning off our phones, we should leave them at home, we should do all of those things. And, but on a…on a very kind of practical, normal level for those who are listening and are Christian. I would say, this is as much about your relationship with God and your discipline and practice of prayer than anything that I when people interact with me it is often first online. And I get asked, you know, how do you decide how do you and I think the impression if you see people online, it's that they are just going gangbusters because they saw something and two seconds later, they are responding. And what you don't see at least for me is that I've been praying. And I know deeply the things that are important that I'm passionate about what God has invited me to, and that is what I'm responding to and that there are many the other things that I'm not posting about that I'm not reacting to. And so I want to encourage people to just take a breath. Take a breath that your prayer doesn't have to be the bless their hearts and a massive gossip session. Also known as prayer time.

Seth 50:22

Out loud, I have an “unspoken prayer about Kathy”

Kathy 50:27

Yes, yes, yes.

We did we go to the same church?

Seth 50:32

Probably.

Kathy 50:37

Is that is that if you see something, you hear something. Take a minute and think about and pray about what is it you're feeling? Why are you feeling that? What else is happening in your heart, in your body in your mind? What is the first knee jerk reaction that you've had? Don't do that. Pray even in that split second and then discern what it is that you should be doing. Because like I said, not everyone is created to be the kind of activist on the street. And not everyone is created to be a preacher or teacher.

So it's important to kind of know what your lane is. And you're not going to know your lane, obviously, unless you experiment and you test things out and you fail miserably and pick yourself up and have a conversation with God. But in all of that, what I've written in the book as well is you pray. Because this isn't about the history books. It really isn't. This is about what is God inviting the church into during this time, and all of the different parts of the beloved church. And I cannot believe that the invitation is to hide in fear and to build walls that separate us and them. And so how will we know? We need to pray? We need to, we need to be in Scripture. We need to be discerning. And then you do it. And then you do it.

Seth 52:37

Yeah. And that's the hard part right there, the doing part. Because you have to, you have to let go of pride to do so. And nobody likes to do that. Kathy, by the time this releases, the book will have been out probably the week prior. And so that is on sell everywhere, correct? Barnes and Noble, Books a Million, Amazon everywhere. So wherever Would you direct people? How can they best? You know, get a hold of a copy of your book? And how would you have them engage with you? Where would you Where would you direct them to?

Kathy 53:07

Sure, I would say if you have a local bookseller, a local bookstore, go there and support your local shop and ask them to order it for you ask them to stock it. And if not, you know go to one of those big boxes or go online and you can find the book and then where you can engage with me I am all over. My blog is KathyKhang.com and I will be more active there. Once the book launch and then I'm also on Twitter and Instagram. And my handle there is @MsKathyKhang and then I'm also on Facebook.

So I'm in all of those places and I love to engage with you leaders and people on those platforms and, and then hopefully, I'll be in physical spaces. We have yet to determine any of those. But hopefully I'll be in physical spaces in the months to come and would love to interact with people face to face.

Seth 54:17

If I could. I would like to lobby for the Charlottesville area of Virginia.

Kathy 54:22

Yes, yes. And if you know of a church or an organization that would invite me that would be fabulous.

Seth 54:28

I know a few I'll email on today. Yeah, I'm sad. I I had the I missed seeing Diana Butler bass. It was like on the same weekend as one of my kids birthdays. And I'm like, She's like, you should come see me. I would love it was like the weekend after I spoke with her. I was like, man, well, I can't cuz baby girls turn in a birthday, but that's okay. So I was gonna I was gonna lose way too many dad points. Yeah and then, I don't often say this, but I usually don't know but You have for those that that travel often and I know many of you listen to this podcast or other books while you drive.

Kathy has recorded her own voice to her own words for the audio version of the book correct, which I assume is that audible and I don't know where else those type of books are lost. But I will say some of the best books that I've found to listen to are not read by actors, because they don't know the emotion and the the reason behind the words. And so if you're one that listens to books, as opposed to reading them, get that version that I find those are sometimes they're better, I don't know why, you can't take notes because you're driving, but sometimes hearing you say your own words is powerful. So right, Kathy, thank you again. I appreciate you coming on.

Kathy 55:51

Thank you so much, Seth.

Seth Outro 56:16

So what are we called to do? What do we do with this?

You've listened for the last 30 to 40 minutes. You hear some of the pitfalls, you know some of the pitfalls as to why. And we also know what it looks like and sounds right to do it, right, because those are the things that get heard. Either the really, really hateful one to the ones that are done right, and there's something deep down inside us when we raise our voice. There is something pure and holy when we are able to do it, right. Something that resonates at a level that is beyond us something true. And I think if we can engage in it in prayer, as Kathy said, when we speak, we pray Before we speak, we pray. As we speak, we pray and then we let it rest. And while we let it rest, we pray. I hope and I pray that we can learn how to do that myself included.

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